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"Yeah, uh uh" and its social importance
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| Lira |
Sometimes, you don't notice something until you miss it. That's how I realised how strange it is when people just remain silent when you're talking.
There's this lad I study "Philosophy of Psychology" with and, since we have some interests in common (Linguistics, for example), we talk about it. He's very intelligent and it's nice to talk to him, but there's something weird about it.
He's got a very strong sense of "turns": When it's his turn to talk, he will talk; whenever is someone else's turn, he won't say a word. I never realised how strange that was until now - when he's speaking, I give signs saying that I'm interested, such as "uh uh, yeah, o rly?", but he doesn't say a word when I'm speaking. Even in class, he doesn't he talk unless he's asked to talk (although he does raise his hand and patiently waits until the professor allows him to talk). The fact that he looks just like Richard D. James (aka Aphex Twin) doesn't make things less strange :D
'sike... yeah, I miss the filler words :p |
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| Silky Johnson |
| It's probably strange because most people aren't active listeners. |
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| CONNERMAN2000 |
| ooomg i know EXACTLY what you mean. A friend of my old roommates' came by to visit..and I was talkin to him...same exact thing. There were more awkward silences in our one conversation then i have ever experienced throughout my whole life. |
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| stren |
| its a cultural thing also (i have studied about it) |
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| Slylee |
i have a bad habit of finishing people's sentences when they aren't talking up to my speed. i get impatient. i mean, i dont do it in a bitchy way, but i don't like to watch (and wait for) people struggling in trying to figure out what they're saying.
so i guess that's a sign that im listening.:stongue: |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Sometimes, you don't notice something until you miss it. That's how I realised how strange it is when people just remain silent when you're talking.
There's this lad I study "Philosophy of Psychology" with and, since we have some interests in common (Linguistics, for example), we talk about it. He's very intelligent and it's nice to talk to him, but there's something weird about it.
He's got a very strong sense of "turns": When it's your turn to talk, he will talk; whenever is someone else's turn, he won't say a word. I never realised how strange that was until now - when he's speaking, I give signs saying that I'm interested, such as "uh uh, yeah, o rly?", but he doesn't say a word when I'm speaking. Even in class, he doesn't he talk unless he's asked to talk (although he does raise his hand and patiently waits until the professor allows him to talk). The fact that he looks just like Richard D. James (aka Aphex Twin) doesn't make things less strange :D
'sike... yeah, I miss the filler words :p |
do you 'yeah uh uh' when you're reading my posts? :conf:
i have a feeling someon is going to comment on my edit |
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
do you 'uh umm' when you're reading my posts? :conf: |
He does that while he's waiting for each subsequent edit.
Edit - LOL caught you in one!
"Yeah, uh uh" |
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| Psy-T |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
i have a bad habit of finishing people's sentences when they aren't talking up to my speed. i get impatient. i mean, i dont do it in a bitchy way, but i don't like to watch (and wait for) people struggling in trying to figure out what they're saying. |
i'm worse, i dont even complete the sentence, i just reply to it before it's done (sometimes i even skip that one and reply to that sentence's inevitable reply). :o |
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| Psy-T |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
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does that friend of yours at least have the courtesy to nod? |
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| Lira |
I often do the same, Slylee :p
| quote: | Originally posted by stren
its a cultural thing also (i have studied about it) |
Yeah, I'm aware of it, but this is why I was confused at first: this "silent" behaviour is not common here in Brazil.
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
It's probably strange because most people aren't active listeners. |
Actually I think it's the opposite: it's probably strange because most people aren't passive listeners :p |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
do you 'yeah uh uh' when you're reading my posts? :conf: |
But, in that case, I'm reading you, not listening :p
| quote: | Originally posted by Psy-T
does that friend of yours at least have the courtesy to nod? |
Sometimes. |
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| Dervish |
| I'm silent when people speak I nod and that though. And I really, really, really hate being interupted when I'm talking. No higher form of disrespect in my opinion. |
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