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My Melodramatic Breakup Thread (pg. 4)
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| Lephaid |
| quote: | Originally posted by NiteMer
It sounds like you are a little confused. How old are you? I am guessing you are fairly young. College age maybe? |
I've been 19 for about 5 months.
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
i don't mean this in any terrible way, but really it's girls like you that make some of us guys question everything the people in our lives do. i've had a lot of jealousy issues in the past...not because i had a reason to be, so that's my fault, but it's really girls like you that cause some boyfriends to be jealous freaks...i don't care what kind of sad excuse you try and come up with...you obviously never loved your boyfriend if you put him through all of that... |
I apologize here...My older boyfriend got with me because he had so many bad relationships, and I it all up all over. Though, for him, it tends to be general misogyny over jealousy. We did share a very positive thing the first three years, at least... |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
seems popular to bash shrinks. its not their job to fix your life for you. you need to put in the work. |
i tried to go once and i was really unimpressed. i went to this therapist and she gave me things i could do to try and feel better without addressing the actual problem at all, or attempting to find the root of the problem. and on the first day she recommended drugs. i dont think that should be the first source to solve your problems. i was really offended and stopped going.
i find that having people listen to you and relate with their own stories helps a lot. TA helped me a lot in that regard. and some of my friends. in the end i helped myself by talking it out and figuring out what actions i needed to take to get better. i did it and i am happy now. now shrinks were in the equation to make me feel better.
and yes you are exactly right. you need to put in the work yourself. if you dont want to be happy, you never will be. it is a lot easier to lead a depressed, self destructive life than to make change for yourself. |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lephaid
I've been 19 for about 5 months.
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most people at 19 still have a lot of growing to do and learning who you are. i definitely think it is too young to be thinking about getting married. if you have been with him for 4 years, you have never been single. you need to go out and be a vibrant and confident single person. there is a lot of fun to be had in that situation, and you will learn what it is that is best for you. dont lock yourself up in a relationship so young. |
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| Mr. Pink |
sounds like a lifetime movie
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| nrjizer |
So you cheat on your boyfriend twice, then have a nasty breakup... and now it's made you feel bad?
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| kamil |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lephaid
Have boyfriend for 3 years, we're living together.
Life gets stressful, I start seeing a guy on the side and taking drugs.
Person on the side dumps me, boyfriend knows, I try to kill myself.
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Wheres the logic behind that? |
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| NiteMer |
| You are just young and confused. Most women your age don't have a clue what they want. It's pretty normal. The self-destruction is the bigger issue. Look into finding a solution to stop that behavior. |
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| Lephaid |
| quote: | Originally posted by kamil
Wheres the logic behind that? |
I was really depressed at the time, had bad anxiety issues, and to elaborate on what happened with the breakup: the guy on the side first attempted suicide via sleeping pills, then stopped talking to me and started acting like I wasn't there. I just got really upset with myself at one point and wanted to die...I guess that's all. |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by butterfly
i tried to go once and i was really unimpressed. i went to this therapist and she gave me things i could do to try and feel better without addressing the actual problem at all, or attempting to find the root of the problem. and on the first day she recommended drugs. i dont think that should be the first source to solve your problems. i was really offended and stopped going. |
too bad he pushed meds on you. like all professions there are good & bad with different approaches. Good ones act like a doctor diagnose the problem and then give you options on how you want to deal with it. |
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| kamil |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lephaid
I was really depressed at the time, had bad anxiety issues, and to elaborate on what happened with the breakup: the guy on the side first attempted suicide via sleeping pills, then stopped talking to me and started acting like I wasn't there. I just got really upset with myself at one point and wanted to die...I guess that's all. |
I could see why youd want to kill yourself if, lets say, you had absolutetly nothing to live for. But you being able to get relationships every "fast forwarded few months" is no reason to try and commit suicide. , you should feel damn good your getting some, most people would kill themselves because they CANT get relationships!
Anyway, suicide imo is irrational. |
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| Slylee |
just to clarify something...
psychiatrists do not get to the root of the problem. usually you're appointment is less than 20 minutes and their job is to observe, diagnose and prescribe. then the rest of your appointments are basically for "med checks", to see how you're coming along.
if you want to sit and "talk" and really dig deep into your past and stuff like that, and get to the bottom of your behavior, then you need to go see a psychotherapist or a "psychologist". they aren't even able to prescribe drugs...the only time they usually do, is if they see that you are very depressed or very anxious and that you really need them...then they refer you to a psychiatrist who will get you the meds.
i went through a short period of time where i was depressed/anxious like 5 years ago, and i figured that out right away. i ended up not taking any meds or anything...my problem was completely in my control, so i got rid of the boyfriend. :stongue:
but yea, there's a difference guys...just so you know. i think everyone could benefit from talking to a therapist...those are the ones who charge an arm and leg though...i would too, if i had to sit and listen to everyone gripe all damn day! |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by kamil
I could see why youd want to kill yourself if, lets say, you had absolutetly nothing to live for. But you being able to get relationships every "fast forwarded few months" is no reason to try and commit suicide. , you should feel damn good your getting some, most people would kill themselves because they CANT get relationships!
Anyway, suicide imo is irrational. |
i was hoping you would commit sucide :stongue: |
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