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HELP! Questions with Hospital/Medical bills from night of Tiesto... (pg. 2)
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| Groundhog Boy |
I'm just going to say that people like you piss me off at parties. I've been completely wasted, but never in a situation where I needed help like this, even when I was younger. Wasted, lots, but ER/stomach pumping...hardly even close.
Even more annoying, I usually end up babysitting people like you that I meet out so that you don't die until your friends finally drag you home. I gave some kid at Bunker my new bottle of water just so he was able to sober up enough to leave. |
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| chf42 |
My advice: Learn how to handle your alcohol and then get better friends. Unless you went out alone this night, there is no reason you should have ended up in the hospital before your friends intervened.
Also, let the health insurance company do the work.
I've had injuries which required hospital visits in which I was receiving unexpected bills way beyond the immediate treatment time line. What seems like $900+ now may turn out to be much more costly when another bill comes outta nowhere 6 months down the line. Save yourself the hassle of possible dispute and utilize your health insurance for this emergency, that's what it is there for.
As far as telling your parents, you are 20 years old. Now's the time to start facing the consequences of the world. Unless you were born as some odd collision of a priest and a nun, they have already acknowledged the fact that pretty much every kid in America begins to drink at age 17 or sooner. (and priests and nuns start slamming wine as soon as they enter the seminary). They'll be more happy that your alive then they will be pissed because their insurance had to cover a measly $1000 to possibly irsave the kids life.
-My $.01 <--The economy man, cant afford $.02 |
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| j0kr187 |
Thanks for all the advice everyone...
First off, i'd like to admit and say that Yea, my actions were lousy, careless and irresponsible. But that wasn't my first show i've been to and drank at, and i've been to MANY in the span of 3 Years. I'm not even sure if something got in my drink, or maybe just from going to the gym - straight to the city on an empty stomache thinking "Yea, i'll drink with you guys bc it's Tiesto and what not..." Careless night on my part and I wish no one would have to go through what it felt like to be me the next day. Not having any money, not knowing where your friends were, and not having a phone. Completely useless.
But "Groundhog Boy", you have to admit - Once in a while, people make mistakes and people learn from them. I've seen people in K-holes, people blacked out already before the DJ went on and I just say to myself, well that sucks for them... but sometimes it's not what they chose to do. No ones perfect. You can't go on a messageboard and say "people like you piss me off". You simply can't judge people because sometimes people just let themselves go a bit too much, and sometimes it's not what they intended... like my night. I had all the best intentions to go out and have a good time. I'm a huge tranceaddict and I love these shows. That was one of my mistakes, and I don't actually get that drunk each time I go out to the city and to these shows. That was a rare occassion which I regret.
As far as my friends go, I didn't go out alone that night. Looking back on it now, i'm pretty damn pissed my friends didn't even bother looking for me... it keeps me guessing what they were really doing or if they even cared. They were drinking too, but I guess i have to understand that i'm not there to be babysat/taken care of and that I should be responsible for myself. So who are they to even be responsible for me when they're trying to enjoy their night/
For the bills and stuff, I will try and get my insurance to pay it since i'm obviously not able to at this time. I might as well tell my parents so that should ease up the situation just a little bit than having them find out through insurance statements. It's just a bad feeling, especially when you think you're a "good" person in general and something like this happens to you. It was such a terrible situation, and i'm not proud of it at all. Actually ashamed of myself because I wasn't brought up that way...
Well anyways, thanks for the advice everyone - on the bills and stuff. I'm obviously gonna try and be more mature about nights like that, and I still hope to meet a bunch of you. And i wouldn't even care if you considered me the "hospital boy", just because I know how all of you feel about this stuff and I know how i feel about it. So that's all. |
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| ArminD1981 |
| quote: | Originally posted by chf42
-My $.01 <--The economy man, cant afford $.02 |
:haha: :haha: :haha: :haha:
Bro !!! Always carry your insurance card. |
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| StarSoprano426 |
When I was a freshman in college, I decided it would be a good idea to have my tongue pierced. Everything went well for the 1st few days and I took good care of it.... until suddenly! I wake up one morning in excruciating pain. My tongue is so swollen and black around the piercing (eew!) And it was so swollen that I couldn't get the bar out. I had to go to the ER where the gave me some kind of local anesthetic and were able to remove the bar. They told my my body had rejected it and gave me antibiotics and painkillers for it.
