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How do you deal with rejection? (pg. 3)
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by *InVeRs3*
Dude, that's a valid excuse for some. |
Still an excuse. Either they arent making it a priority thus should be giving up bitching rights, or have it as a priority and arent out doing what it takes to get there. Just because you have a good reason doesnt change the fact you arent trying.
Marines say it well "A plan 80% completed executed quickly and forcefully is better than a 100% completed plan executed too late" |
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| Massive84 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Rodrico
Reminds me of a friend who always had an excuse for trying to get a girlfriend, I dont have a job, how am I gonna take her out? or I dont have a car, what am I gonna do? take the bus to meet her? Im like what does any of that matter unless you plan on picking up a superficial material chick. |
well , now days girls prefer all these things from a guy, well the majority.
and guys prefer things from girls as well.
Yea i agree they are valid. |
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| Rodrico |
| quote: | Originally posted by Massive84
well , now days girls prefer all these things from a guy, well the majority.
and guys prefer things from girls as well.
Yea i agree they are valid. |
I guess they can be, but it doesnt mean you should just walk away from the situation, thats what he did, oddly enough he never went for even after a job and car. |
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| Clovis86 |
| quote: | Originally posted by töbias
Its just a terrible feeling.
I hate it.
There have been times where one little mistake, or one wrong statement, or one moment have bottled things up with a girl, and one must move on a learn from the experience.
And yeah Orbax, I think it is. |
I agree completey. The worst is thinking that at the time, you are right...then looking back and realizing you were wrong and she wasnt.
Or not being sure what to do and making a bad choice based on intense emotions at the time and not common logic... |
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| töbias |
| quote: | Originally posted by Clovis86
I agree completey. The worst is thinking that at the time, you are right...then looking back and realizing you were wrong and she wasnt.
Or not being sure what to do and making a bad choice based on intense emotions at the time and not common logic... |
Yeah, the most regret I feel comes from:
1. Not having the guts to take a chance.
Either being alone with an attractive girl and not making that move, having a huge opportunity and not taking it and watching some guy cut straight in, or not walking up to thta girl and saying hello.
2. Having a girlfriend that ends up being crap and saying no to far more than the usual number of attractive girls that I ever come into contact with during the time spent in a wasted relationship.
It just always seems that when you are with someone, girls really want you. |
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| Slylee |
i think i've only had to deal with rejection like twice in my life relationship wise. i don't remember how i delt with it though cuz it was in high school. i'm pretty sure i was just really upset and cried about it for a couple days and then gradually moved on. it actually worries me to think about being rejected really badly at some point in my life, because i don't have a lot of experience in dealing with it. but i am a pretty strong person so i don't think i would fall apart or anything...it'd probably be good for me. it is definitely a very horrible feeling to really like someone and they just don't like you back. i can't imagine that happening with someone you actually love.
i think being rejected from a job would be much easier to deal with. i don't think i've ever gone in for a job interview and didn't get hired though. but then again, all my jobs haven't been like career moves or anything. just dumb jobs during high school and after. the real test will be after i graduate and start applying for the real ones. i'll be ready though:D |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
I feel rejection often - whether it truly exists or not is probably just a state of mind, though.
People say I have SOO many great things going for me, but I rarely believe them for some reason. It's like I purposely reject myself...I know I can't continue on like this in life, or at least I get the feeling that it will be detrimental to me someday, but it pushes me to try harder at life. Sometimes, it takes a low self-esteem to survive. You can't just be cocky all the time, though, I've never been the person to have a problem with that.
I didn't get a job at Blockbuster last week - I failed the personality Test. :wtf: :wtf: :wtf:
Rejected by a ing video rental store...Oh well. I'd be lying if I said I didn't really want the job in the first place - relaxed atmosphere, steady paycheck, plus, I love movies, so that's a plus. But I just looked the manager in the eyes when he told me, and I said "Oh, ok." I wasn't mad about it, and I'm still not, I just left it behind though - I'll look to the future, keeping the past in mind, and the inevitable present around me at all times. It's all I am willing to do.
I answered every question on there as honestly as I could. I figured, if it's a job that I would truly like working at, I might as well be honest from the beginning.
Q: 'Do you like to work alone?'
A: 'somewhat agree'
That sort of thing. God I hate those tests. :stongue:
As far as rejection from Girls? Well, I've never truly put myself on the line, I guess. I've rejected girls before, but I never really asked a girl out during High School. I was truly busy for most of my time - hanging out with friends, working, doing Martial arts, homework, etc...I just didn't feel the need to go out with anyone special to me - not that I even knew any girls I was genuinely interested in.
I once had a close friend look me in the eyes with the deepest intent and say: "Do you even have a sex drive?" My response was...
:wtf:
I just don't see the reason to date people all the time as some see it - especially in High School. I don't seek love in life, I know that it will come to me if I just keep my eyes open, and I feel as though it has. I know that you can't just wait around your whole life for something to come to you, but with something as important as love is, you can't hunt for it either - but by all means keep it when you have found it, it's just one of those precious and rare things in this world, true love.
And so, rejection is just a state of mind - most of the time it's something we do to ourselves. Moving on and learning from the experience is all we can do - true conscious progression on the highest level. ;) |
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| Nite-Mer |
I've been in sales for a long time, so rejection isn't hard to deal with. You just move on to the next one. I think that holds true for most everything. I'm not as good at handling rejection with women, even though I don't really care too much if I get rejected. I just talk to another girl. However, I think my confidence gets effected a little bit more when it's a girl than a sales call.
If you think of things as a numbers game, rejection isn't a very big deal. |
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| Slylee |
dude, you don't have to answer those questions honestly. lol just use your common sense and pick the answers that they are looking for, which depends on the job you are applying for as well.
i mean even if you want to strangle your mom sometimes, and there is a question that asks, "do you ever think of killing anyone"? obviously, you don't say Yes. those are the little things we keep to ourselves. :p |
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| jdat |
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by Rodrico
Im like what does any of that matter unless you plan on picking up a superficial material chick. |
If a woman isn't going to like you because you can't take her to fancy dinners and buy her expensive clothes than she isn't worth all anyways, at least in my book. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
dude, you don't have to answer those questions honestly. lol just use your common sense and pick the answers that they are looking for, which depends on the job you are applying for as well.
i mean even if you want to strangle your mom sometimes, and there is a question that asks, "do you ever think of killing anyone"? obviously, you don't say Yes. those are the little things we keep to ourselves. :p |
NOW you tell me! :stongue: :p
Nah - I knew exactly what they were looking for in a lot of questions - it's just that all my part-time jobs in the past have totally disregarded that test, it seems. Guess Bluckbuster put a little more stake in their flawed test.
I mean, questions like 'do you like to work alone?' are totally loaded. If I answer 'somewhat agree' does it mean that I am a complete loner (which I am anyways, but that's not the point)? Even if I said 'completely, totally agree' would that mean a whole lot in terms of what the job is demanding? I know pretty much every job out there is looking for someone to be part of team' and to 'be a team-player', but they never had a question that asked 'do you like to be part of a team?' Which I probably would have answered 'agree' on. They just had really ty questions...but that's OK - I've moved on and learned from my rejection :p
ALWAYS LIE ON AN INTERVIEW!!!! :whip: :whip: :wtf:
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