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| D-res |
Anyone on here the legal guardian or have power of attorney over another individual - for medical or any other reason? I may be appointed my dad's legal guardian in a few days and the process is overwhelming to say the least. I don't want to say that I don't want the responsibility, but a few pamphlets on how guardianship works really doesn't put into perspective the scope of what would be required. My uncle is actively trying to get guardianship as well, and even though my mom is vehemently against it, I think he'd be a better fit. He lives slightly farther away than I do, but I'm working and trying to complete school; he's nearing retirement and is much more familiar with balancing the finances of a middle-aged homeowner retiree. I can barely keep a few hundred dollars in the bank. Alternatively, if I get the guardianship, it may be easier to ensure my dad gets the treatment he wants where he wants.
Anyone have any similar experiences/tips/retarded backhand comments?
Cor version: Just read it or press backspace and never return. Your opinion's probably not relevant anyway. |
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| Joss Weatherby |
| Why is he giving it to you now? Is he ill? Becoming mentally ineffective? |
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| D-res |
| quote: | Originally posted by Joss Weatherby
Why is he giving it to you now? Is he ill? Becoming mentally ineffective? |
Following a few weeks of severe malnutrition due to illness he was hospitalized twice and eventually diagnosed with this. He's not giving it up, the courts essentially took it away. Now he's improved pretty significantly since, as he's in rehabilitative care and is actually receiving a proper diet, but there are obvious permanent effects with his memory and cognition. I still think, with guidance, he could live semi-independently with my mom (physically disbaled for a couple years following cancer treatments, making the situation all the more complicated. He was, until recently, caring for her in his retirement.) But, many of the papers filed include several losses of rights. :/ |
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| Joss Weatherby |
Ah I see. This sounds complicated... I don't really know what to suggest. Is there any other older relatives (aunts, uncles) of yours that can have this power? On the other hand really if one of your parents is still capable of making decisions you could have POA and just tell them to run things through you where that would be needed.
That is quite a bit of a thing to handle though. See if you can find a legal clinic or something that might be able to give you free advice on the best way to handle a situation like this, like being able to delegate it to a third party or something.
I remember my dad having to take POA from his father, it was not fun and he is an experienced attorney who knew how the system works. |
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| Arbiter |
I've had POA a few times for family members, but it was just a matter of convenience. I wasn't really making any decisions though, I just needed to manage their property according to their instructions while they were unreachable for extended periods of time, and POA turned out to be the least burdensome way of enabling me to do it so far as we could determine.
So, I doubt any of my experiences would translate very well to your situation. Good luck. |
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| Lira |
I've got nothing to add other than my wishes that everything may turn out well in the end.
Best of luck, Res! |
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| Abercrombie |
| I will have power of attorney for when my parents are near their end... scares the out of me... I don't want it, but I'm the closest son to where they live. |
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| D-res |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
I've got nothing to add other than my wishes that everything may turn out well in the end.
Best of luck, Res! |
Much appreciated Marcus. btw I randomly decided to scope your facebook page. What do you like about Rise Against? :wtf:
| quote: | Originally posted by Abercrombie
I will have power of attorney for when my parents are near their end... scares the out of me... I don't want it, but I'm the closest son to where they live. |
My only recommendation is to ensure you know their wishes before the unforeseen happens and they're unable to tell you. For example, my parents want nothing to do with ventilators or feeding tubes. I would naturally assume they would, and it came as a surprise to learn that they'd prefer to just let go rather than be artificially maintained. No one likes to talk about mortality, but if you're going to be in that position, there's never a bad time to get it out of the way. :)
I never would have assumed 2 months ago that my dad would be at the level of delusion he's at now. Two months ago he was fully autonomous, now he can't identify the year, the president or the relative severity of his condition, leaving him to pack his belongings every morning in preparation of leaving the nursing home every day only for us to visit him, have a bit of idle chatter, and see us off as he sits on a locked floor under constant supervision. Life's unforeseen, and highly ed. |
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| Sushipunk |
| Jesus man, that's rough :( I hope things get better for you and your family. |
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| gehzumteufel |
| I don't know your situation, nor do I really have anything to contribute, but I would say try to evaluate from a distance why your uncle may want guardianship. Is he a brother that your father was never close to and really had no impact on his life? Does this guy even know what your father would want in any way, shape, or form? If not, if I were you, I would take on the responsibility. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by D-res
Much appreciated Marcus. btw I randomly decided to scope your facebook page. What do you like about Rise Against? :wtf: |
It's fast-paced and noisy enough = Lira approved!
I take it they're not your favourite band? :p |
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| D-res |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
It's fast-paced and noisy enough = Lira approved!
I take it they're not your favourite band? :p |
A local radio station over-plays their more commercial tunes. Its better than emo rock. :gsmile: |
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