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My mom doubts I have this, even though I've been diagnosed with it... (pg. 4)
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| Kamikaze Badger |
| Strange though, that what I listed dosn't apply to anyone else I know... |
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| Spyder |
ya i had the same problem with my mom when she wouldnt belive me, docs, and councelers when they said i had a head problem
she was too proud and wouldnt belive that i could be un normal.. or diffrent
finaly after 20 years she finaly adabts to the little things she didnt pay any atttention too when i was a kid. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Kamikaze Badger
Listen, I don't even like to get out and socialize with people. I prefer to be alone most of the time. I'm already pretty much isolated from the social world(unless you count the internet as a social world). DJing wouldn't make it worse at all. |
Have you read what Vlad and I wrote?
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
You still should join the soccer team or something similar. Even if you want to do something related to music, you shouldn't choose something so lonely as DJ'ing/producing music (whereas you can DJ solo and produce everything yourself, in a rock band, for example, you would need to deal every minute with other people in order to play something). |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vlad
Also, being in a band will help you interact with other people and eventually you will have to get on stage and perform. You know what, band, do ANYTHING that involves team work, not just soccer, but ANY sport. Im sorry, but I think with the 'condition' you might have and your age, DJing might not be in your best interest... at the age of 13 and having a social problem THE LAST thing you should do is lock yourself in your room being a bedroom DJ.
Atleast the majority of us that do spend alot of time DJing, are old enough to go out and enjoy ourselves and clubs and what not. But you cant even do that, your 5 years away, which is a while to be locked up. |
DJ'ing will make things worse, as you'll keep yourself locked in your own world.
It's blatantly obvious that you don't like to socialise... the list you gave us is a clear sign that it must be hard as hell for you to do this sort of stuff: DJ'ing would just keep you from doing this sort of stuff as you would be behind the turntables around machines and records. |
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| aspergian |
Asperger's is NOT a sickness. It is not cancer.
We aren't even exactly sure what it is since autism is a spectrum and each person will exhibit traits differently. Neurobiology studies continue, and I'm convinced that just like humans have different body types, the knowledge of neurodiversity will become more common in the future.
(If anyone wants to discuss Asperger's more, you are more than welcome to on Aspergia.com :) )
It is certainly not make-believe either (although some people may be falsely diagnosed with it for sure).
Each individual is a unique human being.
If you have genuine concerns which have manifested themselves time after time for a period of years, chances are something's up, so don't let ANYONE dismiss them. You should know yourself best.
It is good to socialize. Humans are naturally gregarious. It's good to have friends, and to be friendly.
If you are really concerned, I recommend seeking out the advice of a qualified medical professional, like a psychologist.
Otherwise if you believe you have problems, it's best to ask yourself: what can I do about them? And go from there.
Best of hope, Kamikaze Badger. |
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| Kamikaze Badger |
So you're saying that I should do something I hate to do and can't even do so I can do something I've wanted to do for months?
Sounds like a good plan. My step dad says that if my mental state get's a little more stable, he'll get me a sword. So what you guys are saying kind of makes sense. I'll do my best to try. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Kamikaze Badger
So you're saying that I should do something I hate to do and can't even do so I can do something I've wanted to do for months? |
Yes if this thing you "want to do" will just get your social skills worse... I guess we're telling you this from page one. |
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| davinox |
hey man, this is me being serious for once.
humans are social creatures. unless you destroy your ego somehow, like via buddhist methods, you're most likely going to be sad and out of place. its ok to be shy, its ok to not be cool, its ok to not have a lot of friends, but at least go out in the world and have some friends. trust me.
dont hold onto crazy fantasies in your bedroom. your only 13. i promise you, what you'll want to do for the rest of your life will change 8 times. just go out into life, live the day to day, and your life will come to you. planning it in solitude will get you no where. |
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| Azz3D |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sirocco
shut the up |
he is right you know |
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| Vlad |
Kami, were not trying to tell you how to live your life, but were trying to help you cope with you problems. Keeping youself locked up in your room will only make your condition get worse. As a 13 year old, you need to get out and meet people...
Its not like what you have cant be cured, but its the motivation you give yourself to cure it. Your problems are mostly psychological and can be fixed if you try to fix them. In the next school year, your goal should be to try to meet as many people as you can... the most easiest will be people in your class.
You dont want to deal with this when you get older because it will just be baggage that makes you lag behind everyone else. What are you gonna do when you do become old enough to go to clubs... just sit in a corner with your hands folded? Come on!
You need to make it a PRIORITY to get out of the house and participate in things that other kids do. Go to the park and play basketball or football. Even if your not that good, you will get better the more you play. Just go there, walk up to someone, and ask them if you can play with them... its not hard, you just need to be motivated to get over your social problem. |
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| Kamikaze Badger |
| I live out in the country, and there is NOTHING in town to do. And also, I just can't stand being in a social enviornment. I'm fine being by myself. Trying to socialize with people is what got me to cut my wrists. I just couldn't interact with people, and they were giving me a bunch of . |
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| Echo of Silence |
| quote: | Originally posted by Kamikaze Badger
I live out in the country, and there is NOTHING in town to do. And also, I just can't stand being in a social enviornment. I'm fine being by myself. Trying to socialize with people is what got me to cut my wrists. I just couldn't interact with people, and they were giving me a bunch of . |
This probably isn't the best place to ask about Aspergers Disorder. I mean really, how much does the average person know and how many will look further than the link you provided (not a lot of info there) to understand what you are talking about?
I suggest you do a lot of research on your own and seriously, check out the boards at aspergia.com (aspergian's post).
Everyone carries their own baggage. How they proceed forward with that baggage is all that matters. |
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| Vlad |
| What could they possibly give you about to the point where you would slit your wrists? Ive had my closest friends backstab me and treat me like I was disposable. Not everyone you meet will be your best friend, but unless you try to be friends with people, no one will want to be your friend. |
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