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doesn't anyone have manners anymore? (rant warning) (pg. 2)
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| Starfox |
i hate arrogance and unpolite poeple wtf... civilization is dying i`m afraid.
all the best,
fox |
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| DJ M.G |
or when there are people walking towards you on the
pavement.......and they take up all the ing room
so you have to walk on the road
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:mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: MOVE OUT THE WAY!!!! |
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| Orbax |
Try having a classical upbringing. I stand when women enter the room, i dont sit until all of the women have, push their chairs in and help them put on their coats. I walk girls home cuz i dont think they should be alone out on the streets. Nobody notices half the i do (im not doing it to be noticed) but what they do notice they dont understand. You feel kind of weird when in a group of 15 guys you just randomly stand up and wait until she sits down somewhere. Im constantly giving perfect strangers (women) my seat and then Ill stand.
It bugs me because guys are complete s. Women usually think its pretty cool, but when I see how people treat women these days... I kinda wanna kick their ass in front of their girlfriend or something so she realizes she can do better. or something.
that was my rant hehe.
just sayin I agree with you on multiple levels. The discourtesy of others, and half the time the lack of recognition people show for what respect you are giving them. Always acknowledge someone elses gesture. Gratitude isnt demeaning.
main problem is people seriously dont respect any more. Try making a list of things that you think your culture RESPECTS, and what you feel your culture pressures you to bow down to and not stomp on. As an American I can say our country has lost much of what made us great. So far the only things I can think of are respecting peoples right to be gay and ethnic. Thats what our country has gotten into and its because of fear. Fear of looking like you arent with the times, fear of losing money. For the most part people dont give a , but now they are having to swing wildly the other way to not be labeled as .
Thats the only reason i can think of for manners these days. Fear. Fear of reprisal, fear of being outcast. Respect though? Please. Thats a forgotten ing word.
I think i just depressed myself. |
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| daffodil |
i'm SO glad i'm not alone in this. so much stuff i'm going to reply to and i don't feel like quoting everything so i'll list it:
1. davesaenz, i live outside of DC and it's a casual dining seafood restaurant, but the expensive kind. people come dressed up for special events, or just for a normal dinner.
2. i've noticed it's "fake rich" people who are rude. we have a lot of regulars and it's the people who are truly wealthy that are polite and courteous, even it they're new money. it's people who are pretending to be wealthy that are rude and demanding.
3. hypersonic, you're right about people feeling entitled to make comments to women and it drives me insane. i'm a very confident person, but any time i walk past a group of men that are leering at me or making "observations," as i'll nicely call it, i want to crawl into a hole.
4. orbax, i think it is a classical upbringing that makes you all the more infuriated when people don't have manners. my parents were, and still are, very insistent on courtesy and politeness. it makes me so happy to see that my older brother is so courteous and respectful of people, even his own sister ;) i think respect does still exist among some people. it certainly does in my family and those of many people i know. but as for the general population, i have to agree with you that respect is gone.
anyway, despite my rant i have to comment that there are still people who come to my restaurant that have manners and treat me with courtesy. and they get so much more courtesy, care and consideration from me as a waitress for it. with those kinds of people i don't even care if i get a shoddy tip, i'd much rather have them be polite.
maybe i'll form a politeness and courtesy alliance :happy2: |
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| occrider |
Who in their right mind would be rude to a waiter/waitress? I've had plenty of waiters/waitresses who I'm still polite too even if they didn't deserve it, my displeasure would be reflected in the tip. There are simply too many incidents of waiters/waitresses who get pissed off at a customer and get in "accidents" with their food for me to even think about pissing off a waiter/waitress (while they still have my food).
Edit: Oh and btw, by waiters and waitresses I don't mean slow waiters or waitresses, I mean complete cocks. |
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| N|te-L|fe |
| quote: | Originally posted by occrider
Who in their right mind would be rude to a waiter/waitress? I've had plenty of waiters/waitresses who I'm still polite too even if they didn't deserve it, my displeasure would be reflected in the tip. There are simply too many incidents of waiters/waitresses who get pissed off at a customer and get in "accidents" with their food for me to even think about pissing off a waiter/waitress (while they still have my food).
Edit: Oh and btw, by waiters and waitresses I don't mean slow waiters or waitresses, I mean complete cocks. |
Some people feel more important when they bash on the simple waitress or the unconsiderable gaz attendant, u know, they had a bad day so they take it on you, that is sooo pitiful:rolleyes: |
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| ahlamalek |
ok you guys won't believe me but here I go,
before entering the USA, my friends told me that no one says "goodday, hello, thank you, thanks, etc" and that I shouldn't say them too. I didn't believe them, so when I arrived at the first toll on the higway,
i said "hello" the guy said "5.50$", I gave him a 10, he gave back the change, I said, "thanks, have a nice day", the guy gave me a weird look :stongue: I left...
it was the same during the whole time I was in the US:nervous: this is weird:wtf: |
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| N|te-L|fe |
I'd like to say it's better up here :rolleyes:
Guess u have to live in a very small community, like a 2000 habitants village to get a bit friendly with everybody, otherwise its just a big jungle where strangers remains strangers |
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| 44htz |
| quote: | Originally posted by daffodil
just gotta vent... i'm a waitress and quite tired of people not saying, please or thank you, or any courteous words. i'll walk up to greet a table and not even get to say hello, i just get, "i'll have a gin and tonic. mary, what do you want?" it's not like i work in a cheap restaurant either, these people should really no better. even when ordering dinner, it's: "give me crab cakes with a baked potato." i'm begging y'all, save civilization and be civilized! |
Yes you have a good point, How depressing!
Some thoughts though:
The more expensive the restaurant the less they really have to be nice (as far as the hospitality industry goes).
I don't get what you mean when you say "these people should really (k)no(w) better". If you mean a certain group in particular, because they have more money (you said restaurant isn't cheap), then you don't understand people very well!
Don't get me wrong, I completely agree with your despair at the human race... people are fuct!:conf: |
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| SlickT |
| i'm shy as hell so its hard for me to say hello first i usually just smile at first...but i say please and thank you when i'm at a restaurant. |
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| Misty Kitty |
it seems to b a modern trend to b selfish/rude, survival of the fittest in the 21st century mebbe.
im pretty traditional, on things like this, opening doors etc saying your pleases n thank yous, i mabbe a girl but ill do it for all genders.
i hate it on the tube in london, when there is an ederly person, or a pregnant lady no one offers their seats, at this point im usually standing so cant do it myself.
i find some older people very rude, some believe it is their privialge as an elder to not que so they push in and ignor you if you say anything.
i agree with the fact that its the parents who have no manners and therefore teach the kids to be the same... my only worry is that the kids are likely to b ruder as they think its more acceptable. |
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