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| d!abolic |
Recently, i started reading a book by Dale Carnegie. Among the countless nuggets of treasure found within, was a simple lesson: "show sincere interest in other people." The evidence of the lesson's importance laid out in the book was so compelling that it apparently made a huge subconscious impact on how i think of people. I didn't realize what a difference it made up until today.
You see, for almost 22 months, i've been trying to gain the friendly cooperation of a man who i believe has the connections to take my business to a whole new level. Last week, i spoke to him briefly at his office. We've had countless talks like these in the past, but something was different this time. I made a conscious effort to concentrate my thoughts on his perspective and his needs. The effort soon transformed into sincere interest as i realized we have things in common.
At the end of that conversation, he invited me to lunch, which is something he's never done before. He called me several days later to schedule a meeting, which took place today. I wasn't expecting much, but now i'm starting to think that this may very well end up being the most profitable meeting i've ever been to. And not only for me, but him too. We're now finally cooperating towards achieving our goals like we should have been all along. All because i finally learned to stop concentrating on what i want. Lesson learned! |
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| rabbitjoker |
| How to win friends and influence people? |
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| d!abolic |
| quote: | Originally posted by rabbitjoker
How to win friends and influence people? |
I'm starting to realize why the author himself said how much he wished he could have found a book like this earlier on in life! Good thing i'm only 21 :) |
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| rabbitjoker |
| Very valuable book. |
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| DigiNut |
Great book, highly recommend it. I read it when I was younger, before I was humbled and had enough self-understanding to really make good use of it. Now that you bring it up though, I think maybe I should read it again.
(First time ever that I agree?)
There was once a family friend who everyone always thought was the greatest person and eventually it dawned on us that she really hardly said anything at all, except "Really? REALLY?" But it always came across as this fiercely sincere fascination, and maybe that's exactly what it was. |
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| DJ El Kay Dee |
| quote: | Originally posted by d!abolic
The evidence of the lesson's importance laid out in the book was so compelling that it apparently made a huge subconscious impact on how i think of people. |
dont forget to think about how others think of you |
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| starsearcher |
| Dude...WTF...are you in my ENT526 class???!? or is this some kinda weird freakish conincidence?!? :haha: :haha: :stongue: :wtf: |
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| DJ El Kay Dee |
| quote: | Originally posted by starsearcher
Dude...WTF...are you in my ENT526 class???!? or is this some kinda weird freakish conincidence?!? :haha: :haha: :stongue: :wtf: |
is that Entrepreneurship for dummies part 2?? (i did ENT 500 that was a joke for a class) |
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| starsearcher |
| quote: | Originally posted by DJ El Kay Dee
is that Entrepreneurship for dummies part 2?? (i did ENT 500 that was a joke for a class) |
Yah that's my first ENT class...pretty easy stuff lol...excpt that today we had a guest speaker and he was talking about the same book d!abolic is reading AND he read out loud THAT SPECIFIC QUOTE and spoke about it for about 3 minutes :stongue: |
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| DJ El Kay Dee |
| quote: | Originally posted by starsearcher
Yah that's my first ENT class...pretty easy stuff lol...excpt that today we had a guest speaker and he was talking about the same book d!abolic is reading AND he read out loud THAT SPECIFIC QUOTE and spoke about it for about 3 minutes :stongue: |
when u say specific quote u mean....
| quote: | Recently, i started reading a book by Dale Carnegie. Among the countless nuggets of treasure found within, was a simple lesson: "show sincere interest in other people." The evidence of the lesson's importance laid out in the book was so compelling that it apparently made a huge subconscious impact on how i think of people. I didn't realize what a difference it made up until today.
You see, for almost 22 months, i've been trying to gain the friendly cooperation of a man who i believe has the connections to take my business to a whole new level. Last week, i spoke to him briefly at his office. We've had countless talks like these in the past, but something was different this time. I made a conscious effort to concentrate my thoughts on his perspective and his needs. The effort soon transformed into sincere interest as i realized we have things in common.
At the end of that conversation, he invited me to lunch, which is something he's never done before. He called me several days later to schedule a meeting, which took place today. I wasn't expecting much, but now i'm starting to think that this may very well end up being the most profitable meeting i've ever been to. And not only for me, but him too. We're now finally cooperating towards achieving our goals like we should have been all along. All because i finally learned to stop concentrating on what i want. Lesson learned! |
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| starsearcher |
| quote: | Originally posted by DJ El Kay Dee
when u say specific quote u mean....
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Oh sorry...yeah...
| quote: | | Among the countless nuggets of treasure found within, was a simple lesson: "show sincere interest in other people." |
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| d!abolic |
| quote: | Originally posted by starsearcher
Yah that's my first ENT class...pretty easy stuff lol...excpt that today we had a guest speaker and he was talking about the same book d!abolic is reading AND he read out loud THAT SPECIFIC QUOTE and spoke about it for about 3 minutes :stongue: |
Innterestinngg.. i'd love to take a class like that! I feel the need to educate myself more. Dammit. I'm already reading 2 books. I think i'll get me some tapes. Perhaps Tony Robbins. It's time i checked out his stuff. Making yourself obsessed with achieving something is the ing key to success and he's got that down to a science. |
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