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Does this make someone shallow?
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| Taranis |
If an individual meets someone they get along with really well, they connect in an intellectual sense, enjoy each others company and have really good discussions, just have fun hanging out and all of that, yet they're not physically attracted to this person, who doesn't meet the standards for what society would normally deem attractive, even going so far as to say 'I'd go out with them if they where more attractive physically.' Does this make them shallow?
I was having this discussion with someone, she was worried she was being shallow by dismissing the possibility of a relationship with someone she'd otherwise go out with purely because they don't meet her standards for physical attractiveness, I said that a relationship probably wouldn't work out if you're not sexually attracted to your partner and that they might as well just become friends.
And of course, when in doubt, you turn to the internet for guidance. |
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| Yan |
That's not being shallow, at all.
If anything, it might be hypocritical if the person states that "personality matters most". |
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| Taranis |
Thats what I said.
I mean I'm all for making compromises on body for chicks who have an awsome personality, but that only goes so far, if they dip down close enough to my minimum standards to the point where I cease to be sexually aroused by them, then what's the point of even being in a relationship?
Guess I'm just trying to understand her line of thinking. |
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| Frenchie |
hahahhahahaahhah!!
I went through this in September. It went all swell, and we talked about everything there was to talk about. We clicked better than Shaq & Kobe, and we had this connection that was awesome. It was all gravy until I found out that he wasn't physically attracted to me, which is fine. The way he went about it was shallow, not the actually act of not liking my looks. I don't think it's shallow, I mean everyone has their standards of what they like in the other person and what they don't like, that can't be changed. |
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| Yan |
| quote: | Originally posted by Frenchie
hahahhahahaahhah!!
I went through this in September. It went all swell, and we talked about everything there was to talk about. We clicked better than Shaq & Kobe, and we had this connection that was awesome. It was all gravy until I found out that he wasn't physically attracted to me, which is fine. The way he went about it was shallow, not the actually act of not liking my looks. I don't think it's shallow, I mean everyone has their standards of what they like in the other person and what they don't like, that can't be changed. |
That guy must of had some REALLY high standards, if that was the case. You're a beauty. Ask anyone. |
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| dj_bas |
| quote: | Originally posted by Yan
That guy must of had some REALLY high standards, if that was the case. You're a beauty. Ask anyone. |
Yan's got game. |
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| Ygrene |
| quote: | Originally posted by Yan
That guy must of had some REALLY high standards, if that was the case. You're a beauty. Ask anyone. |
+1
*fap*
lol |
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| Lebezniatnikov |
| quote: | Originally posted by Frenchie
We clicked better than Shaq & Kobe |
You win an award for best simile of all time! Congratulations!
:gsmile: |
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| dj_bas |
| Ygrene has no game. |
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| Frenchie |
Well, thanks :)
To each their own though. I knew he was picky when it came to womens looks and I mean I know what his standards are now from the comments he gives in picture threads ( yes he is a TA no not in c0r). So meh. The one thing that I did find stupid about this whole thing was that we don't talk anymore. To comeplete cut someone off because they aren't good looking is beyond stupid. |
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| Ygrene |
| quote: | Originally posted by dj_bas
Ygrene has no game. |
Yeah?? Well......SO!
Dammit. :(
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Yeah, well, the jerk-store called, and they're running out of YOU! |
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| RapidFire |
| thats just being true to yourself. but it works both ways. if someone is physically attractive but they have an ugly personality it can be just as much of a turn off. which is we all look for both in a person. |
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