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Has anyone ever had a similar problem with roommates?
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| Lira |
I was wondering if any of you had a good idea to give me.
Except for the time she lived abroad, my girlfriend lived with her mother till the end of 2003, when her family concluded it was better for her to live downtown, after she was kidnapped for mistake. One out of the two times she lived abroad she shared the room and except for language problems (her roommate only spoke Spanish), it was all right.
She first lived in some sort of students community (campus, if you will) near the place she worked at. She was quite alright there. She had become friends with her roommate, everything was fine and dandy but, in the winter of 2004 (July, August, I can't remember), she was beginning to feel lonely there - her roommate was always either travelling or silent due to homesickness - and she decided to move in with some friends, right across the street.
The problem is, she didn't really get along with these friends even before moving in, but she thought she would adapt once she got to know them. Time passed on and even I started to dislike one of the girls, who happens to date a friend of mine as well. She would often ignore us, asking us favours, such as picking her up somewhere and not showing up.
My girlfriend's thinking about moving back to the students community (although her former roommate has left already). Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? Do you have any piece of advice? |
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| nchs09 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
She would often ignore us, asking us favours, such as picking her up somewhere and not showing up.
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if that happened 2ice i wouldnt do it again.
as for roomates.. iv had a couple since i have a dorm and well.. i spent about 1 month in the actual dorm out of my 1 year lease. and never had a problem with them. i had to give them a ride a couple of times when they asked me but other than that nothing. and i didnt have any problems taking them places. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by nchs09
if that happened 2ice i wouldnt do it again. |
That's exactly what happened, eventually. We got fed up of her not even bothering of making excuses up. |
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| ierxium |
The solution is just to move out if you don't feel comfortable with the people or person you're living with it. The process itself or the thought of it keeps some from moving out after realizing that it's hell with the person you're living with.
You don't have to be close friends with your roommate. But trust should be solid between the two. If things don't go that well between the you and your roommate/s you could always bring friends over to avoid loneliness. But that can cause problems.
My brother was in a somewhat similar situation. What he did was wait for the end of the semester. As the end of the semester got closer he realized that he could live more time with his roommate. But this rarely happens with other people. I don't know what changed to be honest. I would've moved after the end of the semester. In fact, that's what I did when I lived with a roommate I had little in common with. I didn't care much about this. But he was lazy and I had to wake him up every day becuase he couldn't hear his alarm clock. He was a pig, bigger than I. Oh, and I lost some CDs. That, among other things, bothered me. So I moved out and never looked back. |
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| nchs09 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
That's exactly what happened, eventually. We got fed up of her not even bothering of making excuses up. |
how many times did this happen? |
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| smokeape |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
I was wondering if any of you had a good idea to give me.
Except for the time she lived abroad, my girlfriend lived with her mother till the end of 2003, when her family concluded it was better for her to live downtown, after she was kidnapped for mistake. One out of the two times she lived abroad she shared the room and except for language problems (her roommate only spoke Spanish), it was all right.
She first lived in some sort of students community (campus, if you will) near the place she worked at. She was quite alright there. She had become friends with her roommate, everything was fine and dandy but, in the winter of 2004 (July, August, I can't remember), she was beginning to feel lonely there - her roommate was always either travelling or silent due to homesickness - and she decided to move in with some friends, right across the street.
The problem is, she didn't really get along with these friends even before moving in, but she thought she would adapt once she got to know them. Time passed on and even I started to dislike one of the girls, who happens to date a friend of mine as well. She would often ignore us, asking us favours, such as picking her up somewhere and not showing up.
My girlfriend's thinking about moving back to the students community (although her former roommate has left already). Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? Do you have any piece of advice? |
Huh?? Boil the scenario down a little into simple facts. Doubt anyone has a similar situation. State your prob...
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| Lira |
Cheers, ierxium :)
I was wondering though, is moving twice in two years too much?
| quote: | Originally posted by nchs09
how many times did this happen? |
3 times. We we're supposed to pick her up after classes at uni. The first time she said her professor had taken longer than expected. The second time, she just said sorry "I had some problems". The third time, when she was 10 minutes late, we decided to go back to the apartment. To our surprise, there she was. When we asked what happened, she just said "Oh, I didn't have the last class". And that was the last time I did her a favour. |
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| nchs09 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Cheers, ierxium :)
I was wondering though, is moving twice in two years too much?
3 times. We we're supposed to pick her up after classes at uni. The first time she said her professor had taken longer than expected. The second time, she just said sorry "I had some problems". The third time, when she was 10 minutes late, we decided to go back to the apartment. To our surprise, there she was. When we asked what happened, she just said "Oh, I didn't have the last class". And that was the last time I did her a favour. |
chillin. that is good. dont do her any more favors. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by smokeape
Huh?? Boil the scenario down a little into simple facts. Doubt anyone has a similar situation. State your prob...
;)
[[[smoke]]] |
- Girlfriend was living in a students community and felt lonely as she had no one to talk to during the weekends (almost everybody was from a neighbouring city, and her roommate was a foreigner who used to travel a lot).
- She then moved to a friend's house. They were not good friends, and they remained not good friend's.
- She now wants to go back to the students community, but would it be silly to go back from where she came from, and moving twice in such short time span?
I can't summarise it more than I've just done :D |
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| ierxium |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
I was wondering though, is moving twice in two years too much?
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For a student, no.
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| nchs09 |
| as long as she is happier than she was in the last plce. well worth it ;) |
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| Lira |
| Indeed... cheers guys :) |
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