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i cried today... a lot. ...no homo (pg. 2)
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| Lira |
I was writing a post about a similar experience I was going through but... the person I was going to talk about has just died.
His son was a great childhood friend of mine, and is now one of my students. I'm kinda worried about him, and I haven't been able to call him yet.
I'm fine, by the way, I don't think I understand what's going on now... |
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| Spacey Orange |
| crying does not a homo make. crying and posting about it does. |
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| jdat |
I cry about my "situation" on a semi regular basis ....
life can be a bitch at times.
be strong wizniz. |
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| Dervish |
There isn't a lot you can do. Either suppress suppress suppress or let it out. I can't really say which is better. But for me I find it easier to suppress in front of people then talk about it when you have some kind of handle on it rather than losing it totally (can happen though).
It's just a personal thing, you can't control it really. But any form of normality helps.
I had to decide on which brain ops my mum had (parents seperated, big bro... not exactly responsible) , when she came back from the one I picked she didn't know who I was and would just talk utter rubbish (week of half of my final uni exams too, living away from home, as did my little bro).
But she's basically ok now, that doesn't seem an option for your friend unfortunately. Maybe just go for a few beers with your dad? Guys always find it easier in that situation.
I had chats with my dad after coming home from nights out which helped a fair bit after my grandad (his dad) died, but when I tried when we were sober he shut down as did I. Just need to make it as casual and normal as possible. Hard but you need to make it as chilled as possible, not built up.
Good luck with it anyway. |
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| LoveHate |
| why do you have to remind people you're not homosexual? |
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| emc^2 |
Wiz,
Sorry about your dad's friend/your friend. Sometimes life is a bitch and unfair. My best friend that's like a brother to me, I've known more than 1/2 of my life lost his brother last year. Lost to stupid, stupid, stupid freak accident. His brother owned furniture store. His employees were slacking off, he went outside to fix a banner and climbed a ladder (maybe 6ft). He slipped from the ladder and landed on his back badly, suffering major skull fracture that put him into coma... he died few days later. Left wife, 2 kids behind - 18 and 16. Go figure... you think you have one of the most mundane and least dangerous jobs in the world, work in a safe neighborhood, drive car with 12 airbags, built to withstand a direct missle hit... and you die such a silly death.
When it's time to go, it's time to go.... some get it worse than others and definitely sooner than others. I was just reading about Brandon Lee today, yet another one of those freak accidents. What I found most touching is this:
In an interview just prior to his death, Lee quoted a passage from Paul Bowles' book The Sheltering Sky that he had chosen for his wedding invitations; it is now inscribed on his tombstone:
"Because we do not know when we will die, we get to think of life as an inexhaustible well. And yet everything happens only a certain number of times, and a very small number really. How many more times will you remember a certain afternoon of your childhood, an afternoon that is so deeply a part of your being that you cannot conceive of your life without it? Perhaps four, or five times more? Perhaps not even that. How many more times will you watch the full moon rise? Perhaps twenty. And yet it all seems limitless..."
c0r version: Savor every moment of your life.
| quote: | Originally posted by MeLLyMeL
I'm starting to get used to it.
It's growing on me. I was super spoiled at home.
It's freaking tough living on ur own but my job is filled with great ppl. So I am happier now then I was 3 months ago.
I do miss cuban food though
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Copa Cobana in Manhattan pwnz... really good stuff. Not sure how close it is to "true" Cuban stuff in Miami but it was deliciously edible. Besides, if you can't find a worthy substitute in the NYC, you're just not looking hard enough. Try some of the off-the beaten path spots too. Man, I bet in NYC you could literally eat in different place every day and still manage to never run out of new spots to visit. By the time you were done sampling all restaurants, you'd have slew of new ones to try out.
That's part of the fun - finding that one special joint you would keep coming back to over and over again. ;) And if you ever run out of decent joints in NYC, come to Philly - I'll be glad to give you a tour. Plus we have several awesome spots - Havana and also... Copa Cabana. There are bunch of Brazilian, Argentinian, Colombian, Honduran, and other Latin/South American spots.. and when you're reaaaally hungry, check out Fogo de Chao.... woot! :crazy: |
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| malek |
| I cried like a baby the other day when watching into the wild... damn, no film affected me like that, ever. |
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| nchs09 |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
I cried like a baby the other day when watching into the wild... damn, no film affected me like that, ever. |
i cried with "life is beautiful" such a sad movie, specially when the dad dies :( |
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| wizniz |
i really appreciate the replies so far...
wasnt sure if i was going to get flamed or not :p
reading your posts has helped me to understand what im going through. hopefully i can be there for my dad like hes always been for me...
ok! math midterm study time GOOO! |
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| Dervish |
| quote: | Originally posted by wizniz
ok! math midterm study time GOOO! |
NNNNNNNNNNNNNNNooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
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| CONNERMAN2000 |
| sorry to hear about that. crying actually can be reallllly satisfying. suppressing sadness and depression takes a lot of effort, whereas crying takes no effort at all. sometimes the in my life stacks up to high for me to handle and i just lose it. then i remember that i have food and im not shot at on a regular basis, and think of the other people on this planet have to go through, and somehow i realize that, no matter how bad it all seems, everything is still alright. |
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| Esiotrat |
My sympathies. :(
Death is probably the hardest thing in the world to cope with and accept. Take your time to mourn this loss..You'll experience a multitude of emotions..disbelief, anger, depression, crying a river etc etc....and finally acceptance.
I just lost a friend too not long ago. I am still in disbelief..
Life is pleasant, death is peaceful..it's the transition that's difficult..
We will all go join them on the other side eventually.
Hang in there. *hugs* |
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