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doesn't anyone have manners anymore? (rant warning) (pg. 3)
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| kr00t0n |
Orbax, I got the same problem as you, apart from the standing when women enter the room, soley because women keep going on about equality, and this is one of the areas I've decided is fair grounds, don't really see why guys should have to stand.
That said, I hold the door for anyone really, give up my seats to the elderly/females (and on a packed tube, it really does make a difference) and say please/thank you a hella lot.
On the note of Americans, I get alot of tourists in the internet cafe were I work, and I can hoenstly say out of all the nationalities we get, they are the most polite, specially with 'have a nice day/evening' :) |
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| Wasted_Space |
the problem could stem from the fact that many have confused gratitude with reliance, weakness or inferiority.
a rude customer is the bane of my existence. especially those that think they know all the 'rules' and can play their little game around them and thus treat me in a condescending manner.
in all cases i try to help out the customer, with whatever their problem is and it is gratifiying when someone acknowledges the effort you have put in. other times they just grab the item, and walk off in a huff.
i can't wait til my last day at my current job (not sure when), when i get a rude, belligerent or arrogant customer, well... lets just say it won't be pretty... hahaha..
seriously though, a little courtesy goes a long way. |
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| DaveSaenz |
| quote: | Originally posted by arturob
i hate arrogance and unpolite poeple wtf... civilization is dying i`m afraid.
all the best,
fox |
Those same type of people have infected this site. I'm sad to say it....I feel you Daffodil. ;)
I've made the mistake of trying to act like those people myself, but that's not me... |
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| Azz3D |
| I think customers take advantage of that unwritten "customer is always right" rule. They abuse it so much it's not even funny. I work part time for a huge grocery store, and I see it all the time. |
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| daffodil |
| quote: | Originally posted by 44htz
Yes you have a good point, How depressing!
Some thoughts though:
The more expensive the restaurant the less they really have to be nice (as far as the hospitality industry goes).
I don't get what you mean when you say "these people should really (k)no(w) better". If you mean a certain group in particular, because they have more money (you said restaurant isn't cheap), then you don't understand people very well!
Don't get me wrong, I completely agree with your despair at the human race... people are fuct!:conf: |
you make a good point, i didn't mean to exclusively link money with knowledge of manners and poverty with rudeness. that said, wealthy people are usually raised with at least an awareness of manners and courtesy while it is more common for poorer people not to be. i know i'm treading a very fine line here and i do not want my statements to be misconstrued as snobbery because that is absolutely not my intention and i do not believe that because you're not wealthy you have no manners or awareness of them.
what i DID mean by these people should know better (and i can't believe i wrote "no" in my original post) is that i can see them being polite and considerate to the people eating with them so they obviously do know better.
regardless, it was a generalization and a little ignorant on my part, but that's what happens when you rant ;) and the restaurant is just one place where i notice the absence of courtesy and manners anyway... |
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| Streakfury |
| quote: | Originally posted by Azz3D
I think customers take advantage of that unwritten "customer is always right" rule. They abuse it so much it's not even funny. I work part time for a huge grocery store, and I see it all the time. |
I know what you mean, i just started work at a supermarket. I've only been there 2 days and I get customers ask you where these weird an wonderful products are. That isn't a problem in itself coz if I dont know i'll ask someone else, but sometimes you get right w*nkers who winge, even when you say you're new. It's like they expect you to know everything
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| b i n k u n |
I believe everyone, rich or poor, should have some work experience in the hospitality industry at some point in their life. It makes a HUGE difference in the way they treat waiters/waitresses/hosts/etc in the future. It makes you respect the people that serve you so much more and you realize, a nice word here and there makes everyone that much happier. :D
Personally, I like being nice to waiters/waitresses, especially when you know they have had a bad day and need that little encouragement. It makes my day knowing I made their day easier. |
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| hangover |
| quote: | Originally posted by daffodil
just gotta vent... i'm a waitress and quite tired of people not saying, please or thank you, or any courteous words. i'll walk up to greet a table and not even get to say hello, i just get, "i'll have a gin and tonic. mary, what do you want?" it's not like i work in a cheap restaurant either, these people should really no better. even when ordering dinner, it's: "give me crab cakes with a baked potato." i'm begging y'all, save civilization and be civilized! |
Hmmm, I thought this was a local phenomenon, but i see from the responses here that it is widespread. I couldn't agree with you more about the manners, but I wouldn't let myself get upset by it like you and orbax. They don't have manners? It's their ing problem, so screw them... No point in ruining your mood over it, is it? |
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| dj_mdma |
I work in a supermarket too, and its very annoying when people try and push in etc. Because i'm very polite, i actually find it quite difficult to tell them quite sternly to go to the back! :toothless
anyhow, since i've worked at the supermarket i'm always polite and courteous to people in the retail industry etc, cos i know how it feels.
And this passes on to people at resturants too! I'm not rich as such :p but when i went to Nobu (Top resturant in the UK at atm) i didn't feel the need to berate the waitress :p
So not all people who think they have money are ungrateful bastards :toothless |
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| pornodoll |
Yeh. Good point hangover, why let this behaviour ruin your mood. But the fact is that these s can spoil your day, only they're so dumb that they probably don't realise they can do it .... and if they did realise they wouldn't give a anyway.
Unfortunately, it appears that these idiots are past educating and probably the only thing that would make them stop and think is if you took them down a quiet alleyway and gave them a lesson.
Ok, OK, I am stooping to their level. But it might make my mood brighter for that day! |
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| Turbonium |
| quote: | Originally posted by Trancewave
One of my biggest peeves is when you go out of your way to hold the door for someone and they don't even thank or even acknowledge you. :mad:
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EXACTLY. Pisses me the hell off too. |
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| hangover |
| quote: | Originally posted by pornodoll
Yeh. Good point hangover, why let this behaviour ruin your mood. But the fact is that these s can spoil your day, only they're so dumb that they probably don't realise they can do it .... and if they did realise they wouldn't give a anyway.
Unfortunately, it appears that these idiots are past educating and probably the only thing that would make them stop and think is if you took them down a quiet alleyway and gave them a lesson.
Ok, OK, I am stooping to their level. But it might make my mood brighter for that day! |
That's what I don't understand. Ppl think they can teach someone a lesson and then everything will be fine, but what they don't get is you probably won't see that same person again, and tomorrow someone else will do it to you. So why bother? Just ignore. Like the tips they give women that if they get raped they should imagine that they're not there and it's happening to someone else... |
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