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Roommate code/rules/etiquette
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| lopi |
Everyone is obviously different, but are there certain things that are considered "roommate code" that are just generally understood?
Where do you set down lines?
What is O.K.?
What is not?
For example, what food is commonly considered "community", and what is considered "personal" or "off bounds"
What about the "sock on the door knob"? Does it have an expiry time?
Other personal or commonly understood "roommate code" or rules"? |
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| EvilTree |
Generally what's inside my room is out of bounds, and what I leave in common usage space (ie living room) is open for anyone to use, with understanding that you break it, you will be held liable for it, unless I specify otherwise.
So things like dvds, dishes, tv, whatever.
Food I don't touch unless I'm told I can eat it. Normally I try to keep all my stuff in one spot of the fridge so confusion is minimal. (Eating mostly Korean food helps to keep track of that)
Most of the time, if you go by if you're not sure if it's yours or okay to use, don't touch it rule, everyone gets along fine.
Usually first thing I do is have a little chat about 'house rules' when I move in.
Haven't had the sock problem yet though... That's because one of my frisky ex housemate didn't feel bad screaming her pleasure. I retaliated by blasting techno loud... for several days afterwards :thepirate |
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| FunkyCrew |
when I lived with res with 5 strangers, I found myself setting out quite a number of rules, simply because the rest could care less about what happened outside of their room
when I moved in with 2 of my friends, things became a little easier - the fridge has 3 shelves, we each have one; when soap/dish washing liquid/paper towels finish, whoever has time, buys the next load; all 3 of us bought some stuff for the common use over the the time we lived together, but to be honest it's really the 2 out of the 3 who bother doing that; food is not touched, unless we tell each other we are welcome to help ourselves to have some; never had to do the whole sock on the knob thing, we have our own rooms for that kinda business :)
some problems which are still continuously going on even out of res - dishes being piled up by 1 person for sometimes a whole week (the other 2 just move it out of the way, a few times I had to leave a note saying the dishes starting stinking, ew); again, one person puts empty cartons of milk/juice/eggs on top of the garbage bin when they see that it's full, instead of taking it all out; and just generally, the other two like to "forget" to clean their personal mess in the kitchen/living room, but I'm pretty much used to it now |
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| kabelicious |
Anything inside my room is off limits - when the door is shut, knock before entering. Anything in common space can be used with permission and if you break it, you buy it.
Only food that has been agreed upon as common - condiments, milk, water, etc - are to be eaten communely and you take turns buying it - same thing with household goods like TP, paper towel, trash bags, etc.
If someone has to work early, usually knock off anything loud by a certain time during the week is a nice courtesy - and on weekends, if you want to be loud, make sure the others are okay with late nights, noise, etc.
That's what I got. |
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| jon jon |
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| StereoPrincess |
| well, tell us what your roomates are doing that is bothering you exactly? |
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| lopi |
| quote: | Originally posted by StereoPrincess
well, tell us what your roomates are doing that is bothering you exactly? |
Nothing. It was just a topic that came up yesterday in conversation, and a few times before that, so I wanted to hear some other peoples views on it.
For example, a few years ago my girlfriend, Kate, lived with a guy(who was her friend) who was also dating her other (longer time) friend. She knew her roomy was cheating on her 'cause she would find other girl's shoes in the hall on nights after he's gone to the bar(she knew they weren't her friends shoes), but couldn't say anything because that would technically be breaking "roommate code".
I know most people have pretty strict rules when it comes to food, where as my roomy and I don't. We share all the food and split the bill 50/50. Booze though, is off limits unless offered. |
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| DigitalMP |
| Kate's not a very good friend... |
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| rabbitjoker |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigitalMP
Kate's not a very good friend... |
No kidding. |
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| tha_broad |
| She who makes the long distance call pays for it. |
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| El Kay Dee |
| quote: | Originally posted by tha_broad
She who makes the long distance call pays for it. |
LOL |
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| DigiNut |
We only had a few rules back when I was doing the roommate thing:
1. Wash your dishes (or they'll end up on your bed).
2. Pay your bills (or your furniture will get pawned off).
3. Don't ever touch someone else's booze (otherwise you might find a little surprise in your own).
4. If you finish someone else's food, replace it immediately (else you pay for the next week of groceries).
5. If you leave TVs, radios, alarm clocks, etc. on in your room before going on vacation, they will get thrown out the window.
And yeah, Kate sounds like a bitch. |
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