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OK. What should I do about her? (pg. 4)
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by Dj onE
NO!!...dont go to her house...unless your PSYCHO!!...she will only get freaked out if you show up unexpectively...she might have just used you for a lay (yeah there are girls like that out there)
.dJonE. |
finally a realistic answer. |
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| Theresa |
I think going over to her house, and playing the "I was truly concerned about what happened to you" game is a really great idea. The only downside is if there is an ex there or something, in which case, you may be setting yourself up for a big fight.
"Who the are you?"
If that happens, just say that you are a friend of this girl and you couldn't get a hold of her, so you came to check to see if she was ok. That would answer your question.
If she comes to the door, and no trace of another man is there, then tell her "I'm sorry to come unannounced but I was beginning to wonder what happened to you. Have you been ok?"
And then you will get some type of story. Either she was too busy, a death or whatever, or she is going to tell you that she isn't interested (that is if she's straight up.) She may lie to you, because she might not have the heart to let you know she doesn't want to continue a relationship, therefore meaning, after the conversation at her house, if she doesn't start returning your calls from then on, she wants to move on, and so should you.
It is completely innocent to go to her house, and that way she can't ignore you like she can the phone or e-mails, if that's the game she's playing. You at least deserve a ing answer at the least. If she is ing around with you, find someone else, you deserve better than that.
Hope that helps :)
P.S. to the people enjoying this poor guys pain, it is people like you who make this world an awful place to live in. How would it make you feel if something sad happened to you, and instead of trying to lend a hand, people pointed and laughed? Oh well, what goes around, comes around. |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
I think going over to her house, and playing the "I was truly concerned about what happened to you" game is a really great idea. The only downside is if there is an ex there or something, in which case, you may be setting yourself up for a big fight.
"Who the are you?"
If that happens, just say that you are a friend of this girl and you couldn't get a hold of her, so you came to check to see if she was ok. That would answer your question.
If she comes to the door, and no trace of another man is there, then tell her "I'm sorry to come unannounced but I was beginning to wonder what happened to you. Have you been ok?"
And then you will get some type of story. Either she was too busy, a death or whatever, or she is going to tell you that she isn't interested (that is if she's straight up.) She may lie to you, because she might not have the heart to let you know she doesn't want to continue a relationship, therefore meaning, after the conversation at her house, if she doesn't start returning your calls from then on, she wants to move on, and so should you.
It is completely innocent to go to her house, and that way she can't ignore you like she can the phone or e-mails, if that's the game she's playing. You at least deserve a ing answer at the least. If she is ing around with you, find someone else, you deserve better than that.
Hope that helps :)
P.S. to the people enjoying this poor guys pain, it is people like you who make this world an awful place to live in. How would it make you feel if something sad happened to you, and instead of trying to lend a hand, people pointed and laughed? Oh well, what goes around, comes around. |
i dont think he knows her well enough to have the right to try adn get in touch with ehr by saying he is worried. i once dated a guy who kept calling me after we went out and i got really annoyed. i wasnt really feeling hm to begin with but then he started calling more and more and his messages started getting frantic saying he was afraid i wasnt ok and stuff. and in the end, instead of being able to let it die quietly i had to be upfront and tell him i wasnt interested and please leave me alone cause he couldnt take a hint. |
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| MOSCHINO |
pile of ...
If girl dont call you did something wrong or she got another dick. |
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| Theresa |
Alright, well if he doesn't know her well enough to go to her house and check to see if she's ok, then maybe calling one last time and leaving a message would be a good idea. Something like, "I had a good time with you, and I am interested in seeing you again, if you want, you can give me a call, and if not, thanks for the great time!" That way, if she doesn't call, it is an unsaid 'break-up' and everyone can move on. If she does call back, then yay for you :)
And MOSCHINO, you're wrong about that. I sometimes wont call people because I am way too overwhelmed with what ever else is going on, whether it's school, work or family issues. And you never know, maybe someone died, or got sick.. don't jump to the worst conclusion. |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by butterfly
i dont think he knows her well enough to have the right to try adn get in touch with ehr by saying he is worried. i once dated a guy who kept calling me after we went out and i got really annoyed. i wasnt really feeling hm to begin with but then he started calling more and more and his messages started getting frantic saying he was afraid i wasnt ok and stuff. and in the end, instead of being able to let it die quietly i had to be upfront and tell him i wasnt interested and please leave me alone cause he couldnt take a hint. |
Here is how I think when I get this kind of thing. "Who the do you think you are that you can leave ME in limbo? You are 1/6 billionth of the population and you think you have some ing right, some special quality that sets you above and beyond the normal courtesies that govern being a person living in a huge world that you dont have to ing call me? You think im psychic? You think that because you fluttered an eyelash when I was driving that i just HAD to get the hint? Lemme tell you something..." then I go do it. The two girls that tried playing that little game with me both ended up in tears and apologizing. Was I power tripping? no, i was ing right. And they knew it.
They were both brilliant speeches, and I was able to boil it down to either they are stupid, or cold heartless bitches, and either way the are going to be miserable in life.
Im not saying im the norm, most guys take endless amounts of from women in the hopes that theyll get something out of it.
Im just saying, as a rule, be courteous, be communicative, and pretend that your actions *GASP* just might have an effect on other people! I know crazy idea. Ignoring the problem just makes other people ing miserable and leave them sitting wondering what the hell is going on.
