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| Caela |
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so i'm probably going to kick myself for making this thread after the overwhelming support from the last one...but i'm sick, home, and bored.
ok...i'm having one of those life transition times...where you're not quite sure what you want to do, or what you should do. at the end of high school, i moved out of my parents house abruptly - we didn't have a good relationship, but that's a completely different can of worms. so anyway, this upset them TREMENDOUSLY (they still won't let me live it down), and moved to burlington (next town over from my hometown). i then deferred my enrollment at the local university, took a year off, and worked. with my parents pressuring me start school again, i enrolled in classes, and just finished my first semester. it sucked.
i have no idea what i want to study (and still don't), my smallest class was 150 kids (UVM also has the highest instate tuition in the country @ $10,000/yr [not counting room/board]), and i know this town like the back of my hand...i'm so sick of it. i have this overwhelming feeling of discontent, there's so much that i need to see and this stupid town is like a sesspool of negativity, boredom, and trustfund kids (which i am the last thing from). and to top it off, after going to all of my classes, doing all of my work...i BARELY passed my classes. i'm on academic probation now, and if i get one more semester of that, i am dismissed. my parents won't pay for me to go to any other school. i tried explaining this to them (haven't told em about my grades yet), but they are puzzled as to why i can't just "suck it up for 4 years".... 4 years is a LONG ASS TIME to do something that makes you unhappy.
has anyone been trapped like this? i'm thinking of withdrawing at the end of my freshman year, and applying to a school in montreal for the winter semester '08 (where i have wanted to go for a few years now), and working up until then. and then basically taking out a load of loans and wracking up debt. but hey at least i'll be happy, and that's worth it to me.
for some godforsaken reason, this would devestate my parents because i'm the oldest kid, and have done a terrible job of weening them off of me. and i'm sure they'd highly doubt that once i withdraw, i'll actually go back. i have a very high appreciation for education, i enjoy learning, and i know what it's like to bust my ass working without a degree...something i don't plan on doing for the rest of my life.
any advice? or stories about when you were put in a tough situation where you knew people would disapprove (people that mattered to you)? what did you do?
:)
c0r Version:
Pick one:
A. Go to college for 4 years, have parents pay for it...be unhappy
B. Defy parents, move away and go to school elsewhere, pay for it by myself...be happy |
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| enferno |
buttsechkz
it's the only solution |
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| DarkAngel |
| A. Even tho you may be unhappy for a time, at least you should be financially secure. |
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| Caela |
| i'm one of the few stupid roamntic people in the world that doesn't give a rats ass about money. just as long as i can support myself it's ok...i don't connect financial security with happiness...sure it takes a lot of stress away...but i don't think i could be any poorer than how i am now. and i'm still doing pretty good. minus this little situation. :p |
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| Zeiter |
| quote: | Originally posted by Caela
Long Version
so i'm probably going to kick myself for making this thread after the overwhelming support from the last one...but i'm sick, home, and bored.
ok...i'm having one of those life transition times...where you're not quite sure what you want to do, or what you should do. at the end of high school, i moved out of my parents house abruptly - we didn't have a good relationship, but that's a completely different can of worms. so anyway, this upset them TREMENDOUSLY (they still won't let me live it down), and moved to burlington (next town over from my hometown). i then deferred my enrollment at the local university, took a year off, and worked. with my parents pressuring me start school again, i enrolled in classes, and just finished my first semester. it sucked.
i have no idea what i want to study (and still don't), my smallest class was 150 kids (UVM also has the highest instate tuition in the country @ $10,000/yr [not counting room/board]), and i know this town like the back of my hand...i'm so sick of it. i have this overwhelming feeling of discontent, there's so much that i need to see and this stupid town is like a sesspool of negativity, boredom, and trustfund kids (which i am the last thing from). and to top it off, after going to all of my classes, doing all of my work...i BARELY passed my classes. i'm on academic probation now, and if i get one more semester of that, i am dismissed. my parents won't pay for me to go to any other school. i tried explaining this to them (haven't told em about my grades yet), but they are puzzled as to why i can't just "suck it up for 4 years".... 4 years is a LONG ASS TIME to do something that makes you unhappy.
has anyone been trapped like this? i'm thinking of withdrawing at the end of my freshman year, and applying to a school in montreal for the winter semester '08 (where i have wanted to go for a few years now), and working up until then. and then basically taking out a load of loans and wracking up debt. but hey at least i'll be happy, and that's worth it to me.
for some godforsaken reason, this would devestate my parents because i'm the oldest kid, and have done a terrible job of weening them off of me. and i'm sure they'd highly doubt that once i withdraw, i'll actually go back. i have a very high appreciation for education, i enjoy learning, and i know what it's like to bust my ass working without a degree...something i don't plan on doing for the rest of my life.
any advice? or stories about when you were put in a tough situation where you knew people would disapprove (people that mattered to you)? what did you do?
:)
c0r Version:
Pick one:
A. Go to college for 4 years, have parents pay for it...be unhappy
B. Defy parents, move away and go to school elsewhere, pay for it by myself...be happy |
Well, just do what you really wanna do...but be sure to face any consequences and to calculate them precisely. I mean, you said you would get loans, how would you get loans in Montreal? I hope the Government of Quebec allows you to some sort of scholarship but I am not sure (you are not Quebecer), so you probably won't be able to have Quebec loans from the Government. In fact, it might cost you like $6000 a semester for 5 classes (foreign student prices).....I wonder if the bank will want to loan you let's say around $50K if you don't have a good job....you can't really have a high ranking job while attending school. But, as you mentioned, you would work before, get some cash on, work during summers and rationale yourself!
I know this is ed up. It's hard to take a decision. Maybe you could go to school in some other part of the US, it might be easier to get funding. Actually, I have no idea. This is only what I think. I wish I was wrong and you could get Government loans in Montreal. It would be cool! |
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| dallastar |
| quote: | Originally posted by Caela
A. Go to college for 4 years, have parents pay for it...be unhappy
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I chose A~!:D :D :D :D :D you go girl!:p |
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| Ygrene |
| quote: | Originally posted by Caela
.... 4 years is a LONG ASS TIME to do something that makes you unhappy.
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Better that then paying for your tuition for 10-12 years, like me. Or to try working full-time and taking a few classes here and there.
I don't understand why you would want to go out-of-state to a particular school if you don't know what you want to study? |
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| Fast Turtle |
| Do your own thing. You'll learn how meaningless money is in the long run. |
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| stren |
| quote: | Originally posted by Caela
i'm one of the few stupid roamntic people in the world that doesn't give a rats ass about money. just as long as i can support myself it's ok...i don't connect financial security with happiness...sure it takes a lot of stress away...but i don't think i could be any poorer than how i am now. and i'm still doing pretty good. minus this little situation. :p |
you and me both, I guess we need a reality check :( |
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| Caela |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ygrene
I don't understand why you would want to go out-of-state to a particular school if you don't know what you want to study? |
me either...it's more of a personal discovery thing, i'd have a much better chance of finding otu what makes me happy in terms of a career, if i go out and put myself in a new environment, then just sitting here. |
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