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question for the boys (pg. 6)
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| JohnSmith |
| quote: | Originally posted by butterfly
you guys killed it. i was serious. i wanted to know if all men think that way. |
well, to be honest, probabaly.
Personally, i get quite regular sex, and that doesn't stop me from quite regularly masturbating. and when i do, i'm not always thinking about my fiance(although a lot of the time i am)
It's definitely not being unfaithful, any more than having a day dream about skydiving is the same as doing it. Personally, i don't think theres anything wrong with it, it's something that happens when the sheen of lust and infatuation is lifted off of a couple, and they realize that they love each other anyway. I wouldn't be surprised if my fiance thought about other guys, maybe tom cruise, maybe tom green, i don't really know or want to know, cuz i don't care.
If your thinking about someone else while you are having sex WITH the person though, then that's definitely ed up. |
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| -CosmicFire- |
happy for u he left u..
hes just an ...
i think about my girlfriend everytime i think about something :p
if he thinks about othe girls by that way when hes with you hes just an :toocool: |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by JohnSmith
I wouldn't be surprised if my fiance thought about other guys, maybe tom cruise, maybe tom green, i don't really know or want to know, cuz i don't care.
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your points are kinda what i expected and what you are saying is healthy, i think. but what if it isnt some fantasy person but someone you know and is in your everyday life, as in this case. |
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| JohnSmith |
well, even if it's someone you know (which it usually is) so what? it's still OK in my opinion, as long as your not participating with them (ie phone or cybersex) if it's a passive thing that the other person doesn't know, then no harm done.
is he a scumbag? well, that's up to you to decide i guess. |
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| occrider |
| quote: | Originally posted by JohnSmith
well, even if it's someone you know (which it usually is) so what? it's still OK in my opinion, as long as your not participating with them (ie phone or cybersex) if it's a passive thing that the other person doesn't know, then no harm done.
is he a scumbag? well, that's up to you to decide i guess. |
I would say that as long as you don't obssess about the other person it's ok. |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by JohnSmith
well, even if it's someone you know (which it usually is) so what? it's still OK in my opinion, as long as your not participating with them (ie phone or cybersex) if it's a passive thing that the other person doesn't know, then no harm done.
is he a scumbag? well, that's up to you to decide i guess. |
based on what you just said, yes. cause not only did he tell me he thinks about me when he masterbates but he also decided to reminisce on the phone with me about how good our sex used to be. after that i stopped allowing him to talk to me. |
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| torontotrance |
99.99999999999999999999999999999% of men wank
during relationships or not during relationships
it's a problem that most men can't beat (excuse the bad pun btw). |
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| JohnSmith |
| quote: | Originally posted by butterfly
based on what you just said, yes. cause not only did he tell me he thinks about me when he masterbates but he also decided to reminisce on the phone with me about how good our sex used to be. after that i stopped allowing him to talk to me. |
well, the guy clearly is attracted to you and wants you back. however, it does indicate that if he were to be with you he might do the same back to his current gf, so your prolly right. |
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| JohnSmith |
| quote: | Originally posted by torontotrance
99.99999999999999999999999999999% of men wank
during relationships or not during relationships
it's a problem that most men can't beat (excuse the bad pun btw). |
she wasn't asking whether or not we wank, but what we think about.
and besides, why is it a problem to beat (the meat)?
I don't see a problem with it. |
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| hangover |
lol @ this thread...
Anyways... First off, the fact that he told you this is probably to with your head and it might not even be true. But if it were, it is understandable. Fantasizing about someone that you can't have is more exciting than fantasizing about someone you have (much like the potential of getting caught is exciting). When you are together with someone for a while, it doesn't matter how much you like him, the passion decreases (especially for males... it's our instinct to spread our seeds to as many different women as possible... :rolleyes: ).
Just for fun, ask him if he thinks of you during sex as well (that would be a bit more creepier...)
Oh, and by the way he sound like an asshat who isn't really serious about his g/f. :toothless |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by JohnSmith
well, the guy clearly is attracted to you and wants you back. however, it does indicate that if he were to be with you he might do the same back to his current gf, so your prolly right. |
i dont think he wants me back so much as wants to keep a connection to a person who really cares. like a safety, you know? either way, it is still ty. i need a new one... |
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| torontotrance |
well I'm single
so beating da meat...does not make me cheat cuz i got no woman.....mwahahha.
actually i think it depends on the girl and the guy
i mean also it depends what you define cheating
also i think it depends how honest the other person is about his or her other half |
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