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| licutieny |
| looking for advice guys! i recently broke up with my ex. like two weeks ago. The guy I wad hangingout with before him got back in touch with me and i want to hang out iwth him but am still kinda thinking about my ex. What do i do? Should i hang out with him though im thinking about someone else? Guys do it all the time is it unacceptable if girl does it? |
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| BitchBoyNYC |
Hey Tina. I don't mean to come of rude or sound snobby, but these are the kinds of threads that people are complaining about. If we had an active mod, the mod would come in and just completely delete this post. You're new here so you're still in the process of learning the ropes, but we're all gonna try to keep certain kinds of posts down to a null. We'll all help and guide you along to learn the ropes.:) :D ;)
But to answer the question, my advice is to do what your heart is telling you to do. If your brain is thinking of the guy that just contacted you and your heart is thinking of your ex, follow your heart, it will lead you in the right direction.;) You were involved in a pretty serious relationship, perhaps 2 weeks isn't enough time to allow it all to set in;)
just my $.02 |
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| Bloodflower |
well, u should kinda use this guy to get over ur ex.
but dont just use him n throw him away, more try to have a good time with him. and tell him the truth, that u still think about ur ex from time to time and that u need some time... time that u would like to spend with HIM ! :) |
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| bubbleravegirl |
| quote: | Originally posted by licutieny
looking for advice guys! i recently broke up with my ex. like two weeks ago. The guy I wad hanging out with before him got back in touch with me and i want to hang out iwth him but am still kinda thinking about my ex. What do i do? Should i hang out with him though im thinking about someone else? Guys do it all the time is it unacceptable if girl does it? |
well it depends...how did it end? if ur the one that broke it off then yeah he mite really still b feelin ya. these rebounds are tricky. ive had many turn into relationships that i realized that i didnt want...later. but hey if u both are just hanging out then ish koo -- do whatever makes u and ur life more interesting :) ur right, guys do this all the time, allow urself to have a lil fun n live in da present :)
as for these types of posts...welps i guess they belong in the COR? :conf: :conf: im still tryin' to learn the ropes toO...
<3LySs |
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| kid nyce |
if u need a rebound i need a rebound too so life would be all good right HAHAH...my thoughts, dont start anything serious if you aren't ready to be. serious as in any relationship, but if you are hanging out with him knowingly that you dont want a relationship from him then thats not a fair/wise decision on your part. you'll start thinking about him while your with the new guy, thats misleading and wrong. but if your looking for a rebound, i'd suggest you should say to anyone that you just got out of a relationship and you aren't looking for anything like that...
if you want to be serious and have a stable relationship with the new guy then you need some time by yourself to mentally prepare yourself to be with the new guy...not like 2 days or anything haha
or you can take all that attached emotion and go to that guy and just have some crazy sex...just becareful you aint screaming out the wrong name...LOLS...not saying that from experience =T |
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| AndrewBlizz |
| quote: | Originally posted by BitchBoyNYC
Hey Tina. I don't mean to come of rude or sound snobby, but these are the kinds of threads that people are complaining about. If we had an active mod, the mod would come in and just completely delete this post. You're new here so you're still in the process of learning the ropes, but we're all gonna try to keep certain kinds of posts down to a null. We'll all help and guide you along to learn the ropes.:) :D ;)
But to answer the question, my advice is to do what your heart is telling you to do. If your brain is thinking of the guy that just contacted you and your heart is thinking of your ex, follow your heart, it will lead you in the right direction.;) You were involved in a pretty serious relationship, perhaps 2 weeks isn't enough time to allow it all to set in;)
just my $.02 |
Too be honest, I don't know whats wrong with you people, but why does it matter if people post things that are not related to trance in the NYC, and other regions..doesn't it get boring after awhile? I mean give her a break..damn
It's refreshing to see different kinds of posts after awhile that are non-related to trance..and as far as conduct is involved maybe some of you were "disgusted" by the sex threads..but by seeing half of the replies, I would have to say that percentage is very minimal..So if you guys wanna cut down on posts, then how about you stray away from lude topics...but a girl asking about a guy..now why cant she post that? |
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| EyesOfExtasy |
Aww sweety :) Well in my opinion now is not a good time to start hanging out with other guys that you may be interested in. Now is a time to hang with the girls and see what you really want for yourself.