I used my insurance then and the bill came to my Mom. It didn't say what it was for, but I got the "wtf! what were you in the emergency room for??" talk. So I would say use your insurance. You're lucky you have insurance, that's what it's for. If I had to choose I'd rather not have to pay all that money and live with the parental wrath for a little bit. They're you're family and they love you. I'm sure you're completely aware that your decisions that night may not have been the best. And as long as you explain that to your family I'm sure over time they'll understand and forgive.
I think everyone overdoes it once and then you learn. I had alcohol poisoning once and didn't go to the hospital. I remember all of it and it was horrible. I think my friends should have taken me to the hospital. In hind sight, that would have been much better. But I learned a DAMN good lesson and will never do that again. Ah, my underage years.
Well glad to hear you're ok. And remind your parents of that, that it was a mistake you're not going to make again. And that you love them, and that money and things are replaceable but people aren't and that you and they both should just be happy that you're ok. |
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| phoenixBEBE |
| quote: | Originally posted by j0kr187
As far as my friends go, I didn't go out alone that night. Looking back on it now, i'm pretty damn pissed my friends didn't even bother looking for me... it keeps me guessing what they were really doing or if they even cared. They were drinking too, but I guess i have to understand that i'm not there to be babysat/taken care of and that I should be responsible for myself. So who are they to even be responsible for me when they're trying to enjoy their night |
i dunno, i think that when u do go out with friends, the intent IS to watch out for one another, even as everyones having fun etc. Sure, maybe they got way too drunk and 'forgot'? :whip: i dunno, can't say cuz im not them. the reason u GO with friends is so you dont end up alone no matter what happens. so that DEFINITELY leaves open the question of how come ur friends didnt come looking for you? that is just not considerate. i mean sure this happened to you unfortunately...but SOMEONE should have been around to at least alert everyone else. I mean, shiet, someone had to HAVE noticed that they coudlnt find you anywhere in the venue...particularly after the event ended. And if that didnt cross anyones mind...yea i agree, u need to find new friends. |
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| Leniu |
| I feel like if you're 20 your parents should understand you went out to have fun so you had a couple of drinks too many - it probably happened to them at one point in their life also. |
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| jmauro |
| quote: | Originally posted by j0kr187
Thanks for all the advice everyone...
First off, i'd like to admit and say that Yea, my actions were lousy, careless and irresponsible. But that wasn't my first show i've been to and drank at, and i've been to MANY in the span of 3 Years. I'm not even sure if something got in my drink, or maybe just from going to the gym - straight to the city on an empty stomache thinking "Yea, i'll drink with you guys bc it's Tiesto and what not..." Careless night on my part and I wish no one would have to go through what it felt like to be me the next day. Not having any money, not knowing where your friends were, and not having a phone. Completely useless.
But "Groundhog Boy", you have to admit - Once in a while, people make mistakes and people learn from them. I've seen people in K-holes, people blacked out already before the DJ went on and I just say to myself, well that sucks for them... but sometimes it's not what they chose to do. No ones perfect. You can't go on a messageboard and say "people like you piss me off". You simply can't judge people because sometimes people just let themselves go a bit too much, and sometimes it's not what they intended... like my night. I had all the best intentions to go out and have a good time. I'm a huge tranceaddict and I love these shows. That was one of my mistakes, and I don't actually get that drunk each time I go out to the city and to these shows. That was a rare occassion which I regret.
As far as my friends go, I didn't go out alone that night. Looking back on it now, i'm pretty damn pissed my friends didn't even bother looking for me... it keeps me guessing what they were really doing or if they even cared. They were drinking too, but I guess i have to understand that i'm not there to be babysat/taken care of and that I should be responsible for myself. So who are they to even be responsible for me when they're trying to enjoy their night/
For the bills and stuff, I will try and get my insurance to pay it since i'm obviously not able to at this time. I might as well tell my parents so that should ease up the situation just a little bit than having them find out through insurance statements. It's just a bad feeling, especially when you think you're a "good" person in general and something like this happens to you. It was such a terrible situation, and i'm not proud of it at all. Actually ashamed of myself because I wasn't brought up that way...
