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My friend are all whipped! (pg. 2)
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| dance2dabeat |
yeah a good relationship is when u can also get away and do your own thing with your friends.
that is very important to me as I cannot stand couples that cant let each other do that. It is so unhealthy. |
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| Cosmopolitan82 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
Pathetic! Why are Canadian guys so whipped? This is why im single because ive had that fight way too many times in my life. Women need to understand that just because they are part of my life, doesnt mean they ARE my life or can control it as if they were my mother. And likewise!
But Canadian guys get what they deserve because most are spineless losers. |
What makes Canadian guys any more whipped than say, American or Japanese..etc? pls explain.. |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tordan
^^ that relationship isn't going to last long. if you can't trust the other person then what's the point?
about guys being whipped... yes, lots of them are. but what if the guy would rather spend time with his gf in this situation? maybe what his friends are doing doesn't interest him this time around. you gotta take that into consideration as well. |
thats fine sometimes... but we are talking about the dudes that are always stuck to their women or have to check with them to see if its ok to go out. Also the dudes that get harrassed by their women when they are out with the boys and all they have to say about it is "i love you pookie...yeah you are the best"
I have a rule... when im out with the boys, dont call me unless someone is dead/dying. Seriously its not much to ask. |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sly_Guy
relationships don't have to change your friendships. I know several couples which I am completely happy to see endure because the people involved fit so well with each other it makes me happy to see them. One couple in particular, is of a girl who I became good friends with on my floor in first year. She's dating another guy whom I didn't know beforehand, but they meshed so well together her boyfriend has now become one of my good friends. It's at the point where they can come out as a couple, fit in with any group, and not alienate anyone. Furthermore, they are so relaxed with all of their [now mutual] friends, that I or any of them could sit down in their house, just the three of us, and not at all feel out of place. And if they wanted me or any other person to scram so that they could have sex, the method they'd probably use to get rid of us is to get us drunk.
To me, that right there is the ideal relationship. Where you feel equally comfortable with your friends with or without your partner, and sacrifice nothing with reguards to your friends while maintaining a great relationship. I do know couples on the other end of the spectrum tho, and those guys need to grow some friggin balls too. |
EXACTLY
and the ones who need 3 months will end up needing a lifetime. Girls come and go but friends should always be there. |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cosmopolitan82
What makes Canadian guys any more whipped than say, American or Japanese..etc? pls explain.. |
ive dated women of other cultures. Ive also experienced other people in their relationships in other cultures. You'd never get the kind of emasculation as you would here. And women elsewhere dont demand it as they do here.
Not all men and women here are like that but far too many are. |
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| zokissima |
I think that if you're a true friend, you'll allow and understand, and support your friends through their choices in life, and those choices include their relationships with others. Being selfish because now you have less time to hang out with someone doesn't show how much you value their friendship. Be supportive, be happy for them, and be there for them when they need it. If they're good friends, eventually they'll come around, otherwise, well...what can I say, things happen in life, friends come and go. Ultimately, if that's what you're looking for at some point in your life, you'll probably find someone that will end up occupying your time, and will restrict the amount you have left for your friends.
Geez, with the replies on the borad, one would think most of you have never been trully in love. And I'm just curious, what does it matter that he's 25 and she's 18? Why are you imposing your own moral boundaries on someone else? What a friend... |
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| mindspin |
| my buddy has been acting like a sissy for this 18 year old girl as well lately. so what me and all of my friends did was start a rumour that he was getting married and we set up a stag and doe date and location as well. we all changed our msn names to show this info and each of us got loads of messages inquiring about it. so, do to his sissy-ness, he's going to be getting ppl asking him about the wedding for the next two months because there were about 10 of us that seriously played along with it for a couple days. you can't just bail out on all of your buddies like that and fall off the face of the planet for a girl....it is in no way a healthy thing to do. |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by zokissima
I think that if you're a true friend, you'll allow and understand, and support your friends through their choices in life, and those choices include their relationships with others. Being selfish because now you have less time to hang out with someone doesn't show how much you value their friendship. Be supportive, be happy for them, and be there for them when they need it. If they're good friends, eventually they'll come around, otherwise, well...what can I say, things happen in life, friends come and go. Ultimately, if that's what you're looking for at some point in your life, you'll probably find someone that will end up occupying your time, and will restrict the amount you have left for your friends. |
More like, respect your friend if he is being his own man. But let him have it if he;s truely whipped as per the examples above. Please don't confuse whipped with considerate. They are 2 very different things. |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by mindspin
you can't just bail out on all of your buddies like that and fall off the face of the planet for a girl....it is in no way a healthy thing to do. |
people like that were never truely your friend to begin with. |
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| milos |
heh.. emasculation, thats a good way to describe it. i agree with you too.
as far as the topic goes, i say the same things all the time with regards to the original point of making time for your friends if you're in a relationship. HOWEVER, if i was in your friends place and "madly in love", i wouldn't be able to say for sure how that would affect my friendships. ideally i wouldn't want it to affect them at all, but you never know when you're head over heels. on top of that, i've never been in that position to speak from experience either. how many of you that commented have? |
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| zokissima |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
people like that were never truely your friend to begin with. |
How can you say that? Your own refusal to accept their choices in life does no more to show what kind of a friend you are, than their choices do to you, if you chose the stance you have.
ANd who are we to say someone else is whipped? Maybe they are, but love/lust/infatuation has that effect on people. Maybe they'll see the truth of the matter on their own, but you do them no favours by claiming to see the truth for them. |
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