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What makes sleeping with someone else while in a relationship wrong? (pg. 3)
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| Orbax |
Its an intimacy thing. It violates the feelings of privacy, closeness, and uniqueness.
Why would someone want to be deeply committed to someone that doesnt treat you like youre the only one?
Some people might be desperate enough to let their partner show them that they dont care which persons hole they are with as long as its a hole, but someone with some standards and self respect would never accept that.
It would be over for me first time no going back.
and if they did it in my house id kill them both and dance over their corpses with feathers stuck in my hair and beads hanging from my dick howling at the moon. |
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| jdat |
| quote: | Originally posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs
Is there a difference between making love and having sex? |
there is but most people don't make any distinction and using the excuse isn't really going to cut it when you get caught in the act |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs
Why is it intimate? (what I think you meant)
Is it because the general purpose is to conveive another being? What if contraceptives (protection) is used and that purpose is defeated?
I'm just rambling...bear with me :). |
. associated in close personal relations: an intimate friend.
2. characterized by or involving warm friendship or a personally close or familiar association or feeling: an intimate greeting.
3. very private; closely personal: one's intimate affairs.
4. characterized by or suggesting privacy or intimacy; warmly cozy: an intimate little café.
5. (of an association, knowledge, understanding, etc.) arising from close personal connection or familiar experience.
6. engaged in or characterized by sexual relations.
7. (of clothing) worn next to the skin, under street or outer garments: intimate apparel.
8. detailed; deep: a more intimate analysis.
9. showing a close union or combination of particles or elements: an intimate mixture.
10. inmost; deep within.
11. of, pertaining to, or characteristic of the inmost or essential nature; intrinsic: the intimate structure of an organism.
12. of, pertaining to, or existing in the inmost depths of the mind: intimate beliefs.
–noun
13. an intimate friend or associate, esp. a confidant. |
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| dj_kane |
| nothings wrong keep ing around until your body cant take it anymore. |
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| Ed G |
| quote: | Originally posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs
What makes sleeping with someone else while in a relationship wrong? |
It's wrong in the sense that it breaks a contract.
If you have committed to monogamy, and you have sex with another, you are in breech of your contract.
Maybe a better question is why do most people insist on a monogamous relationship?
| quote: | Originally posted by Arbiter
It is just a piece of cultural information that has no more objective value than the latest fashion trends. You are free to accept or reject it, but you can't escape the reality that you will be judged by it. |
QFT |
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| jdat |
| Perhaps you should define for us what a relationship is and what are the exclusive things that fall under that banner. |
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| Lira |
There's nothing wrong with sleeping with someone else, as long as you're both sleeping :D
edit: Sorry, either I write long posts or I can't be serious at all :p |
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| Ed G |
| quote: | Originally posted by jdat
Perhaps you should define for us what a relationship is and what are the exclusive things that fall under that banner. |
Xactly.
When I entered into the monogamous relationship that I'm in now I clearly defined it for my girl. I told her that I promised one thing only, not to have sex with others. I told her that I wasn't promising not to love others, or not spend time or talk with them.
That only leaves defining what is actually sex and what isn't. Of course a bj is sex, but where is the line? A simple hug doesn't seem like sex, but not all hugs are created equal. |
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| Slylee |
well because when you are committed to someone in a relationship (see definitions below), you are leading them to believe that they are all you need and that they are the only people you are sexually active with and intimate with. when you sleep with someone else, you break that trust, and you also put them in danger (STD's?).
| quote: | com·mit Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[kuh-mit] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation verb, -mit·ted, -mit·ting.
–verb (used with object) 1. to give in trust or charge; consign.
2. to consign for preservation: to commit ideas to writing; to commit a poem to memory.
3. to pledge (oneself) to a position on an issue or question; express (one's intention, feeling, etc.): Asked if he was a candidate, he refused to commit himself.
4. to bind or obligate, as by pledge or assurance; pledge: to commit oneself to a promise; to be committed to a course of action.
5. to entrust, esp. for safekeeping; commend: to commit one's soul to God.
6. to do; perform; perpetrate: to commit murder; to commit an error.
7. to consign to custody: to commit a delinquent to a reformatory.
8. to place in a mental institution or hospital by or as if by legal authority: He was committed on the certificate of two psychiatrists.
9. to deliver for treatment, disposal, etc.; relegate: to commit a manuscript to the flames.
10. to send into a battle: The commander has committed all his troops to the front lines.
11. Parliamentary Procedure. to refer (a bill or the like) to a committee for consideration.
–verb (used without object) 12. to pledge or engage oneself: an athlete who commits to the highest standards. |
| quote: | relationshipre·la·tion·ship Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[ri-ley-shuhn-ship] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun 1. a connection, association, or involvement.
2. connection between persons by blood or marriage.
3. an emotional or other connection between people: the relationship between teachers and students.
4. a sexual involvement; affair. |
hope that clears things up, although you should know the answer to this question by the age of 12 or 13 i would imagine. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs
Serious question, serious repsonses please. |
Depends on your views of intimacy and what it means to be in a relationship. It's wrong if it crosses boundaries you set in place within the relationship.
Different strokes for different folks...some people have open relationships and sleeping with other people is totally acceptable. |
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| Aristronica |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
some people have open relationships and sleeping with other people is totally acceptable. |
absolutely, open relationships ftw! |
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| all-nite-freak |
| pffft..can you imagine being in a relationship of sorts and unable to sleep with anyone:( |
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