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| ride^snowboards |
Not sure how busy people make themselves or how much people decide to take on but you ever get that feeling that there is so much to do and there is just not enough feasible time to get it done?
maybe it's the new york mentality, the on the go or the multitasking we all are too familiar with. I mean come on, people walking from one place to another while reading a book, magazine, etc. it's the new york way isn't it?
sometimes i feel like it's too much...i think that sometimes, like life in the city compared to when i lived in queens. it's become so much more hectic, there is always deadlines and priorities and responsibilities, when will there ever be time for joy...
in case you haven't noticed...
anyways...i want to see if people relate? maybe i make my life difficult and others choose to be less involved and are happy that way. for me it seems like i always have to be productive doing stuff having an agenda....it keeps me organized, focused, determined, and down right makes me feel good, but some times, it's too much.
now i'm not trying to boast about my life or anything, just that since it's the beginning of 2006, i've made some choices about what i wish to accomplish. maybe these goals are too aggressive, maybe im trying to get to some place that isn't for me right now...i need someone to talk sense to me, i need opinions and suggestions....criticism ok! but try not to be too harsh, i'm on the verge of a mental breakdown or shall we say...im gonna snap and blow up on someone who doesn't deserve it.. |
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| Groundhog Boy |
| quote: | Originally posted by ride^snowboards
Not sure how busy people make themselves or how much people decide to take on but you ever get that feeling that there is so much to do and there is just not enough feasible time to get it done?
maybe it's the new york mentality, the on the go or the multitasking we all are too familiar with. I mean come on, people walking from one place to another while reading a book, magazine, etc. it's the new york way isn't it?
sometimes i feel like it's too much...i think that sometimes, like life in the city compared to when i lived in queens. it's become so much more hectic, there is always deadlines and priorities and responsibilities, when will there ever be time for joy...
in case you haven't noticed...
anyways...i want to see if people relate? maybe i make my life difficult and others choose to be less involved and are happy that way. for me it seems like i always have to be productive doing stuff having an agenda....it keeps me organized, focused, determined, and down right makes me feel good, but some times, it's too much.
now i'm not trying to boast about my life or anything, just that since it's the beginning of 2006, i've made some choices about what i wish to accomplish. maybe these goals are too aggressive, maybe im trying to get to some place that isn't for me right now...i need someone to talk sense to me, i need opinions and suggestions....criticism ok! but try not to be too harsh, i'm on the verge of a mental breakdown or shall we say...im gonna snap and blow up on someone who doesn't deserve it.. |
Dude, just smoke a bowl and calm down. It's not that bad.
I get what you mean by packing in your schedule, though. I think it's because there are so many options that we just get overwhelmed because you want to try everything. It's one reason that I think the average ages for milestones in life have increased, too. One thing in particular is dating/marriage. In my hometown, lots of people went to high school with are married. The dating pool isn't that large there and if you're not moving away, you work with what you have. Conversely, most of the people that I went to high school with that went to college and skipped town (like me) aren't even thinking about getting married. There are too many options that there's not the "grab it before it's gone" attitude. |
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| ride^snowboards |
Well I'm fairly calm about the situation, just trying to compare myself to a different standard outside of what i believe to be true. maybe im taking life too fast? thats what my consideration is, that maybe i should be quitting my job, living with my parents, and still live the adolescence. maybe i shouldnt? yes those are extreme cases, but you get what i mean when i want to compare myself. it lets me think outside of what i have written down on my to-do list. like i look at my to-do list and i look at your to-do list and wonder why do you do the things you do and why do i do the things i do.
of course we are different people with different standards and objectives in life, but without comparison, how does one ground themselves? maybe im at a point in my life where i need to realize that i can only take on xxx amount of things because i begin to think i fall off on certain areas once i try to take on "over xxx amount of things". a good quote would be quality over quantity.
maybe it's a business mentality, where everything is an angle. everyone i talk to i see as green, or ideas that constantly run through my head. maybe i just want to be rich and have less priorities and less things to do because i can afford to not do them. i think i'll go play the lotto now... |
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| Choobak |
I think the need to stay busy is something uniquely American that stems from our materialistic lifestyle and the fact that we are constantly comparing ourselves to others.
By constantly comparing ourselves to others - mostly subconciously -we see the supposed joy that material goods can bring and strive to achieve higher social and economic status which, we hope, will ultimately allow us to fulfill our materialistic desires. We believe the clearest path to higher status is hard work and long working hours so we try and keep ourselves as busy as possible in order to meet our lofty goals. If, however, we don't find ourselves busy, we begin to actively compare ourselves to others and push ourselves to become ever more busy. It's a vicious cycle.
