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Question about Sex - seriously. (pg. 8)
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| r5a |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
Did you ever consider that you both are making the whole thing totally robotic? Sex is not like assembling a bicycle - i.e. this goes here and that goes there and you need this type of nut and that type of bolt :p
If she's focusing *so much* on what her vajeen is and is not doing "properly" then she will never achieve orgasm. I can't imagine that you're enjoying yourself either.
You both just need to RELAKS and stop treating it like this grand mission. Being so young, I don't think you can both expect yourselves to have porn star sex.
This whole "OK WE'RE GONNA GET IT THIS TIME! 1-2-3 GO!" mindset is taking all the passion out of your sexual activity.
The most powerful foreplay (for me anyway) is never physical - like this "hand/head" business that you were talking about. Unplanned sex is the best. Or after a really heated argument. Or if you're out to dinner with some stuffy people and all you're thinking about is coming home and ing eachother's brains out.
The random factor is so powerful. I don't know how well I am articulating this, but I hope you get what I'm saying.
Plus - just be super confident (hard right now, I know, b/c you probably feel like it's your fault that she can't cream herself)
Also - let her do lots of crazy to you. She'll probably get super turned on watching you get super turned on - as opposed to you both plowing away on Mission Impossible #17. |
Thanks, good advice. Appericated!
| quote: | Hi friend, first of all dont listen too much to the negative comments that you receive on these boards. Unfortunately a lot of these guys have a ty life and they think they look cool posting smart arse comments that may cause a giggle. admittedly I giggle sometimes, anywayyyy!!!
In your lady friends case its probably just psychological, the power of the mind, its a wonderful thing when used to be postive, when used to be negative its just destructive. So basically its pressure to perform on your lady friends part, what you are doing is right, have some fun, make her relaxed, have a laugh about things and what your doing.
What you talked about and what she has heard about your past is just contributing to her pressure and probably making her feel less comfortable.
My advise is to stick with it, be open, have fun and talk to her, hopefully things work out for you. If you need someone to talk to pm me, but as my motto is "Dont give up", I fell you should do the same, dont give up, my fiance was similar, she knew I had a past of trying to hump every moving women, she was shy,quiet etc. Shes now the mother of my daughter and I wouldnt change a thing for the world.
Again pm me if you need sensible advise, goodluck mate.
Ps :And fair play to you coming on here to ask for advise |
Thanks a lot meng, cheers.
Both of you have said the same thing pretty much that someone else told me, which was;
| quote: | | Your girlfriend might say that she is fine with all this, but perhaps deep down she is not ready to proceed any further and that is why the lack of response to your actions. What is the rush? Perhaps she needs time to become more comfortable with her body and its responses. Don't expect immediate overwhelming satisfaction to any new techniques that you might try as you could be disappointed. Every woman is unique so her response might not correspond to what your actions brought forth in others before her - just like people respond to and enjoy different styles of music. Continue kissing and caressing her if that is what she enjoys. With more self-confidence she will be more comfortable with her sexuality. When she is ready to experiment more, take it slow and enjoy. |
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| r5a |
| quote: | Originally posted by Project-K
I loled when I read that. I had you figured at 14. |
sweet bro. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| Did you read my post? |
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| r5a |
If you mean this one...
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I didn't read the whole thread, but some women just don't have a very sensitive clitoris..or one that's exposed enough to feel sensation.
In short, your gf's vagina sucks. |
Then yeah, well I've read every post in this thread. I'm not really sure how I feel about that post. I would be surprised if that were the case but we'll see. It's not gonna make me stop trying to get her off though. We'll see how it goes.
ty anyway. |
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| Silky Johnson |
Don't rule it out though...and don't be surprised, it's more common than you think. A large percentage of women have this problem.
edit: and someone else suggested she get herself off? Maybe she never has...maybe she's uncomfortable with her own body/sexuality. If she can't get herself off, how can you do any better? |
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| r5a |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Don't rule it out though...and don't be surprised, it's more common than you think. A large percentage of women have this problem.
edit: and someone else suggested she get herself off? Maybe she never has...maybe she's uncomfortable with her own body/sexuality. If she can't get herself off, how can you do any better? |
Good points, thanks. So assuming she has this problem (I don't think so but besides the point) am I S.O.L or is it just gonna be that much harder?
She has I think but I get the feeling she can't tell the difference between climaxing and not. Honestly after reading the actual good replies in this thread and doing a little bit more thinking I think it's just a combination of her inexperience, shyness and other things. Basically chill the out and go with it. |
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| jastiC |
| lick her toes and nibble on her eyeballs |
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| DJ Eco |
| quote: | Originally posted by jastiC
fuk man just force her..
she is ur gf afterall she shouldnt have a problem with it
if she does threaten to slit her throat |
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| barbina |
| quote: | Originally posted by elFreak
because
1. i live there
2. you are hopeless
3. barbina gets more vagina then you
4.bas smells
5. all of the above. |
haha scoreeee
maybe shes a lesbian?
i'll help ya find out
... or you guys are just babies and just need to already
being scared kills the mood ;) |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by r5a
I get the feeling she can't tell the difference between climaxing and not. |
If she can't tell the difference, she's never climaxed. |
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| Project-K |
| Or she's never not climaxed. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by r5a
I get the feeling she can't tell the difference between climaxing and not. |
If she can't tell the difference, she's never climaxed. |
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