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For all the married people.... (pg. 2)
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| Aesthetic |
women.. they think they can win an argument with their FOOD and all their skills around the house.. seriously who needs em
i hope the mrs never reads this thread |
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| No Left Turn |
| I met my wife when I was already producing music and touring, so she understands that I need to constantly invest in gear. Luckily, we don't have kids right now so if I need to spend a grand or so on a new synth or a computer upgrade, it's not really affecting any other expenses. However, when we have kids, I definitely won't be able to do that as frivolously as I do now. Eventually, *your* money becomes the family's money and even though *you* make it, it isn't completely yours to spend. But I'm sure that if a 5 figure investment can generate revenue for the family, you could have hold an argument as to why/how that would be worth it. |
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| Storyteller |
| Well, I've got my own little company. If I spend money it comes from the budget my company has to spend. It's seperated from our personal funds :). So absolutely no trouble here, as long as I make sure I earn enough to pay for the mortgage and stuff :D. |
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| Raphie |
This all sounds SOOOO familiar :D :D
I have a well paid daytime job and my GF takes care of the house.
As long as i take care of the bills, morgage and groceries being paid. and make sure whe've got decent holidays I can pretty much do what i like. She even tells me if there is money left at the end of month and if i had anything in mind for my next upgrade :D |
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| Prototrance |
Forgiveness is easier to get than permission!!!!
I'm not married but have a long term girlfriend and children with her.
However I earn the money for the household and pay the mortgage / bills etc so what I do with my spare cash is my business, equally what she does with her spare cash is hers.
Only time I can see it causing a problem is if I couldn't buy the kids clothes etc etc as I'd spent it on a synth or something. Best is be sensible about it, save up for what you want and talk to your Mrs about it. Concealing info / lying will get you nowhere, they know!!! |
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| Fledz |
| quote: | Originally posted by alanzo
I've done that. I just couldn't hide the andromeda, though. heh. |
Yea but come on, there's one excuse that you can use there which doesn't work with any other synth:
"But honey....it's an Andromeda. A ING ANDROMEDA!" :crazy: |
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| palm |
| i rule everything around here anyway so i do what i want. backside of that is that i pay for everything here, so im always broke. im not using any big money anyway though, everything ive bough ive bought for money from selling other , and as it is now ive sold everything saving for better monitors and a new computer. |
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| kitphillips |
Well, if your making a 5,000 dollar investment in something that's not going to net you any return, and you don't abolutely need it to continue your hobby, then maybe you should listen to your S.O. and save your money for something more worthwhile..?
Sorry to voice such a bizarre opinion, I just think its a bit ridiculous for people to blow thousands on pro gear if they aren't actually profesionals...
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Oh, and I don't think this actually applies to you Eric, since AFAIK, you actually do make money out of your music..? ARen't you an audio engineer or something? In which case its all really a business decision and not really any of your wifes business unless she's also involved in running the business... |
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| Fledz |
| But it's a hobbie. People like doing it as it makes them happy. Some will spend it on cars, some on surf gear, some on DVDs, etc etc. |
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| david.michael |
I used to be married, but she was a total bitch anyways, so who cares what she thinks.
I currently have a long-term live-in girlfriend, though, and she is very understanding of my desires to spend time (and some money) on my hobby. I don't abuse it, though. I'm very modest with my purchases and don't break the bank with it. I also give her plenty of warning. "Honey, if I had a Xone2D it would REALLY help me out when I play gigs because I don't have to tear down my audio interface and MIDI keyboard every time I play somewhere... I've been thinking about buying one".
Just depends on how bitchy your S/O is, I guess. Mine isn't. :) |
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| Eric J |
Thanks for all the responses guys. It's actually good to hear that some other people face the same dilemma from time to time. My wife is very supportive of my music, but everytime I think about picking up something new, I always have that thought in the back of my mind of "how am I going to explain this?"
Don't get me wrong, the mortgage and the bills still get paid, but I generally spend the leftover on gear of one type or another (or software). I have been employing some of the techniques mentioned so far, such as fudging on how much things cost. I can hide some things such as rack gear, but I doubt I'd be able to set up a Moog Voyager keyboard or Andromeda and not have her notice.
On unrelated gear, I just picked up a Playstation 3, and simply put it in the same place as my old PS2. She came in and actually asked if that was a new Playstation, to which my response was "No, thats the one I always had, I just dusted it off." Still not sure if I managed to get away with that one, but she didn't press the issue. :)
As for the money thing, I'm a notorious spender and she is a notorious saver, so she's pretty savvy with her money. I tried the "how much do you spend on shoes" bit, but honestly, she doesn't really spend nearly as much as I do because she makes a lot less. Thats one of the things that separates us. She's not used to having thousands of dollars left over after bills, so she is not used to making such big purchases.
I wouldn't consider it a problem for us, but I do feel like I have a greater responsibility to support my family, even if that means having a little bit less in the studio. I love producing music, but I'd still choose my family over music if my hand were forced. It'd suck, but I'd do it. At the end of the day, they money really is "ours" and not "mine", as most of you who are married know. That's not a mandate from her, its just the way it is when you get married. Since producing is not bread winning for me, I do feel like I have a responsibility to not spend so much on gear that it would have a detrimental effect on our family finances. There is something to be said for 401k's and having some reserves in your saving account, even if I do dream about blowing our juicy homeowner tax credit on gear. :) |
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| asdfg |
| I guess another benefit of buying software is that it's easier to hide. |
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