So, many Americans push themselves hard, work long hours, and try to stay as busy as possible but ultimately do not like what they are doing since they sometimes do realize how ridiculous this entire rat race is.
What we really need to do is take a page from the Europeans and calm the down. I'll take 35 hour work weeks and 6 weeks of vacation any day...
Those are my two cents. :toothless |
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| Trance Addix |
| quote: | Originally posted by Choobak
I think the need to stay busy is something uniquely American that stems from our materialistic lifestyle and the fact that we are constantly comparing ourselves to others.
By constantly comparing ourselves to others - mostly subconciously -we see the supposed joy that material goods can bring and strive to achieve higher social and economic status which, we hope, will ultimately allow us to fulfill our materialistic desires. We believe the clearest path to higher status is hard work and long working hours so we try and keep ourselves as busy as possible in order to meet our lofty goals. If, however, we don't find ourselves busy, we begin to actively compare ourselves to others and push ourselves to become ever more busy. It's a vicious cycle.
So, many Americans push themselves hard, work long hours, and try to stay as busy as possible but ultimately do not like what they are doing since they sometimes do realize how ridiculous this entire rat race is.
What we really need to do is take a page from the Europeans and calm the down. I'll take 35 hour work weeks and 6 weeks of vacation any day...
Those are my two cents. :toothless |
Its all about feeling happy inside(I know its a cliche)--wheather its settling down with a loved one or working your ass off. If it makes you happy do it....thats my motto, and it works. :toocool: |
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| ZzZ The Goddess |
I feel that way all the time. I handled it in my own way by eliminating the things that I do (whether I find them enjoyable or not) that are not essential to my everday life.
I stopped going out pretty much altogether unless absolutely necesarry but its at the cost of loosing touch with my friends but at the gain of being able to save more money to do important things.
I am focusing on keeping my finaces and spending more time with my family and in the end they are the ones that matter most anyway. I have more time to relax, I am not rushing in and out of the door anymore worrying about whether I will make it on time to my next meeting.
I am no longer the initiator. I let people call me, I call pretty much no one. When they call I invite them over and if they want to they can come see me if not im not gonna sweat it.
The result...I cant complain. Im not bored but im not overtired either, and I have more money in my pocket.
BTW why the name change? |
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| phoenixBEBE |
| quote: | Originally posted by ZzZ The Goddess
I feel that way all the time. I handled it in my own way by eliminating the things that I do (whether I find them enjoyable or not) that are not essential to my everday life.
I stopped going out pretty much altogether unless absolutely necesarry but its at the cost of loosing touch with my friends but at the gain of being able to save more money to do important things.
I am focusing on keeping my finaces and spending more time with my family and in the end they are the ones that matter most anyway. I have more time to relax, I am not rushing in and out of the door anymore worrying about whether I will make it on time to my next meeting.
I am no longer the initiator. I let people call me, I call pretty much no one. When they call I invite them over and if they want to they can come see me if not im not gonna sweat it.
The result...I cant complain. Im not bored but im not overtired either, and I have more money in my pocket.
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im doing similar things this year. I'm making decisions on things...on what I do with my spare time...still spending $ but its on things other than partying in clubs...things i consider more worthwhile, trying new things, travelling etc. :tongue2 as for maintaining friendships, as of December ive been looking long and hard at who I actually consider friends, and making effort to keep in contact with those i care MOST about. :] not so hard, i mean, we keep in touch Z don't we? :D even tho we barely see each other in person.
| quote: | Originally posted by ZzZ The Goddess
BTW why the name change? |
lol thats simple. he LOVES snowboarding, can't u tell? :D LOL |
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| Choobak |
| quote: | Originally posted by Trance Addix
Its all about feeling happy inside(I know its a cliche)--wheather its settling down with a loved one or working your ass off. If it makes you happy do it....thats my motto, and it works. :toocool: |
That's a good way to live - but how do you know you wouldn't ultimately be happier doing something else? Hmmmm, I guess in the end, ignorance can be bliss... |
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| phoenixBEBE |
| quote: | Originally posted by Choobak
That's a good way to live - but how do you know you wouldn't ultimately be happier doing something else? Hmmmm, I guess in the end, ignorance can be bliss... |
hmm...don't worry, be happy?
