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The Heartbreak Thread (pg. 3)
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| allcentury18 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Turbonium
"But when you fish out the woman you want, you might as well flush the rest." |
i mean, does this stuff just come to you in your sleep or what?
i'm over here takin notes for christ sake |
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| DickRenegade |
unless some amazingly beautiful, sweet, caring, intelligent girl comes into my life with the same goals i don't think i'll ever get over this one. i won't be the same person anymore and it pains me to think she may never see any transformation in me and therefore never seek me out again for a relationship... although she did call my sister and tell her she wanted us to be friends in a couple of months. why are girls so stubborn. any effort you put in after they get the thought of breaking up with you in their minds pushes them further away and makes you look weak or needy.
thanks for all the replies. you guys have no idea what i'm going through unless you've been through it. why do some girls think no contact is going to make it easier for both of them? part of me thinks is the most insensitive and selfish think one can do.
DR
oh, i was with her 6 months to the day by the way. |
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| Miss Bliss |
| quote: | Originally posted by DickRenegade
unless some amazingly beautiful, sweet, caring, intelligent girl comes into my life with the same goals i don't think i'll ever get over this one. i won't be the same person anymore and it pains me to think she may never see any transformation in me and therefore never seek me out again for a relationship... although she did call my sister and tell her she wanted us to be friends in a couple of months. why are girls so stubborn. any effort you put in after they get the thought of breaking up with you in their minds pushes them further away and makes you look weak or needy.
thanks for all the replies. you guys have no idea what i'm going through unless you've been through it. why do some girls think no contact is going to make it easier for both of them? part of me thinks is the most insensitive and selfish think one can do.
DR
oh, i was with her 6 months to the day by the way. |
The whole no contact being better thing is a stunt someone pulls when they don't want to talk to you anymore cause you're being annoying or they just plain don't want you in their life anymore. I'm a girl and guys who have broken up with me have pulled it on me... it's not just a girl thing. It's a thing that means their life would be better without you.... |
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| Aquarian |
| It's hard on you at first, but no contact is way better for you in the end. |
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| DickRenegade |
she's annoyed. the last time we talked on the phone i broke down and she said she really couldn't stand seeing me like that. just wonder how long it'll be before she feels it's safe to talk to me again.
DR |
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| kr00t0n |
| quote: | Originally posted by DickRenegade
unless some amazingly beautiful, sweet, caring, intelligent girl comes into my life with the same goals i don't think i'll ever get over this one. i won't be the same person anymore and it pains me to think she may never see any transformation in me and therefore never seek me out again for a relationship... although she did call my sister and tell her she wanted us to be friends in a couple of months. why are girls so stubborn. any effort you put in after they get the thought of breaking up with you in their minds pushes them further away and makes you look weak or needy.
thanks for all the replies. you guys have no idea what i'm going through unless you've been through it. why do some girls think no contact is going to make it easier for both of them? part of me thinks is the most insensitive and selfish think one can do.
DR
oh, i was with her 6 months to the day by the way. |
Dude, it's not like there is only one compatible person the world you know.
I felt very much like you did at the beginning of the year when my first true love of 1 year broke up with me.
She was everything I could look for in a woman, and as such I thought everything that I would never find again.
10 months down the line and I no longer think this way, I have met 3 woman this year who are as amazing as she was, so it's not the end of the world.
The first few months are the toughest, and going cold turkey, as much as you may not want to, is the best way to move on.
Buck up, will get better :) |
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| DickRenegade |
i just don't see how this no contact thing is better. my ex was really shy and by the time she told me what was bothering her it was too late in her mind because she let it build up.
if she had only given me a chance to work it out i'm so certain we'd still be together and so happy. if i had only kept it cool and didn't break down crying on the phone to her, which made her cry, and not want to talk to me anymore (actually it was i who offered to do so because i really loved her and didn't want her to hurt anymore).
ugh..
DR |
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| Nabistai |
| quote: | Originally posted by DickRenegade
i just don't see how this no contact thing is better. my ex was really shy and by the time she told me what was bothering her it was too late in her mind because she let it build up.
if she had only given me a chance to work it out i'm so certain we'd still be together and so happy. if i had only kept it cool and didn't break down crying on the phone to her, which made her cry, and not want to talk to me anymore (actually it was i who offered to do so because i really loved her and didn't want her to hurt anymore).
ugh..
DR |
Well your posts could easily been written by myself. With the only difference being that we were together for a year. Other than that, exactly the same situation.
Anyways I'm going out with friends tonight and I'm kinda hoping to meet someone. Eventho I'm totally not over her, but I need something to keep my focus on, or I'll just be thinking about her again. I've started going to the gym, so that's my self-improvement part I guess :) |
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| kr00t0n |
| quote: | Originally posted by DickRenegade
i just don't see how this no contact thing is better. my ex was really shy and by the time she told me what was bothering her it was too late in her mind because she let it build up.
if she had only given me a chance to work it out i'm so certain we'd still be together and so happy. if i had only kept it cool and didn't break down crying on the phone to her, which made her cry, and not want to talk to me anymore (actually it was i who offered to do so because i really loved her and didn't want her to hurt anymore).
ugh..
DR |
Most important thing you can learn is that love cannot be forced.
You can't be certain that things would be different because you cant vouch for what's going on in her head.
Harsh as it sounds, tis the truth. |
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| squishymishy |
| awwww hmm the no contact thing is easier on her,, because she dnt wanna see how much she hurt u blablabla... watch.. you will get over her and when you do give it about a week and she will call you or something and with your head even more then all them old feelings will come back and you will either get back together or spend another couple of months getting over her again. aHhhh dont we all love love :) btw dont act needy coz it will juz make her sick.. needy is cute to a point, once you go beyond the point its just yuck lol |
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| DickRenegade |
i'm sure i acted needy. just wonder when she will look beyond it and contact me. ugh, this sucks.
DR |
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| Mr. Pink |
you could be the coolest, cutest, most awesome person in the world......... and the person you adore won't look twice.
it's not always a matter of self improvement, so don't think there's something wrong with you.
it just didn't work out........and as much as accepting this might pain you so....you've got to move on and learn from this. Some one will come eventually.
and on a side note, I just took the nastiest smelling dump ever!:wtf: |
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