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Same Sex Cheating.... (pg. 3)
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| Joss Weatherby |
| quote: | Originally posted by Fledz
You're either in a monogamous relationship or you're not. There's no grey line.
Gender has nothing to do with it. |
What about polygamy? |
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| Fledz |
| quote: | Originally posted by Joss Weatherby
What about polygamy? |
You're either in a monogamous relationship or you're not.
Want me to write it for you again? |
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| Joss Weatherby |
| quote: | Originally posted by Fledz
You're either in a monogamous relationship or you're not.
Want me to write it for you again? |
No, I know what you mean, but polygamy has monogamy in one direction. So one side will be monogamous in that they only have one partner while the other doesn't. Its not the same as cheating because its understood thats how it is to be.
If a man has multiple wives and the wives slept with another man they'd be cheating, etc. The man would be polygamous, the women monogamous. |
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| Fledz |
| That's not a normal monogamous relationship. |
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| FuzzQi |
| quote: | Originally posted by tubularbills
I think that most guys first initial thought of his girlfriend cheating on him with another girl is the stereotypical soft-core lesbian porn. kissing, maybe some boob touching, and that's about it (maybe a quick glance at some pubes). they don't think about hardcore scissoring, dildos, penetration with strap-ons; all the other stuff that people get in to. where as if his girlfriend is with another dude, all he thinks about is her getting penetrated (i.e. not kissing, chest touching, other softcore stuff...etc...).
Likewise, if a guy's girlfriend does anything with a hot girl, it's deemed ok (even if it's penetration)....because the other girl is pretty. Straight men (mostly) don't like the idea of girls being with another dude because it's a dude and he has a dick and that's gross. I don't know what bisexual men would think...probably that it would be ok if the other person was cute.
Guys (as Lira mentioned above) always gravitate towards that idea of my girlfriend cheats on me with another girl, that's FOUR boobs  and TWO vaginas , and that's just awesome.
I'd like to see a dude's reaction to his girlfriend cheating on him with a really ugly looking lesbian, and the lesbian screwed her with a strapon, ball-gag, and all the other BDSM stuff.
This is not to say that lesbians only partake in this kind of activity, but it's just not what men think about when it involves two chicks. |
I just can't stand her attention being on someone other than myself |
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| prolikewhoa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Fledz
You're either in a monogamous relationship or you're not. There's no grey line.
Gender has nothing to do with it. |
very succinctly and nicely put. i agree 100% |
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| david.michael |
| If there's permission, it's not cheating. If there's not, it is. Simple as hell, not sure why there's any need for debate. |
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| Intellekshual |
Cheating is doing something behind your partner's back that you know they wouldn't approve of.
It's as simple as that. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Fledz
You're either in a monogamous relationship or you're not. There's no grey line.
Gender has nothing to do with it. |
Actually, I wouldn't put it in so simple terms. I'm inclined to agree with your no nonsense drama-free definition, reason why the very first thing I said was "No matter the sex, cheating is cheating", don't get me wrong. However, things are not always this simple:- A friend of my brother likes to have a steady boyfriend, found one, yet she made it clear from the outset that she needs (and will) make out with other women during their relationship. It is, in a sense, a monogamous relationship - guy meets girl, guy dates no other girl, girl dates no other guy, and they live happily thereafter.
But it's an odd kind of monogamy, because she keeps seeing people that are totally unlike him. Would you say that's an open relationship when there are so many limits to how open it actually is?
I guess Intellekshual's and David Michael's definitions are a better starting point, and this relationship I mentioned clearly shows it: the guy agreed with her terms, so you can't really say she's cheating on him. |
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| Joss Weatherby |
| If Avana was still around this thread would be 6x as long by now. |
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| prolikewhoa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Actually, I wouldn't put it in so simple terms. I'm inclined to agree with your no nonsense drama-free definition, reason why the very first thing I said was "No matter the sex, cheating is cheating", don't get me wrong. However, things are not always this simple:- A friend of my brother likes to have a steady boyfriend, found one, yet she made it clear from the outset that she needs (and will) make out with other women during their relationship. It is, in a sense, a monogamous relationship - guy meets girl, guy dates no other girl, girl dates no other guy, and they live happily thereafter.
But it's an odd kind of monogamy, because she keeps seeing people that are totally unlike him. Would you say that's an open relationship when there are so many limits to how open it actually is?
I guess Intellekshual's and David Michael's definitions are a better starting point, and this relationship I mentioned clearly shows it: the guy agreed with her terms, so you can't really say she's cheating on him. |
why do you always get so caught up in nuances? :whip: |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by prolikewhoa
why do you always get so caught up in nuances? :whip: |
I'm a scientist, that's what I do for a living :D |
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