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| DevanteS |
i know how you feel. my best friend died 2 years ago and it just devastated me. you try to ignore it, but then it just hits you like BAM and you feel entirely helpless.
i remember for a month i'd just surf and lock myself in my room subsisting on nothing but apple juice. i felt paralyzed as if nothing was worth living for. it's so hard ..esp if you don't have anyone that understands you.
i think the best advice i can give you is try to find someone with compassion who can listen to you and just be there for you. i found that special someone in my girlfriend Aisa at the time, a girl with a HUGE heart who i will always respect for helping me out of that dark period of my life.
also, there really is no quick fix solution to this. you'll need to let it run its course as TIME is the healer of all things that hurt.
Hope you're doing good... there is sunshine at the end of the dark tunnel!.. do not despair!
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Chris
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| stella |
Hi DJ Cuba
I know how you feel. My lifes really and to be honest mine is over a women. My hole life is really ed up and I've had this for over 5 years now.
PM or email me to chat privately.
Stella |
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| neo geo |
i suffer from bipolar disorder and for a long time i did not want to believe it but now i do and i take my medicine and i have been doing fine
maybe u should go talk to a doctor about it |
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| lMIlk |
| stay awaay from the ropes |
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| Cobalt |
I became progressively depressed over the course of the past two years. I always thought that it was something wrong with how I was handling things, or that I simply didn't have a proper perspective on life. But no matter how much I tried to lighten my mood I would be in a perpetual state of sadness. Exercise, friendship, meditation, counseling, ect. Nothing worked, and the problem was slowly eroding away my will to live. People who have never experienced it cannot understand what it is like to be depressed. You can't simply "snap out of it" in most cases.
If I had not started on Paxil a few months ago I doubt my depression would have ended. I am not ashamed to take medication because it has changed my life. I am free to live as I wish without unbearable anxiety or despair.
If my past situation sounds familiar to you and your feelings are more than periodic episodes, I recommend you seek the help of a psychiatrist with getting a prescription. In most cases treatment is temporary and only necessary to get your brain chemistry back on track. From there a person can usually stabilize themself, but that intial helping push is needed to get out of the rut.
I really wish I had realized earlier that my problem wasn't anything I could change on my own. Try other options to make yourself feel better and you may solve the sitution on your own, but if you've tried that already do not avoid medication. They are not 'happy pills.' They merely make life seem free again. |
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| Cobalt |
| quote: | Originally posted by dj_cuba
I have been feeling very depressed for a long time now. Iam not going to go through the reasons why. I don't even feel like writing this now Iam so depressed. It's a really horrible feeling I can't describe. It makes you have headaches, you don't want to talk and it makes you very tierd and empty. Iam going to see my doctor about it as soon as I can, he'll probably perscribe me some anti-depressents, but I've heard they only work on some people and they can take up to 6 months:( Iam looking for any advice anyone could give, and It would be helpful if anyones could tell me their similar experiences
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By the way, I have no clue where you got that 6 months figure from. The latest most antidepressants work is 6 weeks. Actually, most patients feel effects within two or three weeks. |
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| tiesto14 |
| quote: | Originally posted by dj_cuba
I have been feeling very depressed for a long time now. Iam not going to go through the reasons why. I don't even feel like writing this now Iam so depressed. It's a really horrible feeling I can't describe. It makes you have headaches, you don't want to talk and it makes you very tierd and empty. Iam going to see my doctor about it as soon as I can, he'll probably perscribe me some anti-depressents, but I've heard they only work on some people and they can take up to 6 months:( Iam looking for any advice anyone could give, and It would be helpful if anyones could tell me their similar experiences
Thanx. |
i havent read anyone elses posts so sorry if i am being reptitve...
i am sorry ur depressed dude...
i used to have really really BAD depression with anxiety attacks....i used to feel like i coudnt breath and everytime i ate i felt like i was going to choke..it was very very scary , even made me stop going out alot....
i even contimplated suicide a few times...
i was on medication , which can and usually does take several weeks to work well...i was on prozac, buspar, xanax and a few other drugs...
and after about 2 years of being on medication i stopped...i then began to relaize that my depression went away when i stopped thinking about it...MY personal depression went away when i kept myself occupied with things i love to do..but thats me.
Some people NEED medication, and there is NOTHING wqrong with that AT ALL...it is like any other disease...it jus attacks your mind...i find it crazy when people say that people with depression dont need medication and they can get over it and blah blah blah...depression is from a distorted level of brain chemicals..such as serotonin, norephidrine and ephidrine and a few others...these drugs help elevate your serotonin levels to normal ones...which inturn releives you of many depression symtoms...drugs alone can not alleviate depression...u also need people to talk to...whether its a doctor , friend or family..u NEED to talk it out with someone who u TRUST with your depression and soemone who will not judge you if u say some of the darkest and lowest feelings that u may have.
