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How do I stop swearing so much?
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| The Highroller |
This thread my sound silly to some people, but this is becoming a bother to me.
My sailor mouth has got to go. When I was younger, I used to think swearing sounded "cool", so I literally trained myself to swear more often. I actually looked forward to when I would have to swear rwithout effort. Now, I am unable to stop swearing.
What's funny is, when I'm around my parents, family, an employer, or anyone else I don't want to hear me swear, I can do so easily. The problem is, when I enter a "social" situation, the the sailor suit goes on. I think I have a "swear" mode, and a "non-swear" mode for different situations.
I am tired of sounding like trailor trash.
Has anyone had this problem before and solved it? |
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| st0ka. |
hey u didnt use the words or in the title...so its a good start....
do what homer did...everytime u swear put 25 cents in a jar |
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| Matt |
dude, shut the up.
j/k
I don't have any real suggestions as of yet. |
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| joinT |
i have it except more extreme.. if i'm friends with colleagues i think nothing of swearing in front of them.. so far i've been pretty lucky hasn't happened with bad timing..
fvck has become the equivalent of geez in my vocab.. |
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| jrmacca |
work in a catholic hospital :D
i have..had.. a potty mouth (wtf, who says potty mouth?!) i just feel very uncomfortable swearing at work when there's a cross with christ in every room. plus, the nuns DO NOT wear their habits, so i can never tell who's a sister. imagine that - jesus, f'n christ...oh good morning sister :nervous:
so, i guess i've conditioned myself to not swear as much out of fear...of god?
the kicker?
i'm not even catholic :toothless |
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| amb_ |
It may be a good idea to keep on with your cursing if you can keep it controlled for certain situations.
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If cussing's a curse, not cussing's worse
By Ruth Wajnryb
November 29, 2003
First it was road rage. Then air rage, lift rage, phone rage and surf rage. Now, thanks to water restrictions, we have hose rage. At least there's some constancy in an age of flux.
Now violence is a no-no, lacking any remedial attributes, but I am loath to condemn verbal assault. Notwithstanding the possible offence caused by blasphemy or obscenities, swearing seems to have two advantages. It releases impotent rage, enabling it to spill over and not escalate into the physical kind. And it actually indicates that things aren't too bad, after all.
Let me explain by pointing you to a piece of research into stress and swearing, conducted about 40 years ago by Elizabeth Ross, who went with a team of university zoologists on an expedition to Arctic Norway. Eight people were involved, including three, non-swearing, women.
The research, reported by Ashley Montagu in The Anatomy of Swearing, uncovered two kinds of swearing: social and annoyance. Under conditions of low or no stress, the swearing was of a social nature. This swearing was solidarity-oriented and accounted for most of the swearing on the expedition. Another factor in social swearing is the audience. In the presence of other swearers, swearing is mutually reinforcing. But the absence of an appreciative audience inhibits social swearing.
In the week before the expedition, when the men had been together, swearing had been common and friendly. But they felt they had to watch their tongues when the women arrived, not only because of the gender factor but because they were new to a group that had already bonded.
At one point during the expedition, half the group left on a separate trip, including the three non-swearers. The swearing rate among those who remained behind doubled and remained high, which boosted solidarity.
Annoyance swearing was seen as different from social swearing. It occurred under conditions of low to medium stress and functioned irrespective of audience. In fact, as the stress increased, the social swearing went down and the annoyance swearing went up. As the stress continued to rise, social swearing ceased, while annoyance swearing continued to a point and then dropped. In high-stress situations, swearing stopped altogether. One inference to be drawn here is that annoyance swearing in moderately stressful circumstances is a sign that a situation is not unbearable.
It is not necessary, of course, to go all the way to Artic Norway to find out that swearing is socially acquired, not genetic, and that it is a stress-relieving strategy. Bottom line: if you're worried about which laid-off employee is going to show up with a semi-automatic and shoot up the office, be wary of the non-swearers.
ruth@laraconsultancy.com |
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| MarkT |
| quote: | Originally posted by The Highroller
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I am tired of sounding like trailor trash.
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first you need to work on not *looking* like trailer trash :toothless
(sorry Graham, I couldn't resist, lol)
Someone started a swear jar in my office...it lasted about 2 days because they became tired of asking people to pay...if I had to put a dollar in that thing everytime I swore at work, I'd be working for nothing.
just ask your friends to smack you everytime you swear...classic aversion conditioning technique...you'll stop ing swearing pretty quick ;) :toothless |
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| The Highroller |
| quote: | Originally posted by MarkT
first you need to work on not *looking* like trailer trash :toothless
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Don't with me mother******! |
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| Fir3start3r |
| quote: | Originally posted by st0ka.
do what homer did...everytime u swear put 25 cents in a jar |
^^^^^^
What he said.
I've heard lots of people do this one.
You have to be honest though!!!! :toothless
hell...if you're mouthy....you could probably go out for a good meal in a couple of days... |
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| The Highroller |
| Can't do the swear jar. I put all my change into a jar already. :p |
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| Jem_hadar |
| quote: | Originally posted by MarkT
just ask your friends to smack you everytime you swear...classic aversion conditioning technique...you'll stop ing swearing pretty quick ;) :toothless |
Yes, dude, ing ask me to help -- I'll ing KNOCK THE OUTTA YOU whenever you swear. YOu'll love it, we'll both have fun!
(Im not stopping though, that mess, bitch) |
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