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oh, but its another one of those I HATE GIRLS threads again! (pg. 6)
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| architect1803 |
kids kids kids, dudes, dudettes and dudetors:
here's the scoop on all this.
I've known this girl for the better part of 6 or so years now. We HATED each other in high school because I was always after her and her cheerleader friends. On an early morning in April of 03', just before graduation, her mom passed away of ovarion cancer which rapidly spread through her entire body. As soon as I found out about this, I jumped right in there and "acted" like I was friends with her, trying to mediate her and what not. Even her friends were like "who the is that?" Yes, I did like her, but that's not the way I show a person I like them. Keep in mind I was in high school (for those of you about to make ghey replies on this).
Long story short, we became friends and she became attached. She became attached because she realized that all her other "friends" weren't there for her when her mom died, or when she sprang her ankle in squad practice 4 years ago, or when she needed help with homework, exams, or finals, or when she needed a hand with financial things, or when basically, she needed someone to be there for her. There's still a list of things I could add on to that, but those I need to really keep private.
I don't expect anything in return when I help people out, because i know someone up there is looking down on me. I do, however, expect AT LEAST some sort of respect and honesty. Here's my problem though. Like always, I fall too quickly for women when I see the open chance, or when I "sense", or think things are too perfect for being "just friends". That's wrong. And even at this age, I don't think I'll ever learn my lesson. Women have their ways, just as men do. Just when you think everything is chill, and she is the perfect one because "I've known her for years and no one knows her like me, therefore she'd be the perfect one", that's when you get stabbed. I know this sounds horrible, but I'm beginning to think that ALL women are like that. If it happened with someone whom I knew for 6 years, why wouldn't it happen with someone who I met at the club last night, or at the bar last night, or in school yesterday, or in the same architecture class as me. I've dated the most beautiful, to the most non-beautiful, looked at the inside and outside of them, dated a few religious ones (except buddhism and hindu :D ), and what I can say from all that is no matter what they look like, smell like, feel like, how good or bad the sexy time is (borat voice), or whatever, when it comes time to cheat, run away, be boring, or go gay, no one can stop them.
No, I am not perfect. But I am not to blame for the majority of the times I've broken up with an ex. I've had a few of them come up to me the following week, weeping their eyes out saying "god I cant believe I ed that up Carlos. I'm so sorry". So i know its not JUST me here. I am a pretty patient person, even when I'm being pushed to the limit. I'm not the fighting type. I dont resolve issues with curse words. I know real s out there that are like that. And, I'm not bragging either. I'm just trying to clarify a point.
In fact, I've been in an EXTREMELY bad mood lately. I quit smoking, and its hard as can be. I'm drinking more water, staying hydrated, and working out like a fckn marine. I need time to relax and rest, not time to think about women.
It hurts me that a person like her could do that. i dont know where she pulled that stunt, but its definitely not something she does. I do love her, but I am not IN love with her. There's a difference. I think Lizandro could agree with me on that one, too. You probably do love her still Lizandro, but may not be in love with her because of what she did, which is pretty similar to what mine did. Whatever God decides for me, is what I'll do. But, I learned my lesson, and I will avoid females as much as possible.
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| system9 |
By system9
"My wife Vagin hangs like the sleeve of wizard" |
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| architect1803 |
| quote: | Originally posted by system9
"My wife Vagin hangs like the sleeve of wizard" |
LMAO! |
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| JBDreamerie |
| quote: | Originally posted by architect1803
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I know what you mean dude. While my most recent relationship didn't really last as long as 6 years, I had to find out the hard way that cheating and lying had been going on. I'm not going to say that all women are that way, but when you've been on the receiving end of treatment like that, that's all you can really think of, and you don't want to experience it again, so you immediately swing the other way. I totally understand what you're talkin about.
Anyways, right now, i'm very happy being single, and plan on staying that way for a while. It's difficult when all my other friends are in relationships, but oh well, I can find things to do to get my mind off it. I want to focus on enjoying my life right now, instead of dedicating it to someone else (which i tend to do in relationships...). I want to focus on my work, on having a good time, on being young as much as I can. I want to enjoy life for myself, not with someone else.
