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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
ive been talked down to plenty around here ;) |
Two wrongs don't make a right. I find the best thing a person could do regardless of how they're being treated is remain consistent with their own behaviour. I always treat negative with positive, doesn't always work, but it also doesn't make things more negative. |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Two wrongs don't make a right. I find the best thing a person could do regardless of how they're being treated is remain consistent with their own behaviour. I always treat negative with positive, doesn't always work, but it also doesn't make things more negative. |
you are usually right but sometimes someone needs a taste of their own medicine. To always give positive feedback to negative would go against pavlovs theory of classical conditioning and behavioural modefication. In other words, if the consequences are positive, it will reinfornce the negative behaviour...
This is why i find the new way of disciplining kids to be really dumb for example. Apparently the "best" way now is to say in a positive (whiney) voice "now now, you are really good at throwing the ball but i dont think its appropriate to be whacking it a little jimmy's head"
psychobabble is fun :D woohoooo i feel like a nerd :)
lol
but yes, usually you are right. Be super nice to the point that they throw up, and then when they are bent over puking, BOOT TO THE HEAD!!(nyah nyah nyah nyah) |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
you are usually right but sometimes someone needs a taste of their own medicine. To always give positive feedback to negative would go against pavlovs theory of classical conditioning and behavioural modefication. In other words, if the consequences are positive, it will reinfornce the negative behaviour...
This is why i find the new way of disciplining kids to be really dumb for example. Apparently the "best" way now is to say in a positive (whiney) voice "now now, you are really good at throwing the ball but i dont think its appropriate to be whacking it a little jimmy's head"
psychobabble is fun :D woohoooo i feel like a nerd :)
lol
but yes, usually you are right. Be super nice to the point that they throw up, and then when they are bent over puking, BOOT TO THE HEAD!!(nyah nyah nyah nyah) |
LOL! Well no, I just mean this...here's a perfect example...
I was at the grocery store a few weeks back and it was rammed. EVERYONE in the store was horrible, grumpy, pushy...every man for himself basically. Well, I got a spot in line and another woman came in behind me. She asked me to save her spot while she went to get something, and I did. Not too long after another woman showed up and stood behind me. I said nothing, just waited for the other woman to come back. When she finally did, she said to the other woman "Oh, sorry, I just went to get something, my spot has been saved." I piped in that yes, I was saving her spot (even though it was obvious, cause the other lady's cart was there the whole time), and I apologized. The woman gave me the dirtiest look ever, and sighed loudly. I just turned my back, as I'm not going to play into her negativity. I could have been nasty back to her, but it wouldn't have helped.
The point is, negative people expect negative responses, it's like they want to drag everyone else down to where they are. Sometimes when a person is so far down, it's hard for them to just say " it" and simply be more pleasant...kinda like the Grinch, so they just attempt to get everyone on their level.
My other point is that by being positive, it hopefully makes the negative person reflect on their behaviour once they've just examined the situation. One would hope that they'd realize how jerky they appear and make some attempt to be pleasant themself.
Also, it might not seem to make a world of difference, but it has to start somewhere, and I'm sure the lady whose spot I saved had a less grumpy day because of it...and that's where a chain reaction begins.
That's why I say be consistent. At the end of the day only you are accountable for your actions, and if you tried in some small way to make things better, then you'll recieve better.
I dunno, I guess I'm a bit of a hippy, a do-gooder/peacemaker, whatever. |
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| Jayx1 |
Thats like if someone gives me the finger on the highway. i just smile and wave. (and then track their license plate in order to have my towtruck buddies take them to the nearest fire hydrant...) um oh yeah..that was the other guy.
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| StereoPrincess |
everyone needs some drama.
everyone needs to know they are alive.
everyone needs to stand up for themselves.
everyone needs a boost to their self esteem. |
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| Cuzo |
Everybody needs a bit of gossip.
"...and I'm chalk full of that, man!" in a Hunter S.T voice. |
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| dallastar |
| quote: | Originally posted by StereoPrincess
everyone needs some drama.
everyone needs to know they are alive.
everyone needs to stand up for themselves.
everyone needs a boost to their self esteem. |
EVERYBODY...EVERYBODY
BLACK BOX!!!
hahahha -
I could do with out the Drama..... I enjoy readings it sometimes.... |
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| dEsidEL |
jayx1 kinda reminds me of a cheap imitation of how halo20 was.. like a halo20 -2.5 years ..
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| e*motion |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
psychobabble is fun :D woohoooo i feel like a nerd :)
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post a pic.. I have this image in my head of what you would look like... :D :D |
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| Endlesswave |
| I know what you're saying jennipie. I usually try and be the same way w things, although sometimes aggression is something I have to get out. |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by dEsidEL
jayx1 kinda reminds me of a cheap imitation of how halo20 was.. like a halo20 -2.5 years ..
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No, im the often imitated never duplicated one...
oh wait that was chris sheppard...
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by e*motion
post a pic.. I have this image in my head of what you would look like... :D :D |
I dont post pics (and no its not because im ugly, ive gotten over my ugliness long ago) LOL
No seriously i never post my pic but you can come see me at viva on fridays if you are really interested LOL. I'm the light guy there. |
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