You are single, go out have some fun with the girls and try to take your mind off things a bit. After a couple of weeks collect your thoughts and decide if you are truly ready to let go. |
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| bubbleravegirl |
| quote: | Originally posted by AndrewBlizz
Too be honest, I don't know whats wrong with you people, but why does it matter if people post things that are not related to trance in the NYC, and other regions..doesn't it get boring after awhile? I mean give her a break..damn
It's refreshing to see different kinds of posts after awhile that are non-related to trance..and as far as conduct is involved maybe some of you were "disgusted" by the sex threads..but by seeing half of the replies, I would have to say that percentage is very minimal..So if you guys wanna cut down on posts, then how about you stray away from lude topics...but a girl asking about a guy..now why cant she post that? |
wellz i would agree with u, but given that we just had a heavy debate on this in the "save NYTA thread" -- well we are just trying to moderate ourselves, thats all. yeah truthfully it does feel a bit confining since this is a msg board but its a small sacrifice to keep everyone happy...and there IS the COR so all non-trance-related posts can go there.
btw i had NO problem whatsoever wid the sex threads...in fact i posted quite a bit on that HAH :D :D that was rather a pretty interesting day. hmm btw how often do ppl scream out the wrong name? now im curious lols. just call everyone by a generic "term of endearment" and that'll be ALL good.
<3LySs |
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| BitchBoyNYC |
| quote: | Originally posted by AndrewBlizz
Too be honest, I don't know whats wrong with you people, but why does it matter if people post things that are not related to trance in the NYC, and other regions..doesn't it get boring after awhile? I mean give her a break..damn
It's refreshing to see different kinds of posts after awhile that are non-related to trance..and as far as conduct is involved maybe some of you were "disgusted" by the sex threads..but by seeing half of the replies, I would have to say that percentage is very minimal..So if you guys wanna cut down on posts, then how about you stray away from lude topics...but a girl asking about a guy..now why cant she post that? |
whatever. if you were reading at all yesterday, you'll see that a thread that I posted was mentioned in the whole NYTA thing going downhill. believe me, i have no problem with anything being posted. other people do. we all seemed to agree yesterday that we were going to try to monitor this stuff ourselves and keep it down. I'm just standing by what we all agreed to do:) |
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| politicsofdancin |
hey tina..sorry to hear about your breakup. hang in there girl. i recently just broke up with my ex too and it's been really hard for me. my suggestion would be, like eyesofecstasy was saying...just give yourself some time on your own. try to get that "independency" back. hang out with the girls as much as possible. trust me, it helps alot. if you get to talk to guys while you are out or what not, don't avoid them. talk to them!! it will help you realize that you still got it. but jumping into one relationship to another is just not a good idea. you are not giving yourself sometime! time is very crucial here!!! you need time to reflect on things..i.e what happened in the relationship? etc etc. now that i realize it for myself, but my problem is a whole different story. if your heart tells you that you still love your ex, and i'am sure it does..then don't go hurt someone else's feelings just so you can get back on your ex by being with someone else. thats just not how it works..if you do it the right way. BE BY YOURSELF FOR A LIL BIT.. then when YOU are ready to MOVE ON..then thats when you know you are ready to open up to someone again...but that will take some TIME!!!! good luck huney...if you do need to talk...pm me or aim..
cheers
indy |
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| Busy Child |
| girl, do whatever you wanna do. The world is big, millions of ppl to meet. . . .no need to live ur life worryin about an ex. Time to move on and do what u wanna do. |
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| DanAX |
My suggestion is,
"F*ck the past, screw the present, worry about the future"
Courtesy of Dan |
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