Make a decision. Tell the other about the decision. If after a very clear and CONCISE action is laid down, and they continue, other avenues must be looked at.
This is basic Golden Rule kind of stuff here. You may think im the psycho guy youd hate to date, but if so, realize IM OUT THERE muahaha, hehe, and err on the side of being a nice human being.
Cheers |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
Here is how I think when I get this kind of thing. "Who the do you think you are that you can leave ME in limbo? You are 1/6 billionth of the population and you think you have some ing right, some special quality that sets you above and beyond the normal courtesies that govern being a person living in a huge world that you dont have to ing call me? You think im psychic? You think that because you fluttered an eyelash when I was driving that i just HAD to get the hint? Lemme tell you something..." then I go do it. The two girls that tried playing that little game with me both ended up in tears and apologizing. Was I power tripping? no, i was ing right. And they knew it.
They were both brilliant speeches, and I was able to boil it down to either they are stupid, or cold heartless bitches, and either way the are going to be miserable in life.
Im not saying im the norm, most guys take endless amounts of from women in the hopes that theyll get something out of it.
Im just saying, as a rule, be courteous, be communicative, and pretend that your actions *GASP* just might have an effect on other people! I know crazy idea. Ignoring the problem just makes other people ing miserable and leave them sitting wondering what the hell is going on.
Make a decision. Tell the other about the decision. If after a very clear and CONCISE action is laid down, and they continue, other avenues must be looked at.
This is basic Golden Rule kind of stuff here. You may think im the psycho guy youd hate to date, but if so, realize IM OUT THERE muahaha, hehe, and err on the side of being a nice human being.
Cheers |
i like the honesty and straightforwardness of this approach. the case i was describing was a little extreme casue this guy was exhibiting scary obsessiveness over me after one date and it scared me.
still, i think if she hasnt answered, he shoudl take a hint. most ppl in this world are not capable of being straightforward and confrontational. |
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| MisterOpus1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Dj onE
NO!!...dont go to her house...unless your PSYCHO!!...she will only get freaked out if you show up unexpectively...she might have just used you for a lay (yeah there are girls like that out there)
.dJonE. |
No no, don't listen to Dj onE - he doesn't know what the f$ck he's talking about! You need to go over there RIGHT NOW! Stop reading all this and get up out of your chair and go.
WAIT! You need a few supplies to help you out first. Here's a small list of things to bring that will certainly get her back. Eight foolproof tips that will always bring back the girl:
1. Flowers - don't get red roses - those are way too common. Get some other colors - preferably orange or pink.
2. Wear a nice suit. You have to look good here - look appropriate and professional.
3. Blast Green Velvet's "The Stalker (Laid Back Luke Mix)" out your car with the windows down in her driveway. Really blare it on those unforgettable lyrics, "I'm losing my mind....", and "You don't need him, you need me".... For some reason, chicks really LOVE that song!
4. A hunting knife - I would keep this in your back pocket or inside your belt line. Just in case she has a husband or boyfriend or something - it's self defense.
5. A gun - preferably a shotgun (my favorite is the 12-gauge). See #4.
6. A cell phone - just in case you have to call the police for any particular reason. You never know these days.
7. A homemade "missing you" card, written in your own blood. Could you think of any way better to show your undying love and devotion other than a handwritten letter in your very own blood? I sure can't!
8. Bring over some movies. Girls like sobbing on your shoulders over real good sappy movies. Some of these come to mind: Texas Chainsaw Massacre, Nightmare on Elm Street (preferably Part1), The Stalker, or any Halloween or Friday the 13th movies are good. Those movies where the guys always get the girls are just great!
Alright, off you go. You simply can't fail, man! Believe in yourself! |
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| MisterOpus1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by partyprincess
Sorry hon...Stop calling before you really look like a fool because she's put ads out about how annoying you are in the papers...Seriously...she's given you all the signals that she's not interested, what more do you need? Have a little self respect and call it over on this one. I'm sure you can do much better. |
DON'T LISTEN TO HER!!! DO WHAT I TOLD YOU AND IT WILL WORK!!! NOW, GO GO GO!!!!! |
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| Orbax |
| I like to wear a Scream outfit and cover the peephole with a thumb after knocking. Then I pull my knife, kick open the door, and tackle them. Then just after she starts crying, take the mask off and be like surprise! I love you! |
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| occrider |
Stupid TA's ... don't listen to all these quacks, there is only one sure fire way of getting this chick to talk to you. In TA tradition, you HAVE to write her a letter ... sebashtrick style. Be sure to do 2 things: A) Make sure she knows that she is "the ", I can't emphasize that point enough, maybe you can say it several times in the letter or capitalize the "" for emphasis. B) Invite her out to dinner with McDonalds.
See this thread for reference:
http://www.tranceaddict.com/forums/...threadid=111679
Wasn't there a seinfeld episode on all of this? Just leave a message and curse her out. |
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| MisterOpus1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
I like to wear a Scream outfit and cover the peephole with a thumb after knocking. Then I pull my knife, kick open the door, and tackle them. Then just after she starts crying, take the mask off and be like surprise! I love you! |
OOOO! Damn! That might just work too! Good plan.
Okay, so I guess you have your choice - follow my 8 step plan, or go with Orbax's scenario here. Either way, I think you'll be a winner! |
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