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| StanVoid |
So I've lived in California, USA for the past 10 years of my life and I'll be graduating college in December and then heading off to New York to work full time. I've never lived in New York for longer than a few months. So I don't know anyone there, don't have family or friends there, and I'm leaving all that behind in California to try this job out. I must admit, it's pretty scary doing this. New York is a big city that can get pretty lonely. I was wondering if you guys ever had to move away from everything and everyone familiar in your life for a job's sake? How did it turn out? Was it real rough?
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by StanVoid
So I've lived in California, USA for the past 10 years of my life and I'll be graduating college in December and then heading off to New York to work full time. I've never lived in New York for longer than a few months. So I don't know anyone there, don't have family or friends there, and I'm leaving all that behind in California to try this job out. I must admit, it's pretty scary doing this. New York is a big city that can get pretty lonely. I was wondering if you guys ever had to move away from everything and everyone familiar in your life for a job's sake? How did it turn out? Was it real rough?
Please share. |
i can relate to this... although i didn't move for a job, i did move from NY to Milwaukee when i was 18. it was really rough the first couple of months, and i was seriously considering moving back to NY. after a while i started to get used to it and finally felt like i was settling in. there are still times when i feel like i'm still adjusting to life out here, but i have really enjoyed the changes that have occured in my life since i've moved out here.
also, my ex moved to NY for a job at an architectural firm in Manhattan when he was 19 years old. he didn't really know anyone besides me but he quickly made plenty of friends through work and just by going out in the city. eventually he moved back home to Wisconsin (hence the reason i moved out here 3 yrs ago) because life just got too stressful and he missed his friends and family. i think he looks at it as a very positive experience. he still talks sometimes about moving back there, and i think he would if he didn't have a serious girlfriend in college here.
i think it's something that everyone should experience at least once in their life. it can be scary, but you start to learn some amazing things about yourself when you move so far away from everything you know. i know it really helped me grow up and learn a lot more things about real life. plus it's great to experience life in different cities. i would never want to stay in one place my entire life!
good luck with everything! :) |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by StanVoid
So I've lived in California, USA for the past 10 years of my life and I'll be graduating college in December and then heading off to New York to work full time. I've never lived in New York for longer than a few months. So I don't know anyone there, don't have family or friends there, and I'm leaving all that behind in California to try this job out. I must admit, it's pretty scary doing this. New York is a big city that can get pretty lonely. I was wondering if you guys ever had to move away from everything and everyone familiar in your life for a job's sake? How did it turn out? Was it real rough?
Please share. |
yep. I moved to a collge 400 miles away from my home town. It was scary for the first couple of weeks but it forced me to grow up, make new friends, and become independent. |
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| Groundhog Boy |
I moved to NYC 2.5 years ago for my current job. When I moved here, I lived with my now ex-girlfriend's parents for a month until I found a place to live and got some money. I did have a few people that I knew from college, but for the most part, it sucked until she got done with school for the semester (and if you read up on the Cheating thread, you'd know that her return didn't work out to well, either).
Eventually, I got my place with a friend of mine from school. He worked at nights, while I was working during the day, so that didn't really alleviate any loneliness issues (which didn't really start when I got to NYC, because I'd already been stuck at home in western Pennsylvania following college with no friends to hang out with anymore because they'd all moved away). Work helped and didn't help at the same time because I was spending a lot of hours in the office. This kept me from meeting people, but also made me busy enough to occupy my time. In time, new friends came and went. Fortunately, now I have a girlfriend that I've been with for 1.5 years and we spend most of our time together.
In my experience, there were issues, because as you said, NYC is a big place, so options are so plentiful that nothing meaningful develops easily. It's not like college where everyone is in a dorm and you're forced to interact and make new friends because most people are in the same boat as you. That said, there's a lot that I love here. There's always opportunities to go out and try something new. There are tons of different people here, so you can easily ignore the ones that annoy you (which coming from a small town originally, I understand the value of)
Also, if you're coming here, I'd recommend using the NYC forums before you arrive. Give people a bit of a heads up and try to get to know people from here when you arrive. At the least, you'll have some recognizable faces to say hi to when you get here. |
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| lücid |
| one more tip... the best falafel can be found at Mamoun's on Macdougal St in the village. :D |
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| Floorfiller |
| you should hit up the local NY forum. lots of cool TA's out in that part...that'd make the transition a whole lot easier... |
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| StanVoid |
thanks for all the great responses guys, esp. lucid and groundhogboy. When I had an internship in NY at the same company this past summer, I actually did scour the NYTA board a lot. Even went to a meetup for Ferry @ Crobar :) It definitely does help, TA's are awesome kids in real life no doubt about that.
I guess once i get to new york, i'll just have to go with the flow and see how I adapt to everything over time. It might work out, it might not -- but I'll know I gave it a try at least. |
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| verndogs |
| quote: | Originally posted by StanVoid
So I've lived in California, USA for the past 10 years of my life and I'll be graduating college in December and then heading off to New York to work full time. I've never lived in New York for longer than a few months. So I don't know anyone there, don't have family or friends there, and I'm leaving all that behind in California to try this job out. I must admit, it's pretty scary doing this. New York is a big city that can get pretty lonely. I was wondering if you guys ever had to move away from everything and everyone familiar in your life for a job's sake? How did it turn out? Was it real rough?
Please share. |
You did meet a few of us NYTAs including me when you were here for Ferry in July @ Crobar. I'm sure you'll befriend a few of us off the boards and have no problems networking from there. |
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| raph93 |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
one more tip... the best falafel can be found at Mamoun's on Macdougal St in the village. :D |
Carl Cox used to eat these huge falafel with a lot of Humus :wtf: |
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| eye_03 |
| so how much did he tip for said falafel?:conf: |
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| Groundhog Boy |
| quote: | Originally posted by StanVoid
thanks for all the great responses guys, esp. lucid and groundhogboy. When I had an internship in NY at the same company this past summer, I actually did scour the NYTA board a lot. Even went to a meetup for Ferry @ Crobar :) It definitely does help, TA's are awesome kids in real life no doubt about that. |
I thought I remembered you from the NY forum already, guess ^^^this is why. |
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| Trancealot |
New york is alright. Probably better than cali. Freakin mudslides, earthquakes, have to wear your seatbelt in the backseat no matter what age! I never been to cali but thats what I learned from the media. The seatbelt thing a friend of mine told me when he went out there and never paid it and got a huge summons.
Manhattan itself is expensive so make sure you can afford atleast 1k/month rent or share with someone might help or even sharing might come out the same. Food is exepensive, the drinks at clubs are expensive. Just make sure your job pays enough for living. You don't need a car unless you make enough $$ because transporation is good except when they have those bomb threats. Hot97 and 105.1 is good in the morning for the radio and trance music good for when you have your mp3 player with you. Thats abut it. $$$$
ps..I almost forgot 103.5 plays ok electronica at nighttime certain days of the week |
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