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Is HONESTY the best policy?
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| Killah Monkey |
I am sure most of us would agree that honesty is the best policy, but what if the honesty serves no purpose?
eg: What is the purpose of telling someone that the person they broke up with is now getting married so soon... is there a purpose in being honest? Especially if that person is ready to move on with out this knowledge...?
She_Fitz came up with some fabulous rules to be honest...
1) If it's the truth
2) If it serves a purpose
3) If it's good
IMO, good words to go by...
Not everyone would agree I am sure...
Thoughts...? |
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| Time2Burn |
| Always tell the truth but at times people don't need to know the "whole" truth. |
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| yankeeBaby |
Choose your words :)
There is a way of being honest but also being mindful of the persons feelings if it is something they may not want to hear :) |
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| Djsketchbag |
| Well in this occasion, your keeping something from someone not to hurt their feelings but this can also be a double edhed sword cuz on one hand your doing good not to hurt that person but on the other think about how hurt that person is gonna be when they find out that u knew all along and didn't tell them. |
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| Killah Monkey |
| quote: | Originally posted by yankeeBaby
Choose your words :)
There is a way of being honest but also being mindful of the persons feelings if it is something they may not want to hear :) |
I agree with you 100%
It's not constructive, but hurtful if you choose negative words...
Some people would say, "hey, I am just being honest", but there is ways not be to be mean and hurtful and still be honest... IMO |
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| Moral Hazard |
| people claim to want honesty but the truth is that they only want an honest answer if it is comfortable for them to hear. Many times telling someone the truth about a situation or giving them an honest answer can be the worst harm you can do to them. |
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| El Kay Dee |
honesty has never gotten me any good.
mostly cos my honest reasons seem most absurd to the listener:rolleyes: |
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| ** TigerLily ** |
All very good points especially about using the right words AND you also have to choose the right moment!
You can look at it another way... sure the truth may be hurtful now and not have any purpose, BUT will it be worse if the truth was found out later, maybe from other people and at bad time. I think keeping the truth from someone who cares and trusts you can be more hurtful than the truth itself. |
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| Killah Monkey |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
people claim to want honesty but the truth is that they only want an honest answer if it is comfortable for them to hear. Many times telling someone the truth about a situation or giving them an honest answer can be the worst harm you can do to them. |
Honesty can always be put in a managable statement to the receiver.
Example: Someone goes too hard on the weekend...
a) tell them that you think they acted like a crackhead ..
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b) tell them that you could tell by their actions that they overdid it on the weekend .. |
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| EvilTree |
I do believe that having a reputation of honesty does good in the long run. At least you're consistent and other people know what to expect from you. They may not like it, but they can respect you for your honesty.
Having said that, there are ways of being honest. Like others have said, choosing words carefully.
But on the other hand, don't blame the other guy for being honest when you ask questions such as, 'am I fat' when you're fat and the other guy tells you honestly that you're fat. |
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| El Kay Dee |
| quote: | Originally posted by EvilTree
But on the other hand, don't blame the other guy for being honest when you ask questions such as, 'am I fat' when you're fat and the other guy tells you honestly that you're fat. |
:stongue: :stongue: :stongue: |
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| El Kay Dee |
| quote: | Originally posted by EvilTree
But on the other hand, don't blame the other guy for being honest when you ask questions such as, 'am I fat' when you're fat and the other guy tells you honestly that you're fat. |
:stongue: :stongue: :stongue: |
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