I still get depressed from time to time and know the cause of my depression, so i can control it...to a degree....its hard and takes lots of work..but it can be done...
and like i said it is a disease....so never be ashamed to get help.
One thing that i have also heard to help depression is LIGHT...like sunlight and lamps in your house...i am not sure if u have ever heard of when people get "The Winter Blues"?...well that is when people get depressed in the winter time, when the days are shorter and the sun goes down earlier and its dark at like 5pm...this is called "light deprevation" and can cause people ro become depressed....many people i know get the winter blues and are fine in the spring, summer and fall. So a light atmosphere also helps depression...never sit alone in the darl, which is what many like to do when they depresed...but NEVER do that.,..always sit in well lit areas and it will help you...trust me.
People who are depressed tend to hurt themselves more then help themselves...they tend to do things that will make their depression worse ---- like sit in the dark, listen to sad music, not talk about their feelings---i am not sure why they do but many do...its only when u realize that u cant do it alone, that u can overcome this disease and get better.
Depending on the reason for depression is also very important. But i suggest only telling people you trust, people who love you and will never judge you...some depression is just fleeting moments in your life..but other times it is very very debilitating and can be dangerous...
Depression is extremely scary to a depressed person...AND ONLY another person who has gone thru depression can really understan the way you feel...it is horrifying and tormenting....sometimes i felt like i was going to go crazy...but you will find your own personal ways to make it better....it will take time, and may need medication and therapy..depending on the degree...but it can be won...jus be patient and dotn ever be afraid to cry about it...i found that crying helped alot....
i really am sad that u have to experience this..i KNOW what it feels like...and all i can say is it does get better...i promise you...jus be strong......i wish you all the best.:( |
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| Trancer85 |
| quote: | Originally posted by tiesto14
i havent read anyone elses posts so sorry if i am being reptitve...
i am sorry ur depressed dude...
i used to have really really BAD depression with anxiety attacks....i used to feel like i coudnt breath and everytime i ate i felt like i was going to choke..it was very very scary , even made me stop going out alot....
i even contimplated suicide a few times...
i was on medication , which can and usually does take several weeks to work well...i was on prozac, buspar, xanax and a few other drugs...
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Your not alone. my mom has panic disorders and she cant eat and feels like she cant breathe when she gets one. when its worse she take some pills that calms her down. and ur right....she also says that only the victim will know the feeling of the disease.
Fortunatley she is feeling better these dayz. |
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| DJ RozzeR |
Dj_Cuba depressed , well to be honest its not depression your suffering its the lack of minerals my son , your body gets use to doing noting and it thinks to it self that its dieing it effects your brain , now you would think if you slept all day and night your gonna feel more awake , nah mate don't sleep more than 9 hours coz thats gonna fuk you up. if you oversleep your body can't handle it , motivation is the key to success.
Now dont be a and get ya arse away from your bed , and work out. |
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| Sand Leaper |
It warms my heart to see that there are more depressed TAs than me on this forum.It makes me feel a little less alone.
I know the feeling,believe me.I'm having it constantly.It's not so bad that I need medication(yet),but at times,it is so bad that if it weren't for my love for the music,my parents would be standing in front of a grave instead of talking to me at the dinner table.There are a load of reasons for this(for instance the fact that I haven't yet had a GF,and it makes me feel like I'm one of the ugliest people on earth,as stupid as it may sound,there are a lot of uglier people than me that have GFs),but I'm a bit uncomfortable with spilling all my personal problems on an internet forum,so I'll just say that my main problem is that I'm having serious trouble finding a social environment where I can fit in properly.
I've been to various social environments,but everywhere there's always something that hinders me from getting fully integrated.Be it that I don't have the "drink to get drunk"-attitude that you obviously gotta have to have fun in my tiny hometown,that I don't share the same views,taste in music or biase towards either pro-or anti-christianity(I live in a pretty religious part of my country) as the other people around me.Either way,since I refuse to change my personality to adapt to a certain social environment,there's always something keeping me separated from full integration in a social circuit,and it's driving me up the wall.I try not to let it bother me too much,but it's not easy when 65% of your friends around you are having the time of their lives,but you're not getting any of the fun since you're unlike them in some way.
