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Getting over someone... (pg. 3)
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| raph93 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Danny Ocean
the best way to forget about someone is thinking about how grotesque they really are..so think the worst of her...some guy is probably banging her right now..what a slut..
start from there. |
+1, it works very well! |
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| klingklang77 |
| quote: | Originally posted by pyro264jb
Maybe they both still have feeling for eachother. |
yes they both may still have feelings for each other, but that doesnt really apply if they should be friends right away. in this situation she wanted out, if one wants out and the other doesnt then there is going to be a conflict. he will hang out with her then percieve that wrong, for example 'she wants me back, etc.' and she will think nothing of it.
it just doesnt work, they need to keep out of contact for a bit to get over it. and if they come to the agreement that they both want to be together again then they will, but if one wants it and the other doesnt then nothing can happen. |
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| Dj O'Callaghan |
I've recently come out of a relationship with a friend of mine who I've known for years and happens to be a work colleague aswell! :eek: We remained mates for a month afterwoods and still were flirty and got togther, however I went to a house party with her and she got overly flirty with someone I didn't like it, and lost my temper, we didn't speak for about a month and a half odd but now speak the communication though is difficult though, but I think she is a bit insecure that's why things went to pot.
To be honest with you it's hard but you'll get over it, my best bit of advice would be yes stay friends with her but just avoid her for a few months. Always keep busy, hang around with your mates more, go out loads, go hunting the chicks, go to gym more, buy some decent clothes, just do stuff that will lift your spirts and make you feel good with yourself, then agree to see her again.
After a breakup when you haven't had a say in, naturally you'll feel ty and have a low self esteem, and if you see her so soon afterwoods it will wreck you mate, you will always think how did it go wrong all the time, you'll try and make things better again, and try to think what she is thinking and it will seriously with your head.
If you remain mates and keep in contact with her so soon afterwoods it will just go to , it will make things 100 times harder for you. Some girls unfortunatly will try and keep you wrapped around their little finger and it will give them an almighty big ego boost like they own you in some way.
I think what Danny Ocean is saying is actually a good thing, it's a horrible thought at first but you start to think to yourself after a month or two 'What the did I see in her?', 'I bet that new bloke she is with is the 5th guy this month he'll soon do a ing runner!' After you have your bit of piss taking fun and you see her again, you will feel 100 times better with yourself.
It will take time mate, but just look after yourself. |
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| raph93 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Dj O'Callaghan
I think what Danny Ocean is saying is actually a good thing, it's a horrible thought at first but you start to think to yourself after a month or two 'What the did I see in her?', 'I bet that new bloke she is with is the 5th guy this month he'll soon do a ing runner!' After you have your bit of piss taking fun and you see her again, you will feel 100 times better with yourself.
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totally agree, i had it to my sig :) |
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| goonerjack |
| quote: | | Originally posted by Dj O'Callaghan |
Thanks for taking the time to write that - just reading it has made me feel a lot better, let alone actually doing anything you suggested. Also thanks to everyone else who posted, is comforting to know that other people have been there and can share their experience.
D-res... it's strange, sometimes I really miss her and just want to be back in the relationship, but then again I think she still didn't treat me that well and I guess at times I was foolish when really I shouldn't have cared as much, just can't help it though. Even if she offered to get back together I'm not sure it'd solve how I'm feeling - which partly adds to my confusion because I don't really know what I want myself.
I guess that she's over me seeing as she's the one who decided that it was over between us, but the thought that she wasn't honest about me with that makes me wonder if she'd be any good as a friend - who needs a friend like that?
I contacted her last night just because she was on MSN, so thought I'd see how I'd feel after speaking to her... and it wasn't any worse than before. Part of me misses her as a friend to have a laugh with... but then if that still exists then I presume that I'm still gonna miss her as a girlfriend if we meet up, which would make the hurt even worse again.
Basically all I want is for me to feel better, I'm past the point of caring how she feels now. I normally live looking at the positive side of everything but I've been feeling pretty lately and there's only so much depressing music I can listen to! I'm not exactly short on friends, even though you can never have too many, I'm just not sure myself if it's worth remaining friends as I never got any closure on the relationship...
Just out of interest is there anyone who got dumped and then pursued staying friends, and it's worked out for them? |
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| kr00t0n |
| quote: | Originally posted by goonerjack
Just out of interest is there anyone who got dumped and then pursued staying friends, and it's worked out for them? |
It's one thing staying friends, it's another when after a while she gets a new boyfriend.
For now, total cutt-off is the only viable option for you mate. |
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| Mr. Pink |
haven't read any of the replies....but my advice...
leave it be.
she ignored you like that, didnt just come up front about it. Made you wait and REALIZE what was going on.......that's just .
if she was a real woman, a true friend, some one worthy of hanging out and being cool with- should would have been honest and kind to your emotions. "oh yeah, he'll just notice, ill wait until then"
what a fukin disrespect lol :wtf:
leave it.
move on.
and go to a strip club :tongue2 |
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| Ang ' ela_ie |
| How old are you??? |
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| shades_of_gray |
| quote: | Originally posted by Mr. Pink
haven't read any of the replies....but my advice...
leave it be.
she ignored you like that, didnt just come up front about it. Made you wait and REALIZE what was going on.......that's just .
if she was a real woman, a true friend, some one worthy of hanging out and being cool with- should would have been honest and kind to your emotions. "oh yeah, he'll just notice, ill wait until then"
what a fukin disrespect lol :wtf:
leave it.
move on.
and go to a strip club :tongue2 |
thats what girls do, they know weeks/months before there gunna break up with you.......and thats when they start ignoring you, not wanting to meet you, or have sex with u etc and they start drifting away and letting go,
and they let you go on and on, until u realise....but then its to late to do anything about it, cos they are not in that place anymore |
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| Mr. Pink |
| quote: | Originally posted by shades_of_gray
thats what girls do, they know weeks/months before there gunna break up with you.......and thats when they start ignoring you, not wanting to meet you, or have sex with u etc and they start drifting away and letting go,
and they let you go on and on, until u realise....but then its to late to do anything about it, cos they are not in that place anymore |
Oh i know.
I know thats what they do.
Among a few other approaches, but still.......it's GHEYNESS
the guy is tryin to see if he can be FRIENDS with her, but c'mon...
you and I know that's not gonna happen.
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| Basstard |
why u cant be friends with a girl you have feelings for (particularly the last sentence):
| quote: | | A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired. |
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| Dj_Spekuless |
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WELL NTO AS BAD AS U ARE NOW
BUT WEEEEED HELPS X1000 FOLD |
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