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| Ocean-Glow |
No its not one of them enoying noob gf trouble threads guys dont worry lol.
Was just wondering , whats your thought with this.
My current gf and i are goin awsome and all but sometimes i think about the past and not so much does it makes me jealous or pisses me off maybe puts me down,, but same time i perfectly know that whats in the past should stay there and it shouldn't matter a single bit.
I slept with my ex b4, she slept with her ex b4 etc, its how human nature works,,anyways,,,, and now were together and its all that should matter, just weird thoughts of me imagining her with her ex b4 etc makes me feel crap, back to the same logic i know that it don't matter now and i should councentrate on present..
Ahh weird,, any thoughts or ideas to why this may be happening?
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| insecurity |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ocean-Glow
Ahh weird,, any thoughts or ideas to why this may be happening? |
Happens to everyone. The past is the only counter that we look upon.
We usually take the present for granted & never look to the future because it's unknown.
Stay single, it's easier
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| nekholm |
I know the feeling. It's quite common I guess. It's not fun to know that your gf has slept with tons of guys, espescially if you haven't done it more than a couple of times, or maybe none at all. My ex for example, dunno how many she had slept with before me, but I know that she lost her virginity at age 15 to a guy that was 40+ ( :nervous: ). And I heard it from a friend. My ex told me that she was with him a month or so, and thought that he was 25, and when she found out how old he really was, she left him before something happened.. Things like that are not fun to know.
Fortunately my current gf was a virgin until she met me ;) And.. I was one too. But it feels better to know that she's as unexperienced as you. That way you don't have to be nervous, and wonder if you're as good as her ex's.
So, if you don't want to have weird thoughts about your ex's past, just get yourself a virgin :D Although that's probably easier said than done, since so many (at least girls) loose their virginities at very young ages.. |
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| DJAntSmith |
Its natural mate. You want her all to yourself. You don't want to feel like you've shared her etc. It's just plain jealousy. We all get it. But sooner or later that'll fade. And if things don't work out with your current g/f then it puts you in good stead for next time round.
I know it feels like sometimes, especially if you ever see the ex or whatever. or if he texts her, or rings her for something and so on. But you just have to accept it. Also a good thing to try is being honest. Just say to her, (in a general conversation type of way) about how it feels when an ex is mentioned or if you think about it. That way you can say a few things that you might need to get off your chest. Just make sure you don't go causing an argument or say anything you'll regret. Think about what you want to say. Don't go calling her a whore or anything. ;) |
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| Slylee |
| Funny how we love to torture ourselves. I think everyone goes through it, but you really need to learn to train yourself not to, or to just make it stop when you catch yourself thinking about those thoughts. I’ve learned through experience that in order to avoid that kind of unnecessary stress, you really need to not talk about the past at all with your current partner. there is really no need for it, unless you feel that your health is at risk (like if she has an STD). It only causes problems. The past is the past. Focus on now and the future. It’s just insecurity that’s all. You’ll grow out of it. |
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| tranceaholic |
| my ex was absolutely stunning inside n out..she competed in beauty pagents , modeled and had a face i was addicted to also she was very sweet n kind made me melt and so she set the bar really high for anyone who comes after her..makes it hard sometimes when u r dating in someone and they r not at the level u once had |
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