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| ahway26 |
Congrats:) man...feelings..i feel right but ALL my friends who got married told me to hold on and dont get married...i guess dats cause they lost the freedom feeling or something.
| quote: | Originally posted by grooviebeats
im 25 and i just got engaged on 04/18/06. I feel waiting this long was a good decision. I wanted to wait since my dad had been married 5 times it was very important for me to wait till it was right. After over 5 years of being with my girlfriend it was time. My point is it shouldnt matter how old you are as long as it feels right. |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by ahway26
Getting married at earlier age (age26-28) or later? pass 30?
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where i live (Wisconsin), getting married at age 26-28 would be considered late. it seems the trend of young marriages is around the ages of 20-23, which i think is too young. i'm always shocked when i meet a girl my age who introduces me to her husband.
personally for me i think i'd like to be married around age 25-26. i think waiting past 30 years of age is too late, because when you're getting into that age range you're generally dealing with a greater number of people who are already married/divorced/with kids.
oh, and i never want kids. |
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| bidor |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
oh, and i never want kids. |
no? |
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| Theresa |
I have made a personal promise to myself that I will not get married before the age of 26, and I MUST be with the person for more than 3 years, and have lived with them for at least one before I would even consider it.
I want to ADOPT in my 30's...
I know this may sound selfish, but.. you only live once, and the best years of your life, in my opinion, are your 20's. You're young enough to party and enjoy life, old enough to do as you please, healthy enough to get those crazy things out of the way, good looking enough to have fun (if you know what I mean). Why waste those years taking care of another human being?! You just stopped being taken care of yourself. Take time to be just you, discover who you are, travel, explore with nothing holding you back. Live life. You have tonnes of time later on to devote your life to a marriage and children. So you might be a bit older, and sure there is a larger age gap, but at least by that point you are mature enough to know what you truly believe in, and hopefully secure enough to offer a stable lifestyle.
Naturally, being female, I have thought this through, and I honestly believe that my plan would be best for me.
Whenever I get married (if I get married,) it will be a one shot deal. None of this divorce B.S. I don't want to be a statistic, so I need to make it seriously count, and I need to be VERY sure that it's what I want. |
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| DJ RJT |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
where i live (Wisconsin), getting married at age 26-28 would be considered late. it seems the trend of young marriages is around the ages of 20-23, which i think is too young. i'm always shocked when i meet a girl my age who introduces me to her husband.
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I think it may be even earlier, especially the further north you go. So many people I know end up married by the time they're done with college, it's really strange.
I also know an insane amount of people who seem to have married the first person they ever ed/had any physical feelings for - Which isn't to say they waited to them til they were married, they just latched onto the first /they touched because that's what's apparently proper...
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
oh, and i never want kids. |
+1
But then again, you already knew that... :p |
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| ahway26 |
| i didnt want kid also, BUT what if a girl u really like and married to WANTS ONE or even TWO?? |
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| Arbiter |
Generally, I would advise against marriage regardless of your age. I just think that it's the easiest way to ruin a perfectly good relationship, because it induces both parties towards complacency and taking the other for granted.
I don't plan to ever have time to raise a child, and I'll be damned if I'm going to bring another child into this world who doesn't get the parental attention that he or she needs. So for me, children are a definitive "no" as well, although unlike marriage I can appreciate other people wanting to have children, and even respect it (if they actually understand the responsibility it entails...) |
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| grooviebeats |
| quote: | Originally posted by ahway26
Congrats:) man...feelings..i feel right but ALL my friends who got married told me to hold on and dont get married...i guess dats cause they lost the freedom feeling or something. |
thanks! |
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| Protege |
| quote: | Originally posted by DJ RJT
I think it may be even earlier, especially the further north you go. So many people I know end up married by the time they're done with college, it's really strange.
I also know an insane amount of people who seem to have married the first person they ever ed/had any physical feelings for - Which isn't to say they waited to them til they were married, they just latched onto the first /they touched because that's what's apparently proper...
+1
But then again, you already knew that... :p |
well the thought of these 2 having kids is kinda disturbing:
:p |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
where i live (Wisconsin), getting married at age 26-28 would be considered late. |
I'm not sure whether this would be considered late here (doesn't seem so), but I do know some girls that get married at age 18-21. In fact, my own mother got married at that age.
As for the topic, age doesn't mean anything at all. |
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| wizniz |
| quote: | Originally posted by jonSun
wait as long as u can for marrige & kids. |
- kids
+ 1
=my sentiments |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Protege
well the thought of these 2 having kids is kinda disturbing:
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:haha:
good point... can you guys imagine a bunch of little lucids and RJTs running around? :wtf: |
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