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question for the boys (pg. 7)
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| Renegade |
There are no thought crimes.
Does it bother you that he's thinking about other girls or just that he's thinking about other girls when he's masturbating? Are they both wrong? What's the difference? |
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| big dave |
| ive been to work and back and this threads still going lol |
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| ahlamalek |
I love my girl alot but that doesn't mean i don't fantasize about a certain girl or girls...
anyways, i don't want to elaborate on this as it is a very personnal matter and prefer doing so in private. |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by partyprincess
Having sex only with the ones whom you are truly in love with, and who truly love you certainly prevents these worries and headaches, butterfly. If he didn't love you, then what do you expect. Only when a man is really ready to commit to you does he stop thinking about other women when he has sex with you. All men are not s...But you have to expect certain things when you have sex when you're not in love. Trust me, if you're with the love of your life then they think that you're the most beautiful woman in the world and you think that they're the sexiest guy in the world. There's no need to think about others, and that would only turn them off. |
i hear what you are saying... but there are physical needs that need to be met. from the other perspective, if i only had sex with men i was in love with, i'd be a very unsatisfied woman. |
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| intrinsic |
| my girl says to call her if i think of yankin it... certainly, she cant be around at all times but thinkin about the real thing keeps me from yankin it :) |
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| Trancewave |
Butterfly, you are thinking too much into this.
Guys thinking about other girls besides their girlfriend while wanking is perfectly normal, trust me I know.....:rolleyes:
Sometimes I think about multiple girls, or my girl with another girl, or sometimes I think about my friends. It has nothing to do with being shallow or anything, whatever floats your boat.
Now, if I really love my girl I would not want to have a threesome with her and another girl in real life because that to me would be me kinda cheating on her, and would never go through with it even if she insists (but that's just me) but thinking about it is different....however, if I don't really love her, then it would be ok. Thinking about it and acting on it is different.
Your ex was just being honest with you, and despite what people say here, I really don't think he wants you back.
However, you did say that he NEVER thought of you while wanking when you were together....that could also mean
1)he was never attracted to you physically or sexually and had to focus on other means to get off
2)now that he's not with you anymore, he finds you more attractive and therefore much easier for him to get off
Guys always find girls more attractive when they are not with them unless he is totally in love with you. In this case it looks like he wasn't, hence why he broke up with you.
Just my $0.03 |
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| Nell |
butterfly, why dont you get a grip on reality and stop kidding yourself about your fantasy world where everyone is a truthful, committed, monogomist (sp?)
i cant decide wether you refuse to accept the truth that men and women behave like this (which they do) or if your naive or stupid?! i bet there are very few people that can say theyve never 'yanked their plank' while thinking of someone in there everyday life. its what gets men off even more.. its no big deal. each to their own etc etc.
post something in music discussion about trance rather than clogging up the chillout room with all this crap, or alternatively join a dedicated forum for insecure, frail attention seekers.
it sound to me as though your ex is anythign but ed up, he's just playing with you at your expense... |
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| bassaholix |
You all seem to take into account the male slogans and rational explanations... but think of this as an interest in humanity...
99% of people masturbate... 1% lie about it.. we've all heard this one...
But I love women, i admire them and im equal to them.. why? IM NOT ABOVE THEM!!!
Lets face it.. were all from the same species... were all human, sure men and women might not think alike.. i can prove this...
My ex.. well when we were together.. asked me this very same question...
"Do I think of her when i masturbated?"
I answered truthfully yes, why? because i was in love with her the first time i met her, and probably till the day that i die.. because she changed me to realise that i could be a better person.
Sure this may sound like a load of crap... but honestly its the truth, which lets me to this point... To me, if i masturbate to an image which differs to the person that i am seeing at this present moment, i consider it a flaw, like a weakness.
This is because if i wanted this person, both for mental and physical reasons, then i would think about them, and i wouldn't need to think about somebody else.
Leads me to another point.. if you think about another person during sex, that there is an angle, and once you loose sight of those angles, you loose sight of yourself, if you can't trust yourself? who can you trust...?
babe... tell you what.. forget about negative people like that, you are intelligent, you are independant.. you are who you want to be and you are who you choose to be, this ex, let him be in his own world, his own life, just move all communications with him to a negative spectrum and just forget him.. if that's what you are really implying here.
To conclude... the question my ex bestowed upon me that gracious summer's day... she didn't end up believing me, so i was stuck with the hurt that i wasn't trusted on something that i truly stood up for, shortly after that... the relationship ended... now here, tell me now... was that question appropriate, or was it only an escape goat from the truth that she wasn't too confident on how things were going?
And if so.. why bull? why ask a question that would have hurt her.. based on the assumption she had already put?
Wel enough of me has come for today, i shall depart... i hope this reply was not in vain... |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by bassaholix
...i hope this reply was not in vain... |
It wasn't, instead of thinking of my ex everytime i masturbate i will think of you. :eek: :p
Seriously, girls think too much bout sex/masturbation and have all these weird rules to justify that its ok. I read a discussion about virginity and what constitutes sex, like if girl gives and receives oral she's still quote a good girl cause her virginity is still intact.
My point being, masturbation is a personal thing and you should be able think about whomever u want without the sex police ing with u. It’s just plain crazy to say it’s ok to do it as long as u don’t know the person you thinking about. I can’t understand why butterfly bf is telling her he's masturbating to her. That’s just odd and its pretty obvious she should cut off contact with the dude. E-nuff said L8.
Sincerely,
Jack Off O'Lot |
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| hangover |
| quote: | Originally posted by partyprincess
Having sex only with the ones whom you are truly in love with, and who truly love you certainly prevents these worries and headaches, butterfly. If he didn't love you, then what do you expect. Only when a man is really ready to commit to you does he stop thinking about other women when he has sex with you. All men are not s...But you have to expect certain things when you have sex when you're not in love. Trust me, if you're with the love of your life then they think that you're the most beautiful woman in the world and you think that they're the sexiest guy in the world. There's no need to think about others, and that would only turn them off. |
A romantic. ;) |
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| JohnSmith |
| quote: | Originally posted by Nell
butterfly, why dont you get a grip on reality and stop kidding yourself about your fantasy world where everyone is a truthful, committed, monogomist (sp?)
i cant decide wether you refuse to accept the truth that men and women behave like this (which they do) or if your naive or stupid?! i bet there are very few people that can say theyve never 'yanked their plank' while thinking of someone in there everyday life. its what gets men off even more.. its no big deal. each to their own etc etc.
post something in music discussion about trance rather than clogging up the chillout room with all this crap, or alternatively join a dedicated forum for insecure, frail attention seekers.
it sound to me as though your ex is anythign but ed up, he's just playing with you at your expense... |
no need to be an about it. this is the chillout room, and anything goes, she asks an honest question and you call her an insecure frail attention seeker? |
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| faithless |
| quote: | Originally posted by butterfly
so, i was talking to my ex and he told me that he never thinks about the girl he is dating when he masterbates (and that he thinks about me now). personally, if i am dating someone, i ONLY think about him. is this normal for guys or is my ex an ? (well, i already know he is an but with respect to this...) is it unfaithful to think of ing other girls in your life if you are dating someone? i think so. |
If you think it's unfaithful then you shouldn't be worrying what other ppl think.
Some will think it's unfaithful and others won't.
I can see you're a very loyal person but some won't have the same beliefs/standards you have. |
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