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Sistahs Being Urged to Date Outside Their Race
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| HardTranceProd |
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dy...ml?nav=hcmodule
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Single black women being urged to date outside race
So many black women are single, she says, because they are stuck in the groove of a one-track song: sitting alone, waiting for that one "good" black man to come along and sweep them off their feet.
Waiting. Talking to girlfriends. Waiting. Going out alone. Waiting. Going to work. Waiting.
Waiting for a "good" black man, with the same education level to marry them.
Waiting. Even when they know the odds are stacked against them.
Single black women with college degrees outnumber single black men with college degrees almost 3 to 1 in major urban areas such as Washington, according to a 2008 population survey by the U.S. Census Bureau. Given those numbers, any economist would advise them to start looking elsewhere.
It's Econ 101 for the single, educated black woman.
"Black women are in market failure," says writer Karyn Langhorne Folan. "The solution is to find a new market for your commodity. And in this case, we are the commodity and the new market is men of other races."
Folan is the author of "Don't Bring Home a White Boy: And Other Notions That Keep Black Women From Dating Out," published this month by Karen Hunter, an imprint of Pocket Books. In encouraging black women to date and marry interracially, the book has joined a broadening debate in recent years fueled by the blogosphere, the entertainment industry and comments by prominent African Americans.
Tyler Perry cast a Latin man as the great love interest of black actress Taraji P. Henson in his recent movie, "I Can Do Bad All by Myself"; in "The Princess and the Frog" featuring Disney's first black princess, the prince's indeterminate racial origins inspired commentary; and there was the 2006 movie "Something New," in which characters played by Simon Baker, who is white, and Sanaa Lathan, who is black, fall in love.
Whoopi Goldberg has talked about interracial dating on "The View," saying you date whom you are around. Oprah Winfrey has encouraged black women to explore "what is out there." While the discussion includes men of all races and ethnicities, the focus is primarily on overcoming taboos against dating white men.
By promoting interracial love for some black women, Folan explains that she is not suggesting that there aren't any good, single black men out there, or that every educated single black woman will not find an educated black mate. She is not bashing all black men or implying that all black women are aiming for the altar. The writer, mom and Harvard-educated lawyer says that she is just offering a reasonable solution to the shortage of available black men.
"Consider your options," she says. Expand your horizons. Stop listening to your girlfriends. Forget about the brothers calling you a sellout. Get over those old images of slavery and stop blaming every white man for sins perpetrated by others.
"In short," Folan says, "some black women choose to demonize all white men rather than look objectively at the facts of our modern times, which are these: Some men, whatever their race, are bad for us. And the converse is true as well. Some men, whatever their race, are good for us."
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Being perceived by other blacks as a sellout is No. 8 on the list of nine "notions" preventing black women from dating and marrying interracially that Folan outlines and rebuts in her book. Those notions also include: (1) "After slavery, I would never, ever date a white man"; (4) "I don't find white men attractive"; (5) "White men don't find black women attractive unless they look like Beyoncé"; and (9) "We'd be too different."
Folan says she was prompted to write the book two years ago after an opinion piece on interracial marriage she wrote for The Washington Post generated an overwhelming response. "Obviously, it touched a nerve," she says. "The writer in me said, 'There is a book in this.' "
As quiet as it is kept, the scene from the movie "Guess Who's Coming to Dinner" plays out just as strongly in black households as others -- but in reverse, Folan says. Many black daughters are told: "Whatever you do, don't bring home a white boy," she says. "I think it is partially generational. It is a stronger mantra the older you are. [But] I heard from young women in their twenties whose parents were still having trouble with that." Folan's message seems urgent and unapologetic. She is a missionary wiping a window pane so the people she is seeking to help can see things more clearly.
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"Once, as we strolled together after a lovely dinner in Baltimore, a car full of black men honked at us. 'Come back, sister!' one of them yelled out of the window. 'Come back!' "
But after a while she stopped noticing, and it wasn't much longer before she decided to stay right where she was.
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| boris_the_bear |
it's nothing compared to problems in China, where, if I'm not mistaken, there is a risk of millions of men not finding a female for themselves
we're ed. watch out for your girlfriends. never know how many chinese guys she's slept with on her usual "night shift at the library" |
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| Comrade Stalin |
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| echosystm |
| quote: | | (5) "White men don't find black women attractive unless they look like Beyoncé"; |
QFT. On average, black women and Indian women are probably the two most consistently unattractive races. However, when they are good... they are GOOD. :eyes: |
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| Chris Crossland |
Mulatas FTW
I like to call them Halfrican Americans |
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| Adam420 |
| quote: | Originally posted by echosystm
QFT. On average, black women and Indian women are probably the two most consistently unattractive races. However, when they are good... they are GOOD. :eyes: |
lol, beat me to it:p |
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| pkcRAISTLIN |
| quote: | Originally posted by echosystm
QFT. On average, black women and Indian women are probably the two most consistently unattractive races. However, when they are good... they are GOOD. :eyes: |
i think aboriginal australians are easily the least attractive race on the planet. even moreso than chubby innuets. |
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| iammesol |
| My girlfriend is black. 's true, dawg. |
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| Joss Weatherby |
| something something.. . |
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| Zharen |
| SAY IT AGAIN PINKY! |
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| boris_the_bear |
| quote: | Originally posted by iammesol
My girlfriend is black. 's true, dawg. |
what's true? |
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