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| Vivid Boy |
I need some help on a simple question do u guys believe its wrong to have sex with a girl who has a fiancee?
i mean this girl is tight and i want to and i can but is it worth killing the marriage? shes also 6 yrs older than me =(
should I or shouldnt I?
not to mention my girl wouldnt be too happy either that is if she found out =P |
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| InsomnEac |
hmmm...a couple things:
maybe this girl shouldn't be getting married if she still wants to sleep with other people...the urge won't all of a sudden stop once she gets married.
and for you...it depends on what type of relationship you have/want to have with your gf. is it serious? or non-commital? or more of a "-friend" deal? imo cheating is one of the worst things you could do to your gf/bf. so if you want to keep a trusting relationship with your gf, i would suggest not cheating on her.
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| Vivid Boy |
k well #1 my girl and me are breaking up so like it makes no diff....
and #2 i dont think this girl has the urge to sleep with any other guy cept for me =(....like lets say her and her fiancee break up and now im dating her...I know for a fact im not staying with her forever...i can see myself dating her but not marrying her you know....so is it right to break up this marriage...or should i say it and just let it be...? too confusing...it sux to be 19 =( |
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| TranceFusion |
| Do it, 'Enjoi' it, hey after its all done you got a story to tell the grandkids :D:D:D |
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| AnotherWay83 |
heh....u know, getting with an older woman had [keyword: HAD] always been my fantasy...heheh...
but DONT do it is what i say. im no relationship expert, but just put urself in that guy's [her fiancee's] shoes for a second and see how you would feel if u caught ur gf [no, not the one u're breaking up with right now, but for the sake of discussion, lets say u had a gf u greatly loved and cared for]...enjoying w/ sum1 else....
i always believe that what goes around comes around, so my advice to u is to say no thanks...u'll find better, single women for sure man
my 2 cents
peace |
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| lMIlk |
| quote: | Originally posted by AnotherWay83
heh....u know, getting with an older woman had [keyword: HAD] always been my fantasy...heheh...
but DONT do it is what i say. im no relationship expert, but just put urself in that guy's [her fiancee's] shoes for a second and see how you would feel if u caught ur gf [no, not the one u're breaking up with right now, but for the sake of discussion, lets say u had a gf u greatly loved and cared for]...enjoying w/ sum1 else....
i always believe that what goes around comes around, so my advice to u is to say no thanks...u'll find better, single women for sure man
my 2 cents
peace |
ya don't do anything that you don't want done to you...or something like that. |
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| BLUEGIRL |
i say go for it. marriage is stupid so dont worry about breaking it up. theres like a 2/3 chance of it breaking up eventually anyway (at least i think thats the current nat'l stat).
but thats just my opinion. :toothless |
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| Thor |
Its a question of morals, I'm not one to preach, I'm a pretty nasty guy... BUT... I won't ever cheat on a girl, nor would I hook up with someone who is engaged/married...
In fact, if this situation happened to me, I would tell the guy she's getting married to! I would likely get her on tape, then expose her to him... I know that sounds harsh, but the bitch wants to do that to a guy who thinks he's madly in love with her, nasty nasty natsy....
There is no apology for that , hurting someone you supposedly care for is ed up and I won't ever do it, nor should you excuse anything of the sort yourself.
Do that guy a huge favor and tell him whats coming if he marries her...
People sure don't have any clue what Marriage means anymore :( |
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| Thor |
| quote: | Originally posted by BLUEGIRL
i say go for it. marriage is stupid so dont worry about breaking it up. theres like a 2/3 chance of it breaking up eventually anyway (at least i think thats the current nat'l stat).
but thats just my opinion. :toothless |
Thats really sad :( I'm marrying an Icelandic girl, nobody in North America takes marriage seriously anymore. How is it OK for you to cheat if others do it? I don't get it, where are you morals, your concience...
Sorry if I sound mad, but this really boils me. I mean that wanna marry a millionare show upset me so much, it still does. What the hell is good about marrying someone that you don't even know, just because he has money?!?! Its sick, sacrificing happyness, true love over some like money...
Each of us makes choices in life that effect everyone around us, if we behave a certain way just because others do, we are sheep
Do onto others as you would have them do onto you..... |
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| Lilith |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
k well #1 my girl and me are breaking up so like it makes no diff.... |
Oh, so its a rebound thing. Dont try to prove anything to anyone, least of all to yourself about your self image. If you have a poor self image theres less involved ways of dealing with that and they wont hurt anyone else.
| quote: | | and #2 i dont think this girl has the urge to sleep with any other guy cept for me =( |
Who are you trying to convince here?
Listen to what your conscience and common sense are saying!
READ BETWEEN THE LINES
| quote: | | ....like lets say her and her fiancee break up and now im dating her...I know for a fact im not staying with her forever |
A hypothetical situation juxtaposed with reality?
It's your life and things like this arent going to happen without your consent, you do have to live with your own moral standards though.
The fact of the matter is, you are thinking with your little head at this point in time.
| quote: | | ...i can see myself dating her but not marrying her you know....so is it right to break up this marriage... |
I dont know! You want our approval to go around wrecking marriges to justify your actions? Get some spine, make your own decisions and grow up, its your life.
| quote: | | or should i say it and just let it be...? |
Probably the safest bet because you dont know what you want.
| quote: | | too confusing...it sux to be 19 =( |
Dont worry, its all downhill after 21 ;) |
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| djgarfield |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
k well #1 my girl and me are breaking up so like it makes no diff....
and #2 i dont think this girl has the urge to sleep with any other guy cept for me =(....like lets say her and her fiancee break up and now im dating her...I know for a fact im not staying with her forever...i can see myself dating her but not marrying her you know....so is it right to break up this marriage...or should i say it and just let it be...? too confusing...it sux to be 19 =( |
First, if u really care for her don't bother man. Getting laid is getting laid but i thought u said u were close. Second, what comes around goes around. If she is cheating on this guy then she will cheat on you. Last, do u really want to be responsible for breaking a marriage that she obviously has issues with and doesn't have the courage to speak? |
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| trancaholic |
| quote: | Originally posted by Thor
Sorry if I sound mad, but this really boils me. I mean that wanna marry a millionare show upset me so much, it still does. What the hell is good about marrying someone that you don't even know, just because he has money?!?! Its sick, sacrificing happyness, true love over some like money...
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Of course coming from a wealthy country you can afford to prioritize like that, if you were an unemployed single mom from, say, Ukraine, you'd probably see things differently.
Personally I don't think it's possible to love somebody your entire life, and as such marriage is a structure of out society whose main purposes are to ensure that nobody gets too lonely and to prevent us from using our energy on finding partners all the way through life.
So, getting to the point, the girl probably had a reason for getting married, and if that reason still is valid you shouldn't sleep with her. Otherwise you should tell her to end the marriage herself, and then you could have sex. |
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