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Sad and Confused. What am I to do?
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| Electric_Hybrid |
Ok so here's the deal. I have sorted my life out to the best of my knowledge. I would just like to know if you guys and gals think that I am makin the right choice at such a young age, and how do I tell my friends about it?
Here is my situation. I have been totally clean for 4 months now (No drugs), and I quit smoking. I know that is a good thing but here is my pickle. I joined the army and I leave for basic on June 21. I broke up with my girlfriend because I didn't wnat it to go on longer just to have to say goodbye in 3 months anyway. I am leaving home to move about 2000 kilometers away from all of my family and friends because that is where the regiment I joined is stationed. Me and my friends are very, very close. I would die for each and every one of them and they would do the same. How do I tell them about me moving away. Oh and my girlfriend....Well I never gave her a reason for breaking up with her and I didn't even want to because I love her with all of my heart. Should I tell her that I may never see her again? I don't know...I am so confused. I know I made a mistake along the line because I feel like e all the time. But this is what I want to do with my life so I should be happy. What do I do? Any imput would help. |
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| Vivid Boy |
| dude man tied up any loose ends...u seem to feel like u have enuff....so u better tie them all up before u leave....its up to you what the solution is...nobody can tell u the solution...just if it were me and i was going to war i would not want to leave my home with any loose ends because what happens if i dont come back..=/ do what u got to do... |
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| Dmatrox |
| Tell your girl friend and your best friends the complete truth. I know it hurts, but that way it will benefit everyone, and that way you wont have to feel guilty later on in life for not telling your girl friend the truth. Tell her how you feel and just tell the truth. k? |
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| Tranex02 |
I think you should definitly tell them your plans.....cuz i remember when i left my BEST friends a couple years back, i didn't tie up the loose ends and tell them that i was leaving. I still regret it, I wished that i could go back and tell them...cuz now our friendship is probably weaker...
Just be sure to express your true feelings to them....
*it's ok to cry* :D .....
anyway, Good luck with your future plans! |
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| biznology |
yeah i agree, you gotta tell the whats up. if you would die for them - and assuming they feel the same - they will understand. besides leaving them without so much a word will hurt both you and your group of friends more than anything else...
then again, if you feel a clean break is necessary, then weigh that option also. i just say think about the future- whats best for you, and will you be able to face them again if you just up and leave. i know ive considered that before, one of my best friends moved to Washington while i moved to Michigan. we let some petty, immature bull come between us, and just barely kept ties over time. even now, after not seeing them for almost a year now (weve lived apart much longer) we are still good friends. luck/ |
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| dvd |
| dude, what did you tell her then for the reason to break up. of course u gotta tell her, so she understands. |
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| Electric_Hybrid |
| quote: | Originally posted by dvd
dude, what did you tell her then for the reason to break up. of course u gotta tell her, so she understands. |
I told her that I just needed to be alone for a while.
Thank u everyone. I am for sure gonna tell them I just don't know how. |
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| Tranex02 |
yea...that's kinda though.....
have you ever mentioned anything about joining the service infront of them before....
like are they aware of that you have thought about joining before?
If so, you can bring up the subject when you guys see eachother next time...just explain your situation to them....
About the girl, i would send her a small card or bouquet of flowers, and then if you guys decide to meet, you can tell her the story and then explain to her everything... |
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| SmellsExcellent |
Your friends, if they truly are close friends, will understand and respect your decision.. youll see them again. Your girl is a different situation. since you broke up with her itll be harder to deal with.. i dont see the point in breaking up with her now, theres nothing wrong with being close to someone, even if you know it has to end soon. I think you should just apologize for not giving her a good reason and see what happens. hopefully you can remain friends and you wont lose that. Just breaking up with her withouth a legit reason is kinda harsh..
I am leaving my home to go to school away from everyone i know so we are in similar situations. I, however, will be able to visit home more often as long as i can afford to make the trip moneywise and timewise... whatever. People close to you will understand, so just tell em.
-Marc |
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| miss_e |
dont get why you cant fess up to your friends..
do it theyll understand if you guys are that close to one another
as for your girlfriend i think you did best cause itd be ridiculous to be together when youll be leaving soon... |
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| Electric_Hybrid |
Thanx for all the suggestions. I appreciate it greatly.
I talked to ma girl and I told her everything and she agreed that it would be the best idea to be just friends until I leave and to keep in touch after that. we would rather just do that instead of haveing a last day together because then I would regret leaving and she would regret letting me go.
I have told my best friend as well and he arranged for everyone to meet at his house on the weekend and we are gonna have a huge party to celebrate my decision. But none of my other friends know yet. I have to tell them at the party. |
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| NY1004 |
| Yea definitely tell your GF and your friends the truth. You shouldn't have to think twice about being up front with these people if you keep them close to your heart, becauae in the end they will understand and will be there for you no matter how long you are away in the army. |
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