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| phoenixBEBE |
depends on whether you can handle 'going with the flow' and keeping it somewhat casual till *further* notice -- and yeah i agree, this would be the perfect situation for a guy also. altho i do think 4-5 months is a bit long to be undecided about things. u either want to be with someone or you don't...
if she is undecided cuz shes *too* much into the club scene, id either 'lose' her or do the FWB thing. seriously.
go with ur gut...if u think shes stringing you along, sit her down and say you want the option of seeing other people. See what she says. Have the conversation, at least you'll know where you stand for sure, and you're also letting her know in advance whats going to happen, and then she can't come back whining and crying about assumptions & all other bs. Then go ahead and do your thing ;)
| quote: | Originally posted by ludawg23
simple...never, ever let a girl control your emotions if you guys are not in the same boat. Better to let it go now than to get your heart broken 10x worse in the future. |
I agree with this, it goes for any situation where ppl aren't on the same level. |
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| kadomony |
attraction is not a choice. if you're not making out/having sex with her in addition to hanging out(i'm guessing that's what you mean by relationship) best to let her go and find someone else.
don't stay with her dude, she'll be an emotional drain on you since you'll always be trying to get her into a relationship which she obviously doesn't want with you or now.
other girls will sense that and it'll actually hurt your chances with someone new.
cut and run man! you can still be friends with your current girl, but get it out of your mind about the relationship thing. don't see her nearly as often (2-3 times per week at most if possible) |
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| DJ_Lord |
| quote: | Originally posted by vtec junkie
the ever living out of her then go find yourself another lady. you will see out fast she comes running back to you. lol |
INDEED. and if she doesn't come back, it, you still ed the outta her... win-win situation if you ask me. :tongue3 |
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| yankeeBaby |
| quote: | Originally posted by vtec junkie
the ever living out of her then go find yourself another lady. you will see out fast she comes running back to you. lol |
hahah :) loves it! perfect advice!! :)
every situation is different, but to be honest, I have been in the girls position.
I met my current BF and was NOT intersted in a relationship. We did the "hang-out" thing for about 4 months before I really realized that I needed to be with this man.
He really wanted to be in a relationship almost as soon as we knew each other, but I was having too much fun being single and pushed him away (in the sense of a committment).
She MAY be in the same boat as me, and she MAY come around. but you ought to know after 5 months if this is the type that will do so, or if she is just stringing you along. |
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| DJ_Lord |
DUDE, that's genius!
"...As to the first point, that of money. Well most guys know that women dig guys with money. Would Donald Trump be ing models if he wasn't rich? That question is rhetorical. Now I don't even believe this is wrong, I think it is just nature. But I also think women who are this way (and it is almost all of you) should be honest and admit that they are basically whores, and stop saying bad things about the so-called "actual whores" who are just trying to earn an honest living."
HAHA. Thank you!! |
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| chimera66 |
| ^there is a difference between wanting someone with money and wanting someone successful. people who tend to say earn their own money exude confidence which is what women are attracted to so more times than not those successful guys happen to have money. it is also a sign of stability and let's admit it we all want economic stability. i have plenty of friends male and female who want to marry rich and i don't see anything wrong with that. it's not about money per se |
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| kadomony |
| quote: | Originally posted by chimera66
^there is a difference between wanting someone with money and wanting someone successful. people who tend to say earn their own money exude confidence which is what women are attracted to so more times than not those successful guys happen to have money. it is also a sign of stability and let's admit it we all want economic stability. i have plenty of friends male and female who want to marry rich and i don't see anything wrong with that. it's not about money per se |
yea srsly, ladder theory is nothing but a joke.
although, there are some truths in it, it doesn't make a point to expand on them. |
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| JayRP |
| I'm broke, and I'm confident, any takers?.. |
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| DJ Eco |
| quote: | Originally posted by DJ_Lord
dude...this is perfect...hang out with her on weekends and , meanwhile u look for another girl and then make the swap...she set it up for u bro...take advantage of it..u gotta play her game and beat her at it too! |
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| limin_li |
Thank you all for the response. My take on this is that she is really taking her time to making a decision meanwhile she wants to know if she can spent the rest of her 4-5 years with me.
What really happened is that, she broke up with her first boyfriend last August (2007) She has been with him for four and half years. This is the first time she branch out to the Asian guys. I just happened to be the first victim.
Let me what you guys think :-) |
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| DJ_Lord |
| i hear what youre saying but if shes insecure about her future and at the same time feels insecure about her relationship with you...cause by now it should be at least close to that....then you should dump her, not worth it..yes i realize u really really really like her, but unstable girls are not worth it, just move on and find yourself a better fish...being cold-hearted will help u in this situation :disbelief |
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