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| Slylee |
I bought a new bed a while ago, because I was moving out of my mom’s place, and in w/ a girlfriend at the time. I only spent like $350 on it...it’s not like this great bed, but still, it’s brand new. To make a long story short, I was always just staying at my bf’s place and I was basically flushing rent money down the toilet, so we decided to move in with each other. That girlfriend of mine eventually moved out and let her friend (she didn’t speak very highly of this friend) take over the lease. The friend (Laura) has a boyfriend and a kid and they are now staying in the apartment. The baby is like a few months old.
So anyway, she needs the bed (it’s the only bed they have to sleep on) and so I told her she can have it for $250. Well that was like a month ago, and I finally went over there the other day to get the rest of my stuff (she finally returned my phone call), and the place looked like a hole. They are moving out soon because they can’t afford it there. I can tell they are really struggling and they don’t have the money for the bed. I decided I wasn’t gonna bug her any more for the money after I left, but then she called me last night and left me a voice mail saying she has the money for it. She’s kinda ghetto too, because when I was talking to her for the first time a while back, she was saying something about how someone was in jail or something (I wasn’t really paying attention) and that she would have the money soon.
I don’t know why, but I feel guilty taking the money from them. I guess because they have a baby to take care of. What would you do? |
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| UWM |
| They decided to take on the responsibility of paying the rent at a location that apparently they couldn't afford and also had an agreement with you to pay you for the bed. I would probably take the money, it's not your fault they got in over their heads. |
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| Slylee |
| Yea, they also decided to have a baby too...my boyfriend has the same attitude as you. He says it’s not my problem and that I paid for the bed with my hard earned money and I shouldn’t just give it away. I still feel bad though. I was thinking of just going there tonight and telling her to just give me $100 and we’ll call it even. |
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| ShadoWolf |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
I was thinking of just going there tonight and telling her to just give me $100 and we’ll call it even. |
I was just about to suggest that. It's a low price for her and it compensates you (doesn't leave you high and dry.....well maybe high).
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| OrZonE |
| quote: | Originally posted by ShadoWolf
I was just about to suggest that. It's a low price for her and it compensates you (doesn't leave you high and dry.....well maybe high).
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Yep, win/win. You won't feel guilty and she will feel thankful :) |
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| Echo of Silence |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
Yea, they also decided to have a baby too...my boyfriend has the same attitude as you. He says it’s not my problem and that I paid for the bed with my hard earned money and I shouldn’t just give it away. I still feel bad though. I was thinking of just going there tonight and telling her to just give me $100 and we’ll call it even. |
That's really thoughtful of you, Slylee. :) |
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| Floorfiller |
| is this girl your friend? if she's a good friend of yours...cut yer losses and take a hundred. on the otherhand...if you don't really know her that well...just stick to the already agreed upon amount. you spent a lot of money on it and from the sound of it...it hasn't really been used so... |
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
Yea, they also decided to have a baby too...my boyfriend has the same attitude as you. He says it’s not my problem and that I paid for the bed with my hard earned money and I shouldn’t just give it away. I still feel bad though. I was thinking of just going there tonight and telling her to just give me $100 and we’ll call it even. |
I would probably do the same thing so it sounds like a good idea. That way she still feels like she is giving you some money and you won't feel like you are putting them out. I do agree that it isn't your fault that they got in over their head, but if more people were willing to bend a little life sometimes would be a hell of a lot easier to deal with at times. ;) |
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| tranceaholic |
| she might find it as an insult, if u dont take her money and just take a 100 wouldnt she. |
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| butterfly |
| take the money. dont cheat yourself. |
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| starglider |
| quote: | Originally posted by tranceaholic
she might find it as an insult, if u dont take her money and just take a 100 wouldnt she. |
Yeah, if you go that route be careful how you do it. If you want to, suggest casually when you go over there that you don't need the bed anyway and only need $100 for it. If she insists on paying the full $250, don't ask again and accept the money.
Of course, if you need/want the money, it is yours and I'm sure she is aware of this also. |
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