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ok so situation... (pg. 2)
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ang ' ela_ie
Dear Jason,
First and foremost, Ex is dumb for trying to get with Roomate of the boy she dated for... forever. Thats a lame move on her part, I was under the impression that she was a little more with it than that.
Anyways, theres probably not a lot you CAN do about this, because if they want to get together they will. Its not that they want to specifically hurt your feelings or make you feel uncomfortable, but theyre going to do it because thats what people do in these situations. We've all been there before.
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your right on target. its kinda of stupid to ask him if he's having sex or is going to have sex with her. Sounds like they're going to have a short fling. he should just keep out of it and let it run its course. don't ask a question that you know the answer to. If your parents asked you to tell them if and when your going to have sex, you think there is a chance in hell your goin to tell them? |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by jonze234
i'd go to your friend first. and just say, "is there anything between you and ? if there is could you be honest with me and let me know because being lied to about will suck more than if you just told me." its a really tough situation because im sure you dont want to be an and be like "stay away from my ex". |
Just say from the beginning that "there's no problem, I'm just curious". If he says there's something, you know why they might've hidden it from you so far (although there are solid chances that she's hanging out with him just for friendship, as ZzZ Goddess said).
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ang ' ela_ie
Dear Jason,
First and foremost, Ex is dumb for trying to get with Roomate of the boy she dated for... forever. Thats a lame move on her part, I was under the impression that she was a little more with it than that.
Anyways, theres probably not a lot you CAN do about this, because if they want to get together they will. Its not that they want to specifically hurt your feelings or make you feel uncomfortable, but theyre going to do it because thats what people do in these situations. We've all been there before.
Do you see potential for it to last?
Hugs and kisses,
Ang
PS. Jason vs. Roomate? Id choose Jason. ;) |
well i mean if something were happening i wouldn't want to try and stop it...i might keep some sadness and hurt to myself until i get over it, but ultimately i don't think i would try and stop it. i just want to know...because i'm that type of person hahaha :p |
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| Ang ' ela_ie |
Id ask, then. But thats just me.  |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
well i mean if something were happening i wouldn't want to try and stop it...i might keep some sadness and hurt to myself until i get over it, but ultimately i don't think i would try and stop it. i just want to know...because i'm that type of person hahaha :p |
Hey, regardless of the answer, go up there quick, it's like band-aid.
The faster you go, the better it feels. |
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| Mr. Pink |
you and your friend have to talk to each other and BE HONEST about your feelings.
forget the girl
talk to your buddy
i did, i had an open and honest conversation with my friends about my X, they knew what i felt, and that i had plans to return home for her.
and they did stuff with her anywayz.
so yeah, she ended up being slutty, and my friends ended up betraying me, we all know the story
and i ended up dropping them like they were NOBODY's even after knowing them for almost a decade.....and havent talked to them in half a year.
this kind of stuff can get real messy...
so be clear. state what you feel and hopefully the outcome won't be as ty as mine was.
:) |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Mr. Pink
you and your friend have to talk to each other and BE HONEST about your feelings.
forget the girl
talk to your buddy
i did, i had an open and honest conversation with my friends about my X, they knew what i felt, and that i had plans to return home for her.
and they did stuff with her anywayz.
so yeah, she ended up being slutty, and my friends ended up betraying me, we all know the story
and i ended up dropping them like they were NOBODY's even after knowing them for almost a decade.....and havent talked to them in half a year.
this kind of stuff can get real messy...
so be clear. state what you feel and hopefully the outcome won't be as ty as mine was.
:) |
see i knew you'd understand javi. its like...i don't want to end up feeling betrayed and lied to...kinda how your friends screwed you...that's all... |
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| Mr. Pink |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
see i knew you'd understand javi. its like...i don't want to end up feeling betrayed and lied to...kinda how your friends screwed you...that's all... |
believe me, i know how you feel.
I could see it in their eyes, that they desired her.
all of them.
and i knew it too, everytime id have her around, all attention would go to my GF and i'd be in the corner.......it was odd, my friends totally treated her like this goddess (cept one, which when they started to ignore me, him and me would smoke a blunt or drink shots and make fun of ). It was uber ghey, tho.
yer just gonna have to confront your friends like i did with mine.
if your friend respects your feelings, or if you can work something out, good.
if not- i dont know what to say. :wtf: |
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| squirrelly |
| Jason don't you have a new girlfriend? |
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| Floorfiller |
ok so i just heard back from my friend and he confirmed that some stuff has happened...it hurts a little and i'm in a bit of shock about it, but i do think i'll be ok with it...
and yes i have a new girlfriend sara...but i don't see why i can't wonder, in this case i'm actually right, about my friend getting together with my ex? |
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| Slylee |
just feel out the situation a bit longer until you are almost certain something is going on, and then confront your friend...
just be like, "i'm not gonna lie, it would hurt to know that u guys have something going on, but if either of you want to keep my friendship, i suggest you let me know if there is something going on between you two." |
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| NiteMer |
| quote: | Originally posted by Mr. Pink
you and your friend have to talk to each other and BE HONEST about your feelings.
forget the girl
talk to your buddy
i did, i had an open and honest conversation with my friends about my X, they knew what i felt, and that i had plans to return home for her.
and they did stuff with her anywayz.
so yeah, she ended up being slutty, and my friends ended up betraying me, we all know the story
and i ended up dropping them like they were NOBODY's even after knowing them for almost a decade.....and havent talked to them in half a year.
this kind of stuff can get real messy...
so be clear. state what you feel and hopefully the outcome won't be as ty as mine was.
:) |
that !
Bros before hoes!
I think it's a bit different in Jason's situation though. I don't think he told his friends to lay off, because he had closure in the relationship. I may be wrong, but that's the impression I get. |
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