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The Muslim Wheel of Domestic Violence
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| LazFX |
The Muslim Wheel of Domestic Violence was developed by Dr. Sharifa Alkhateeb. It conveys some of the ways religion can be distorted to justify abuse against women and children in the family context.
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Using Isolation
husband says that as the "qawwamun" (manager) of his wife, he has the God-given right to control her every movement, who she sees and talks to, what she thinks, what she reads
wives are made to get permission to use the telephone, go grocery shopping, visit parents
even if marriage contract gives her full mobility, husband ignores it
Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
directing children to lie about/trivializing the abuse
denying the abuse by calling it "discipline"
saying the wife caused the abuse
tells wife that divulging episodes of abuse equals violation of her Islamic responsibility to respect her husband's privacy and God will condemn her for it
Using Children
children told they are being beaten to prevent becoming too "American"
father threatens to get custody from Islamic court, send children overseas, marry them off young or kidnap them
children's trauma symptoms used as excuse to batter wife
father encourages children to insult, disrespect mother
husband says he has to abuse mother to stop child abuse
Using Male Privilege
husband's dominance and inflexibility extolled as Qu'ranically mandated requiring obedience in all matters
wife's opinions, aspirations, plans considered as "Western" and un-Islamic
children verbally/physically abused as "right" of Muslim father
wife encouraged to fear husband
repeats bogus Hadith [religious text] about women bowing to men
Using Economic Abuse
refusing to allow wife to get education or training
refusing to let her get a job
demanding she quit a job
taking her entire paycheck while Islam allows her to keep it all
hiding family income
Using Coercion and Threats
threatening to marry another wife
threatening "God-ordained" wife beating (Qu'ran 4:34)
threatening to leave her without money
threatening to spread the word that she is an adulteress
making her drop charges to preserve extended family's reputation
Using Intimidation
grossly dirtying her kitchen several times a day
having the local Imam [clergyman] tell the wife that the abuse is her fault
customs are disguised as religion
hiding/destroying important documents
taking all her jewelry and selling it
apologizing to others for her disobedience
collecting, displaying weapons
stalking
Using Emotional Abuse
belittling/calling wife unfit Muslim mother
making fun of her inadequate Islamic knowledge
calling her names/calling her crazy
making her believe she is incapable of directing her own life
telling abused women they must be quiet, docile, obedient to uphold family honor
lying to her extended family in letters
saying her lovemaking is inferior to Americans
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I love the line children told they are being beaten to prevent becoming too "American" WTF??
So the next time you hear how such a raw deal muslims are getting, just remember what type of deal thier wives and kids are getting at home. |
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| Lilith |
It's not really all that different to the other cultures and religious misogynistic activity which goes on around the world and it's a fairly complicated issue covering both sexes as 'domestic violence' is something of a cover-all for a whole different lot of activities.
Everything from battered partners, stalking, emotional abuse, child beaters and intimidation to street violence against either sex.
Prior to WW2 where a lot of social changes came about, I really don't see a lot of difference between that example any say one which might have been in a predominantly Christian, Jewish culture. Don't really know much about the practice in some of the 'Atheist' states like Communist countries enough to comment on it.
There's a fair few comparisons between the Jewish Cabala Christian Bible and Muslim Koran, mostly because they came one after the other, borrowing bits and pieces here and there and from the same region.
More than enough dogma in all of them which several thousand years later is still just as 'quaint' and quite old fashioned in it's treatment of women has a similar theme of the male dominated culture.
Well, that's the "nice" way of putting it.
Personally, I don't think the cultural habits of a bunch of elder tribesmen sitting around in tents and mud houses 700 to 4000 years ago penning this stuff down and passing it on by word of mouth should be taken as being always a good way to live your life. It's just too "retro" to be taken seriously by any sensible person in the contemporary era. Course, we've been provisioned by an abundant amount of morons in the human race who can interpret even the good things they managed to pen down as being something to hang over the heads of others for their own advantage.
Particularly when it comes to establishing a pecking order amongst peers where it first starts off as belittling other's achievements under the pretence of their own good whilst simultaneously establishing themselves as the alpha, either in a group or couple. That does seem to be a very common predilection for most human beings it seems, the urge to be more important than another. |
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| Haunted |
except we're living in the 21st century.
the point is that they need to grow up and stop believing in boogeyman.
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