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serious HIV questions! (pg. 2)
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| Vaio_dude |
guys, i did not mean to offend any one by saying anal sex is dirty. I apologize.
but you guys r changing the topic now...
- He just thinks all prostitute have AIDS
and because he can not forgive him self for what he has done, even though after two months he tested negative.
and he swears to me that the girl was very clean, which i know it does not really matter.
he keeps thinking about it and he is very scared. he knows he has done something very stupid, and he regrets it more than ever.
I try to tell him that not all prostitutes are HIV psitive, some of them really take care of them selfs, and they are always safe, which mean they are clean, some of them even married and they only do not use condoms with their husbands.
I tell him that after he tests his blood again on febraury and when it comes negative again he will be normal like before, and just be careful next time. maybe he got lucky this time....
what u think ? |
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| DJ Mikey Mike |
| quote: | Originally posted by tribu
what about titty sex? nostril sex? ear sex? And lets not forget the ever popular foot-job... |
Werd. The last time a girl told me I could put it anywhere I stuck it in her ear! That'll learn her! :cool: :toothless
Vaio_dude, you friend is an idiot. In 6 months time he will know for sure, and there's not really anything else that can be done; apart from to reflect on the mistake of sleeping with someone he didn't properly in the first place without protection. What else do you want to hear? |
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| Massive84 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vaio_dude
- He left this girl, and after two months now he got tested and it was negative.
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If he don't trust this result, he can do another test, but usually tests like these are done really carefully and are 99% correct i believe. |
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| Sand Leaper |
| quote: | Originally posted by tribu
what about titty sex? nostril sex? ear sex? And lets not forget the ever popular foot-job... |
...or seat sex (ing the girl in the space between the pooper and the vagina).
| quote: | Originally posted by DJ Mikey Mike
Werd. The last time a girl told me I could put it anywhere I stuck it in her ear! That'll learn her! :cool: :toothless
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vaio_dude
guys, i did not mean to offend any one by saying anal sex is dirty. I apologize. |
I wasn't offended, I just meant to say there's nothing wrong (or dirty) about it :)
| quote: | Originally posted by Vaio_dude
- He just thinks all prostitute have AIDS
and because he can not forgive him self for what he has done, even though after two months he tested negative.
and he swears to me that the girl was very clean, which i know it does not really matter.
he keeps thinking about it and he is very scared. he knows he has done something very stupid, and he regrets it more than ever.
I try to tell him that not all prostitutes are HIV psitive, some of them really take care of them selfs, and they are always safe, which mean they are clean, some of them even married and they only do not use condoms with their husbands.
I tell him that after he tests his blood again on febraury and when it comes negative again he will be normal like before, and just be careful next time. maybe he got lucky this time....
what u think ? |
It's obvious your friend is scared, which is quite natural after you have unprotected sex with a prostitute. If he was lucky enough not to be infected by any DST, no need to fear. He'll probably be cautious next time, which is somehow a good thing. "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger" :) |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vaio_dude
guys, i did not mean to offend any one by saying anal sex is dirty. I apologize.
but you guys r changing the topic now...
- He just thinks all prostitute have AIDS
and because he can not forgive him self for what he has done, even though after two months he tested negative.
and he swears to me that the girl was very clean, which i know it does not really matter.
he keeps thinking about it and he is very scared. he knows he has done something very stupid, and he regrets it more than ever.
I try to tell him that not all prostitutes are HIV psitive, some of them really take care of them selfs, and they are always safe, which mean they are clean, some of them even married and they only do not use condoms with their husbands.
I tell him that after he tests his blood again on febraury and when it comes negative again he will be normal like before, and just be careful next time. maybe he got lucky this time....
what u think ? |
It sounds like your friend had a brush with death and didn't like what he saw. Who does? We'll all go through portions in our lives where we truly realize what it means to be in danger of dying - I was lucky to get that out of the way when I was 16, and I think most people are very similar in their teen years. Your friend did something that was dangerous... but what isn't anymore? He is finally coming to realize what it is to live in fear of death, and the only way you will be able to snap him out of it is to just let him come to it on his own terms. I know it's hard to bear watching a friend is such distress, but all you can do is be there for him with advice of your own - the rest is stuff he has to come to on his own terms about. Eventually (hopefully), he will finally accept life for what it is and no longer live to die.
Nobody can be told what their purpose is on this Earth - leave him to his own destiny, and he will be made better for this experience. I'm not advising you to abandon your friend in a time of need, but this is an important step for most people in their maturation as individuals. |
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| Vaio_dude |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
It sounds like your friend had a brush with death and didn't like what he saw. Who does? We'll all go through portions in our lives where we truly realize what it means to be in danger of dying - I was lucky to get that out of the way when I was 16, and I think most people are very similar in their teen years. Your friend did something that was dangerous... but what isn't anymore? He is finally coming to realize what it is to live in fear of death, and the only way you will be able to snap him out of it is to just let him come to it on his own terms. I know it's hard to bear watching a friend is such distress, but all you can do is be there for him with advice of your own - the rest is stuff he has to come to on his own terms about. Eventually (hopefully), he will finally accept life for what it is and no longer live to die.
Nobody can be told what their purpose is on this Earth - leave him to his own destiny, and he will be made better for this experience. I'm not advising you to abandon your friend in a time of need, but this is an important step for most people in their maturation as individuals. |
You are right man, because ever since he realized maybe he got lucky and he got thru this fine, he has changed a lot, he has been getting closer to god and stoped doing some things he thought it was stupid, and he actually started to focus on life, and be nice to people. Basically I can see he regrets what he has done, and he believes that god gave him another chance. As long as other disease, he is feeling better than ever, no illness what so ever.
he is only worried about the next time he takes the test even though most people told him that two month is a good time to knowif u have HIV. |
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| töbias |
I think that your friend had a lucky escape.
Sleeping with prostitutes at all is a little unclean for my liking, I have never done it, and to do so without protection is just plain risky.
But we often get chances in life, and it seems like your friend got one.
HIV is much more common the gay community and unless you go to Africa you are much more likely to be catching a whole range of other sexual diseases by having unsafe sex.
The key is to learn from your mistakes and a check up every 3 to 6 months for anybody that has sex at all is a smart idea for peace of mind for you and your partners. |
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| Vivid Boy |
| let this be a lesson to you guys, if a prostitue offers it for free and u dont have a coupon, wear a condom |
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| Vaio_dude |
| yeah, he has been reading a lot about the disease and the people who get sympthoms and stuff, and so far because he did not get any he actually feels better, and now that i making him read these threads, he is starting to believe that his whole life has changed, even though he is going to go get tested again after 2 more months |
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| töbias |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vaio_dude
yeah, he has been reading a lot about the disease and the people who get sympthoms and stuff, and so far because he did not get any he actually feels better, and now that i making him read these threads, he is starting to believe that his whole life has changed, even though he is going to go get tested again after 2 more months |
Yes I don't think he has Aids, but he is definitely paranoid. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by töbias
Yes I don't think he has Aids, but he is definitely paranoid. |
"Just because he's paranoid it doesn't mean they're not after him" ;)
I believe it's quite natural to be paranoid for a while after what happened :p |
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