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| ride^snowboards |
| quote: | Originally posted by phoenixBEBE
lol thats simple. he LOVES snowboarding, can't u tell? :D LOL |
snow? which one... |
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| Taub |
| quote: | Originally posted by Choobak
I think the need to stay busy is something uniquely American that stems from our materialistic lifestyle and the fact that we are constantly comparing ourselves to others.
By constantly comparing ourselves to others - mostly subconciously -we see the supposed joy that material goods can bring and strive to achieve higher social and economic status which, we hope, will ultimately allow us to fulfill our materialistic desires. We believe the clearest path to higher status is hard work and long working hours so we try and keep ourselves as busy as possible in order to meet our lofty goals. If, however, we don't find ourselves busy, we begin to actively compare ourselves to others and push ourselves to become ever more busy. It's a vicious cycle.
So, many Americans push themselves hard, work long hours, and try to stay as busy as possible but ultimately do not like what they are doing since they sometimes do realize how ridiculous this entire rat race is.
What we really need to do is take a page from the Europeans and calm the down. I'll take 35 hour work weeks and 6 weeks of vacation any day...
Those are my two cents. :toothless |
i have to agree with you 101.09%
When you travel you see how bad the american way of life is, but i am not saying the quality of life here is bad at all compared to others. But its that the stress level here is soo much higher than other places. I noticed this when i was in india, people are dirt poor but they are happy with what they have. They dont need the biggest house on the block, the fastest and most luxurious cars. They dont even have homes or own a car yet they are so much more happier than us and they are always smiling. I havent see any strangers on the street smile they all look pissed off.
Another thing is that when the electricity goes out for a couple of hours people here would bitch whine and complain about it, but when it happens in india all the time and they just light up a candle and go on with their business and they might not even get it back for couple of days. When the internet connection or the tv or their cell phone doesnt work people freak out as if it was the end of their life. We depend up on too many things to make our life easier and i think thats very bad. The more we rely on technology the more stupid we become. Who here even memorizes telephone #s? i doubt many
We have freedom in some ways but we really dont...we are like machines. We go to school for 18+ years and then we work for another 30+ years and look forward to retirment. I mean who wants to live like that??...most of us dont even take some time each day to just sit and relax to do nothing and then we wonder where all the time has gone or why they years are just pasing by.
I meet many europeans in Goa who work for 6 months then go to india and have a vaction for another 6 months. Who wouldnt want to do that? I woudlnt mind doing it
I understand we all have to work to make a living etc. But i rather make some money retire, go buy some land in brasil and live on the beach while working at a resturant. So simple
Capitalism sucks! |
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| Trance Addix |
| quote: | Originally posted by Taub
i have to agree with you 101.09%
When you travel you see how bad the american way of life is, but i am not saying the quality of life here is bad at all compared to others. But its that the stress level here is soo much higher than other places. I noticed this when i was in india, people are dirt poor but they are happy with what they have. They dont need the biggest house on the block, the fastest and most luxurious cars. They dont even have homes or own a car yet they are so much more happier than us and they are always smiling. I havent see any strangers on the street smile they all look pissed off.
Another thing is that when the electricity goes out for a couple of hours people here would bitch whine and complain about it, but when it happens in india all the time and they just light up a candle and go on with their business and they might not even get it back for couple of days. When the internet connection or the tv or their cell phone doesnt work people freak out as if it was the end of their life. We depend up on too many things to make our life easier and i think thats very bad. The more we rely on technology the more stupid we become. Who here even memorizes telephone #s? i doubt many
We have freedom in some ways but we really dont...we are like machines. We go to school for 18+ years and then we work for another 30+ years and look forward to retirment. I mean who wants to live like that??...most of us dont even take some time each day to just sit and relax to do nothing and then we wonder where all the time has gone or why they years are just pasing by.
I meet many europeans in Goa who work for 6 months then go to india and have a vaction for another 6 months. Who wouldnt want to do that? I woudlnt mind doing it
I understand we all have to work to make a living etc. But i rather make some money retire, go buy some land in brasil and live on the beach while working at a resturant. So simple
Capitalism sucks! |
Capitalism has given us many options and oppurtunities--it has its benefits; but it is a double-edged sword. With capitalism comes competion, which ultimately makes everyone enemeis and raises the stress level dramatically. And I also noticed that there are a lot of corporate robots...America is great country statistically....living in it is a whole other story. With that said, I wouldn't want to go to anywhere else, I feel this country has done wonders for my family and I am thankful. |
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