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| SirSycott |
yeah so , last month i met a girl named candace, she just moved from canoga park during summer, we became good friends (met her in a statistics class), she's had a boyfriend for about like a year, I guess i really like her cause i really can't stand being without her. every weekend she goes on a two hour drive back to canoga park to visit her friends, and every time she goes, i miss her even more. i finally thought to myself: i'll just be a friend, a very GOOD friend. i just finally realized yesterday that she'd never go with a guy like me and that she probably knows that i like her. and i don't think her boyfriend is gonna dump her sooner or later.
i'm starting to beleive that i'm madly in love... or maybe i'm crazy... over some plain girl that i can't have
oh god how i wish that i've never met her.
i'm starting to hate the fact that every girl i meet i end up being good friends with and then it's not possible for me to form a relationship cuase they always throw you bs like: "i'm your friend and i don't wanna change that" |
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| igottaknow |
| I feel like a broken record but here goes anyways... you should read the ladder theory if you haven't already. Basically you need to change your approach. When you first meet a girl she will either put you on the potential bf ladder or the friend ladder. After that your fate is sealed. Obviously i'm over simplying, you can look up the details for yourself. |
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| tribu |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
I feel like a broken record but here goes anyways... you should read the ladder theory if you haven't already. Basically you need to change your approach. When you first meet a girl she will put you either put you on the potential bf ladder or the friend ladder. After that your fate is sealed. Obviously i'm over simplying, you can look up the details for yourself. |
Agreed. For more on Ladder theory ¤Click on this phrase¤ |
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| SirSycott |
My FATE IS SEALED!?!?
jeez i now i gotta know if i'm on the bf ladder or not |
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| tribu |
| quote: | Originally posted by SirSycott
My FATE IS SEALED!?!?
jeez i now i gotta know if i'm on the bf ladder or not |
You should be able to tell. From the way it sounds, Id fold this ladder up and store it in the garage for possbile (but unlikely) use later... |
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| WeenZ |
| Well to tell you honestly, if you don't think you're on the boyfriend ladder - well chances are you're not. On top of that ~ she's already going out with someone so that in itself is problematic. |
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| SirSycott |
| quote: | Originally posted by tribu
You should be able to tell. From the way it sounds, Id fold this ladder up and store it in the garage for possbile (but unlikely) use later... |
god,..... i hate myself
i'm just gonna hope that there are other guys like me out there, that way we could start a club or organization.
i'll call it: S.A.D. (single and desperate) |
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| tribu |
| quote: | Originally posted by SirSycott
god,..... i hate myself |
Why? Theres tons of girls out there....If this girl was the one, shed be with you right now, and if shes eventuallly that one, ittl happen regardless as long as you remain active in her life. I say get over it, man. Theres a million girls out there, and while some are bitches, rude, selfish, smell bad, not attractive, annoying, and spoiled, theres still plenty of good ones...
EDIT: Also, quit with the self-pity act. That only will take a girl so far (think about 1/48743 of the way). |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by SirSycott
i hate myself |
Yet, you want her to like you.
Maybe you should work on this attitude first ;) |
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| tribu |
| quote: | Originally posted by SirSycott
god,..... i hate myself
i'm just gonna hope that there are other guys like me out there, that way we could start a club or organization.
i'll call it: S.A.D. (single and desperate) |
lol great club name, and I might join, only more because im single and not necessarily desperate. I date girls, but it seems like theres something iffy about every one. Or else something appears iffy about me to them. Either way, im only 22 so ive got plenty of time for it to work out. Id like to be somewhat established before I get into another serious relationship anyways. How old are you? |
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| Turbonium |
| How do you tell if you are initially on her 'friends' or 'potential' ladder? Any tell-tale signs? |
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| TweeK |
| LET HER KNOW HOW YOU FEEL |
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