Here's a couple of things that I find fantastic:
quote from Family Guy: "This whole thing just shows that women are nothing but trouble!
You said it, lets you and me swear off them for good!
And how!
thirty five years later...
I say, Quagmire, it seems to me we've each made another 500 million dollars!
Good thing we swore off women so we wouldn't be distracted and unable to accumulate this vast amount of wealth!"
videojug (i don't know why...but i love this site): http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-be-single-and-happy |
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| iclone |
| redirect focus back onto yourself. demand integrity, respect, and honesty from those who regularly impact your life. the women you've been choosing clearly aren't affording you that, and you're allowing them to continue mistreating and taking advantage of you. |
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| Dirk W. |
| quote: | Originally posted by iclone
redirect focus back onto yourself. demand integrity, respect, and honesty from those who regularly impact your life. the women you've been choosing clearly aren't affording you that, and you're allowing them to continue mistreating and taking advantage of you. |
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| digitalbreach |
It seems to me that you don't learn from past experiences well. You stay in this vicious cycle and you love to come to TA and cry your balls off b/c you know ppl and you expect them to side w/ you. Sorry but I see this happening to you unless you wise up young grasshoppa
From the beginning of your story I realized you were falling for the stereotypical guy mistake. You want to help someone who is in a tragic part of life and expect that girl to be greatful and love you back. (just like girls try to change guys that aren't ready to be changed)
When she gets passed her situation she realizes that you are not what she wants but spread her legs for the first guy to help her out. Obviously not all women are hoes and not all men are dogs. However I BELIEVE anyone is capable of anything if pushed to their limits. This doesn't mean you should distrust everyone but also don't be blinded by your feelings. Again learn from your mistakes and pick up on warning signs that your relationship is fixing to go down the ter. Whatever happens always land on your two feet.
my 2 cents. |
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| maddraver |
I treat a bitch like 7-up: "I never have I never will." -Snoop Dogg
"word of the wise" |
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| architect1803 |
| quote: | Originally posted by digitalbreach
However I BELIEVE anyone is capable of anything if pushed to their limits. This doesn't mean you should distrust everyone but also don't be blinded by your feelings. Again learn from your mistakes and pick up on warning signs that your relationship is fixing to go down the ter. Whatever happens always land on your two feet.
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I like your judgment, but I need to comment on the "i think anyone is capable if pushed to their limits thing". Yes, I've gone over the edge before...so far and so bad (not female related - obviously), that I got 6 months probation in Travis County. I think ANYONE will learn their lesson by then. Call me a poon, but if I could avoid problems and suck it up, by God I would. Sometimes that's just the best route to go.
Like I said before, I am blinded by this ed up thing called love. As soon as I'm in the relationship, I'm in for good (at least that's what I think), until I get fckd. Even though I try really hard sometimes not to take things too far, I tend to stumble upon the same hole, no matter the level of approach.
You need to understand, it was WAY different with this girl, though. All others, I can understand, but with this one, I still...I STILL have no idea as to what the made her do that. And for her to text me (like today) and say "I dont know what to say...I am so confused right now" is for someone like me to give it a kick in the butt, toss it in the trash, and move on.
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| maddraver |
| Hey dude, i know its kinda hard but the more you act like you DONT like a girl, the more they DO like you. (vice versa)Try using that on ur next female. She will be all over ur nutts, and then the shoe will be on the other foot. Im not saying be an by no means, but try not to get CLINGY. Girls hate that, just like guys do. It works both ways.Hope this helps - derek |
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| Zeonfiend |
| quote: | Originally posted by architect1803
Like I said before, I am blinded by this ed up thing called love.
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If love is blinding you, put out your eyes (metaphorically, not literally, because that's retarded) and use your nose. Allowing the foe to dictate terms is bad enough, but to have your own heart screwing it up is asking for pain. |
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| Benjamin DuBose |
| Carlos i have a full bottle of Crown reserve waiting for you yo. |
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