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Do Women Test Us??? (pg. 7)
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| Trancer85 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
every girl is different, but for me, it is really a turn off when a guy has that attitude like, “whatever, if she wants to get to know me, she can come to me”. I guess I’m old fashioned. Don't get me wrong though, I have no problem striking up a conversation with a guy and talking, and dropping hints that I'm interested (without throwing myself at him).
guys, it is a MAJORLY OBVIOUS sign if a girl initiates a conversation and is talkative with you and smiles a lot while talking...it’s like, “HELLO! ASK FOR MY NUMBER”! do we have to stamp it on our foreheads for you guys to feel confident enough to make a move?
I just feel like guys have less confidence these days when it comes to approaching girls...who knows, maybe it’s our fault (women) because we make it too easy for you. I just feel that men should take the initiative and ask for a girl’s phone number or ask for a date, at least the first time. Not always though, I’m just saying in general. I think overly assertive women who buy men drinks and ask them out for dinner are just setting themselves up for disappointment... I like a guy who takes charge, and has the restaurant/plans all picked out ahead of time, etc.. i can be that way too though, but that's usually only after the relationship is solid and monogamous...i love making plans and surprising my sweetie and having a whole romantic night planned out.
but as far as the first date, i think it's way better when the guy asks for the number and makes the move... |
i kinda agree with you somehow, and that is for guys to get more confidence when talking to girls.
the part i don't agree is that girls should walk up to guys too, it's not like there's a rule where us men has to do all the work. |
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| Trancer85 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Nite-Mer
I understand the planned date thing too. My mom is like you in that sense. I think those are good, but I generally like doing things at the spur of the moment. But the first few dates should be arranged by the man. Taking charge is important, or you might bore the girl. It really depends on how you meet though. If you meet and hook up, it's different than if you have been friends for a while before, or have met several times. Every situation has a different strategy, I believe.
Also, the worst thing that can happen if you ask for a girls number is that she'll say no. I've only had that happen a couple of times, when I feel as though they are vibing with me. Once was a week and a half ago with a girl I've met a bunch of times. She flirts with me too, but I found out she's seeing someone. Even if she just didn't want to give it out, it's not a big deal. There are plenty of women out there you can meet and talk to. Have confidence, try to read their body language, and move on it. |
MOMMA'S BOY!!!!!
I have to agree with you though. |
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| Slylee |
i agree with you nite-mer...about everything...it does depend on how you met and allt hat, but i did mean like the first couple of dates..it's very exciting (for me) when the night is like a surprise and it's like he's got something planned nice...makes you feel like a princess:) girls eat that up.
and like i said, i strike up convos all the time (when i'm single), and after talking a lot (good convo, good vibe, etc..) if he doesn't ask for my number before i leave then i'm like, "ok screw that". i'm not gonna make it THAT easy...i'll just take that as him not being interested enough to take it a step further.... |
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| igottaknow |
| i'm playing hard to get behind my computer @ home :p |
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| Floorfiller |
@ slylee...
see i agree with what you said. when i said just be yourself and let them come to you, i meant don't be one of those dudes that talks to every girl in the bar and is laying it on real thick...obviously looking for like a one night stand or something.
by laying back a little, joking around with people, you get girls to talk to you and as slylee said...that's a big hint. from there you can start to let them know you're interested. good tactics...
as far as the first date thing...yes again. last date i went on...i picked out a place and bla bla bla...and the chick actually told me that she was so glad that i picked something because she hates when people don't know what they are doing and just are duh...i don't know...what do you wanna do. having a plan shows a lot about the kind of person you are. we always hear from women that they like strong men, well...knowing what you're doing on a date is a reinforcement of that.
now if i can only put these ideas into practice myself hehehe :stongue: |
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| Trancer85 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
and like i said, i strike up convos all the time (when i'm single), and after talking a lot (good convo, good vibe, etc..) if he doesn't ask for my number before i leave then i'm like, "ok screw that". i'm not gonna make it THAT easy...i'll just take that as him not being interested enough to take it a step further.... |
I mean if you really like the guy, come and get it!! |
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| Slylee |
@ ff - yea for sure, and like nite-mer said, he likes to go out to have fun, and not constantly be on the prowl...i totally understand that..just gotta let it flow... i just hate when guys are so full of themselves they wait for the girl to practically fall on the floor and spread her legs...hA! ok that's a bit far fetched... lol another thing i hate is when a guy hands out a business card and says, "call me". lol yea sure buddy.....*throws card in garbage*
lol@igottaknow :D |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Trancer85
I mean if you really like the guy, come and get it!! |
both people can't have that attitude because than no one is getting anything. so hey...if you like someone, either situation, take the step. i usually take the step nowadays...i'm tired of being young and stupid and wasting golden opportunities...just ing get the number...not that big a deal. |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
@ ff - yea for sure, and like nite-mer said, he likes to go out to have fun, and not constantly be on the prowl...i totally understand that..just gotta let it flow... i just hate when guys are so full of themselves they wait for the girl to practically fall on the floor and spread her legs...hA! ok that's a bit far fetched... lol another thing i hate is when a guy hands out a business card and says, "call me". lol yea sure buddy.....*throws card in garbage*
lol@igottaknow :D |
hahahaha business card...that's hilarious. obviously he's trying to play the "i'm successful so i'm good for dinner and you will owe me sex afterwords" card. damn...i need one of those HAHAHAH:stongue: |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
i usually take the step nowadays...i'm tired of being young and stupid and wasting golden opportunities... |
like sending her roses :p :stongue: |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
like sending her roses :p :stongue: |
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:stongue: ;) |
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| Trancer85 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
hahahaha business card...that's hilarious. obviously he's trying to play the "i'm successful so i'm good for dinner and you will owe me sex afterwords" card. damn...i need one of those HAHAHAH:stongue: |
you might as well pay her for the sex... |
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