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Continueing the theme of girl related threads (pg. 2)
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| Floorfiller |
serious situation man. i'm going to have to go with tobias on this one. it sounds like she is trying to get you to stay with her by using the threat of self harm guilt you into staying with her.
now if you broke up with her only because of something that she can be treated for...maybe you shouldn't break up with her like Lira said...you just said you'd die for her...you obviously love her. if you only broke up because of this condition or whatever...maybe try to help her get help...tell her you'll be there for her, but that you're really worried...maybe seeing you leave like this will be enough encouragement for her to get the help she needs... |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by nchs09
lira ur avatar cracks me up is htat ur gf? |
No, that's not my girlfriend, that's just a random image I found :p |
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| Billabong |
| Nice advice so far, but if anyone has anything to say from her point of view, of course it would be appreciated. |
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| Lephaid |
Ignore her. I was acting the same way once and the guy I used to be with got tired of it and stopped talking to me, and I moved on.
She'll take it hard initially, but she'll live. |
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| Floorfiller |
| i think she probably feels like she isn't good enough for you and she's wondering what she did to things up or what she could do to win you back. she probably feels like it's her fault that you guys are breaking up and it kills her that she has pushed away the person that she wants to be with. she just doesn't know how to control whatever problem she has... |
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| Billabong |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
i think she probably feels like she isn't good enough for you and she's wondering what she did to things up or what she could do to win you back. she probably feels like it's her fault that you guys are breaking up and it kills her that she has pushed away the person that she wants to be with. she just doesn't know how to control whatever problem she has... |
I think that probably sums it up best, and probably would be how i would be feeling in her position. |
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| nchs09 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
No, that's not my girlfriend, that's just a random image I found :p |
funney non the less |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lephaid
Ignore her. I was acting the same way once and the guy I used to be with got tired of it and stopped talking to me, and I moved on.
She'll take it hard initially, but she'll live. |
But then she might turn out like this.
:nervous: :p |
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| Lephaid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
But then she might turn out like this.
:nervous: :p |
That all had nothing to do with anyone talked about in this thread...bleh. XP |
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| Arbiter |
| Unfortunately, you can't do anything to just magically solve her emotional issues. The best thing for you to do for her is to stay as far away from her as possible. Don't give her sympathy, don't even give her a few words. Cut her off 100% so that the behavior isn't reinforced. I know it seems bad now, but she will get over it, and eventually be a stronger person for it. |
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| tribu |
Having been through this on the other side (big suprise, I know :rolleyes: ), I think I can say that the best thing for her is either treatment or time. I opted for the second option, but either one will eventually lead to the realization of your action's immaturity and selfishness. Chances are she feels unloved, and isn't getting support from anywhere (you mentioned she has few friends). She needs this from somewhere, but as everyone else has said, it shouldn't be from you. THIS WILL ONLY REKINDLE A FALSE HOPE IN HER WHICH COULD LEAD TO A HARSHER FALL. As someone else said, you luckily know this.
I wouldnt really call anyone about her unless youre worried about her doing some seriously bad stuff to herself (Perhaps even worse than a suicide attempt. As we know, most suicide attempts are pleas for attention, but are purposly fudged for that very reason). What's best for her is to confide in some friends who will set he right on the path of recovery/rebounding. If she doesn't have this option, she will need to realize and define her insecurtity issues before she can recover. This is where treatment can help, but either way, she won't realize fullfillment until she admits the problem to herself. Sadly, this can take years. If she ever does recover 4 -6 years down the line, a friendship might be salvaged, but thats on an individual basis. |
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| mezzir |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lephaid
Ignore her. I was acting the same way once and the guy I used to be with got tired of it and stopped talking to me, and I moved on.
She'll take it hard initially, but she'll live. |
+1
situation sounds familiar, i was acting relatively the same
insomnia like crazy, didn't take care of myself, didn't go to class
and as a result my gpa's currently not even a 1
and while i wouldn't say it helped, i've learned from it all
definately a sticky situation |
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