Well anyways, thanks for the advice everyone - on the bills and stuff. I'm obviously gonna try and be more mature about nights like that, and I still hope to meet a bunch of you. And i wouldn't even care if you considered me the "hospital boy", just because I know how all of you feel about this stuff and I know how i feel about it. So that's all. |
And this is why I like your posts. You are being honest and are admitting you made a mistake. You learned a lesson from this and are taking responsbility for your actions. Dont be ashamed, we all up at one point and we learn a great deal from it. I drank too much at Tiesto Saturday Night and I ended up missing half the event. Im not proud of it either. As you said "no one is perfect". Even good people. Im going to be honest I think it was bad that none of your friends stuck around with you at the hospital. But thats the past. You just simply went out to have a good time and unfortunately it got out of hand. I respect you for taking the initiative and posting this and willing to take comments, good and bad. Theres no need to call yourself hospital boy, and Im sure people on TA are willing to meet up with you at one point. You learned from this. Its understandable. Good luck with this and I hope it all ends up working out. |
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| DJ Eco |
^^ Word... You shouldn't have to apologize or explain yourself to anyone on this board, no one has the right to ride their high horse haha... We've all been there (maybe not ER or stomach-pumping), but hey, you don't even know all the details...
I passed out once at a Halloween party, I think it was a roofie cos I woke up 5 hours later... But yeah, just be careful from now on, and don't apologize or have to explain yourself to anyone on TA haha... Drink and be merry!
:)
PS - On the other hand, you passed out, caused no problems to anyone. You were pretty much at your own risk and had to take responsibility for it. The drunk guy who's still up and about, but gets into fights, bumps into people, talks , hooks up with some girl's boyfriend, he's more of a liability lol... |
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| euphoria |
| quote: | Originally posted by j0kr187
As far as my friends go, I didn't go out alone that night. Looking back on it now, i'm pretty damn pissed my friends didn't even bother looking for me... it keeps me guessing what they were really doing or if they even cared. They were drinking too, but I guess i have to understand that i'm not there to be babysat/taken care of and that I should be responsible for myself. So who are they to even be responsible for me when they're trying to enjoy their night/ |
Even if they were drinking too, it doesnt matter...unless they were in alchohal induced coma's of their own of course ;) I've been in pretty bad shape before (not blacking but bad lol), and when I notice a friend in worse shape I immediately sober up to take care of them. That's what friends are for. I know they would do the same for me.
Well I hope you know where you stand with them now... Tiesto (a perfect stranger) to them is more important than you (their alleged friend). You def need new friends!!
About the bill, send your insurance info in. They should cover most if not all of it. The hospital wants to get paid, I dont think they will make comments to the ins company to endanger their payment knowing that you are likely not in the position to pay. If you have insurance through your job the statement will be addressed in your name. If your insurance is through your parents they are definitely going to see it, however they will not know exactly what it was for. You seem like a pretty sensible person from your last post. Man up and take whats coming to ya. You will be of drinking age next year anyway, now if you were 16, then it would be a story. |
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| Groundhog Boy |
| quote: | Originally posted by j0kr187
But "Groundhog Boy", you have to admit - Once in a while, people make mistakes and people learn from them. I've seen people in K-holes, people blacked out already before the DJ went on and I just say to myself, well that sucks for them... but sometimes it's not what they chose to do. No ones perfect. You can't go on a messageboard and say "people like you piss me off". You simply can't judge people because sometimes people just let themselves go a bit too much, and sometimes it's not what they intended... like my night. I had all the best intentions to go out and have a good time. I'm a huge tranceaddict and I love these shows. That was one of my mistakes, and I don't actually get that drunk each time I go out to the city and to these shows. That was a rare occassion which I regret. |
No, it is what they, and you, chose to do that put them in that condition. No one forced drinks down your throat. I can judge you for letting yourself go a bit too much, as you may not have intended, but you sure did everything to make it happen by drinking a quantity of liquor that would allow that to happen.
I mean, it's not like you didn't know what your alcohol tolerance is like, even to a general estimation.
And I can messageboard and say that and I'd say it to you in person. It's incidents like this that get venues in trouble, making it less likely that we have places to go out. Especially as you admit, you were underage.
Take some personal responsibility and stop blaming the substance for the problem. |
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| massivenyc |
| dude what were u drinking and where can i get some?! doesnt sound like alcohol to me bro, that amount of alcohol u described really isnt much at all. I had twice that amount that night and drove home after. |
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