This is all probably a bit hard to understand without details,but I hope that it made some sense.Right now,my love for the music is my only reason for living.It's hard,since there are no big events where I can join other people who enjoy trance and other electronic music the way I do in my country,thanks to stuck up house djs who monpolize the clubscene,rabid e-hunting policemen at raves, 20-year age limits and a generally ed up view on music throughout my country.(either you're into "real music",(rock) the way you're "supposed to",or it's crappy commercial ,including the worst crap-trance around.)But thanks to you guys here @ TA,the people at the Artificial Recs-forum (big up!;)),MP3 and the various radio stations around the world,I'm still a devoted addict to electronic music.I just hope I can meet some of you guys soon at a party or something soon.I'm getting seriously pissed off watching one fat lined-up event after another taking place without me being there:mad:
That's some of the things I'm struggling with right now.So if my sig ever reverts to the "..Life Sucks."-state,you know why.Anyway,to all of the depressed TAs out there:keep on fighting!In the end things will work out,I'm positive!:) |
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| fastmp3 |
| quote: | Originally posted by DJ RozzeR
Dj_Cuba depressed , well to be honest its not depression your suffering its the lack of minerals my son , your body gets use to doing noting and it thinks to it self that its dieing it effects your brain , now you would think if you slept all day and night your gonna feel more awake , nah mate don't sleep more than 9 hours coz thats gonna fuk you up. if you oversleep your body can't handle it , motivation is the key to success.
Now dont be a and get ya arse away from your bed , and work out. |
don't be a twat to him ... see why a lot of people don't like you ? |
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| TranceGiant |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sand Leaper
It warms my heart to see that there are more depressed TAs than me on this forum.It makes me feel a little less alone.
I know the feeling,believe me.I'm having it constantly.It's not so bad that I need medication(yet),but at times,it is so bad that if it weren't for my love for the music,my parents would be standing in front of a grave instead of talking to me at the dinner table.There are a load of reasons for this(for instance the fact that I haven't yet had a GF,and it makes me feel like I'm one of the ugliest people on earth,as stupid as it may sound,there are a lot of uglier people than me that have GFs),but I'm a bit uncomfortable with spilling all my personal problems on an internet forum,so I'll just say that my main problem is that I'm having serious trouble finding a social environment where I can fit in properly.
I've been to various social environments,but everywhere there's always something that hinders me from getting fully integrated.Be it that I don't have the "drink to get drunk"-attitude that you obviously gotta have to have fun in my tiny hometown,that I don't share the same views,taste in music or biase towards either pro-or anti-christianity(I live in a pretty religious part of my country) as the other people around me.Either way,since I refuse to change my personality to adapt to a certain social environment,there's always something keeping me separated from full integration in a social circuit,and it's driving me up the wall.I try not to let it bother me too much,but it's not easy when 65% of your friends around you are having the time of their lives,but you're not getting any of the fun since you're unlike them in some way.
This is all probably a bit hard to understand without details,but I hope that it made some sense.Right now,my love for the music is my only reason for living.It's hard,since there are no big events where I can join other people who enjoy trance and other electronic music the way I do in my country,thanks to stuck up house djs who monpolize the clubscene,rabid e-hunting policemen at raves, 20-year age limits and a generally ed up view on music throughout my country.(either you're into "real music",(rock) the way you're "supposed to",or it's crappy commercial ,including the worst crap-trance around.)But thanks to you guys here @ TA,the people at the Artificial Recs-forum (big up!;)),MP3 and the various radio stations around the world,I'm still a devoted addict to electronic music.I just hope I can meet some of you guys soon at a party or something soon.I'm getting seriously pissed off watching one fat lined-up event after another taking place without me being there:mad:
That's some of the things I'm struggling with right now.So if my sig ever reverts to the "..Life Sucks."-state,you know why.Anyway,to all of the depressed TAs out there:keep on fighting!In the end things will work out,I'm positive!:) |
Aye, I can relate to many of the aspects u mentioned. Some sound very familiar. But okay, i assume that u wont spend the rest of your life in that tiny village but are gonna move to bigger citys (Oslo?) or even live abroad. Unfortunately having / getting GF's is very often directly linked to the community u are in (ur friends, ur school, chess club or what-ing-ever). Unless ure one of the self confident guys that just approach girls on the street.. But as I said, as soon as ull get into a new environment problems will be solved. I also had a period where i just couldnt get along with ppl @ my age. At the age where every1 was cool getting drunk and smoking cigarettes or havig girls I used to be a so-called outsider since it all seemed so childish and senseless to me..pretentious. Okay right now i do ocassionally get drunk..but I've got some nice smart and electronic.music-loving friends to share it with ;)
I agree on Pork's remark... Time is the healer
Same to dj cuba.. It'll be alright! |
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