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| tranzformer |
| My gf and I have been together for 7 months now. In August she is going to be moving to Cali to go to graduate school (both from MI). I still have one more year left of college before I go to medical school and I am considering applying to the same school she is at. Just curious how hard it is to have a long distance relationship. We have a serious relationship and have made it so far this summer not seeing each other everyday like we did while in school. Just want some advice from those who have had long distance relationships or who are in one. What can I do to make things as good as possible? |
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| Trancealot |
I was about to have a LD relationship untill I did not get a job out of school so I had one other option.
I am one year ahead and just graduated and she is not a senior. Well no job = grad school for me so I applied and got in so I back at my school. I had to deal with a lot of sadness from her to the point she did not want me to even get a job and go to grad school to be with her another year plus if I do she will move anywhere I go. That is psycho or love?
If I did get a job I told her I vist her like on weekend every two weeks at the worst. My friend and his GF did it for a year and they were one year apart and now this year they btoh work and live together. If the love for each other is strong enough just visit and try not to get into any fights if possible and it will all work out! hope this helps. Lets say there are couples worse off that you like can't see each other for longer persiods of time so love is a word but stronger than anything can break |
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| Orbax |
In the words of Hudson
WE'RE ED WE'RE DOOMED |
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| pipedreams |
| It just depends on what kind of person she is. If she likes to get drunk often, do drugs, party, go to bars, involved in some type of sorority, or any of those combined I would worry. Also worry about yourself. If some really hot girl offered you a night of sex would you take it while she was away aka do you get lonely often? That may sound like it is the least of your concerns but a good friend of mine has a girlfriend 5 hours away from him for years and cheated on her 3 times and now regrets it more than anything on earth because he doesnt know how to break it to her when time comes around to tie the knot. If you are a heartless bastard though it wouldnt matter. I'd say it can work if you really know the type of person she is. You should try to step out of the tunnel vision of love for a minute (if you are in love) and take a good hard look at who she REALLY is. If she is a geniune good person you have no worries. Hope this helped a little if any :cool: |
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| Orbital32 |
| quote: | Originally posted by tranzformer
My gf and I have been together for 7 months now. In August she is going to be moving to Cali to go to graduate school (both from MI). I still have one more year left of college before I go to medical school and I am considering applying to the same school she is at. Just curious how hard it is to have a long distance relationship. We have a serious relationship and have made it so far this summer not seeing each other everyday like we did while in school. Just want some advice from those who have had long distance relationships or who are in one. What can I do to make things as good as possible? |
been there done that MANY of times...and also have the pleasure of seeing it thrid person. Break it off man. Trust me. You can still have an awesome friendship if you break it off with no pain.
I seen ALOT of my friends have these and they ALL except for 1 ended in diaster. I learn quickly so when i moved, we broke it off, but we still talk. save yourself the heartache. Really man the chances of one of you cheating is OUTRAGEOUS! she going to a college with hot guys, you will feel lonely one night.. it's going to happen. |
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| pipedreams |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbital32
been there done that MANY of times...and also have the pleasure of seeing it thrid person. Break it off man. Trust me. You can still have an awesome friendship if you break it off with no pain.
I seen ALOT of my friends have these and they ALL except for 1 ended in diaster. I learn quickly so when i moved, we broke it off, but we still talk. save yourself the heartache. Really man the chances of one of you cheating is OUTRAGEOUS! she going to a college with hot guys, you will feel lonely one night.. it's going to happen. |
+1 it takes a special type of person to make it work. In your case two very special, unique people. Good luck. |
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| Miss Bliss |
| Same problem here... I am going away to Paris for 6 months and we have decided to stay together... it will be tough but I think we can do it. I get jealous sometimes but I trust him and he definitely trusts me. I would never cheat... I'd much rather break up. |
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| tranzformer |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbital32
been there done that MANY of times...and also have the pleasure of seeing it thrid person. Break it off man. Trust me. You can still have an awesome friendship if you break it off with no pain.
I seen ALOT of my friends have these and they ALL except for 1 ended in diaster. I learn quickly so when i moved, we broke it off, but we still talk. save yourself the heartache. Really man the chances of one of you cheating is OUTRAGEOUS! she going to a college with hot guys, you will feel lonely one night.. it's going to happen. |
Since I dont know the future, isnt it better to just let things play out? I would hate to be 20yrs in the future and wonder how things might have been if we stuck it out. Just to break up becauce of distance is kinda dumb in my opinion. But I have never done this before so I have no clue what I am getting into. I have heard that distance/seperation makes the heart grow fonder. Some seperation is good to test out the relationship. We will see each other for major breaks like Thanksgiving, Xmas, Summer...etc. And I will try to fly out on any long weekends we have. |
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| astroboy |
| If you've been together for ages and are very close + used to each other 6 months might be doable.... Any more than that and you're pushing your luck. |
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| Aquarian |
| quote: | Originally posted by pipedreams
It just depends on what kind of person she is. If she likes to get drunk often, do drugs, party, go to bars, involved in some type of sorority, or any of those combined I would worry. |
Amen to that. Now I just wish someone would've told me that awhile back.
I was in a sort of LD relationship for about a year. I lived in montreal, she lived in london. If it were just me, it would've gone on, but she broke it off. In any case, I very much regret it. It was the biggest mistake I've ever done. It might work for you, but it's a very risky thing to do. |
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| Ripped Bag |
she is going to be moving
Stop right there..
End it, its not worth your time or hers |
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| ChemEnhanced |
| quote: | Originally posted by tranzformer
My gf and I have been together for 7 months now. In August she is going to be moving to Cali to go to graduate school (both from MI). I still have one more year left of college before I go to medical school and I am considering applying to the same school she is at. Just curious how hard it is to have a long distance relationship. We have a serious relationship and have made it so far this summer not seeing each other everyday like we did while in school. Just want some advice from those who have had long distance relationships or who are in one. What can I do to make things as good as possible? |
In about two months you might as well call it over. Long term relationships can only work for a short period IMO. |
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