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"Quarter-life Crisis" for the people dat are around the age of 25 on this forum^^
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| DJ E-s*it |
Being Twenty-Something
They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared.
You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all. You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not.
You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. |
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| JohnSmith |
wow, i hear ya man. felt like you were talking directly to me, on some parts. (my friend says he got this in an email about a year ago, so i know you didn't write it)
I guess each person is different, i figured out some stuff early, like who my real friends were, and how to tell, back in grade 10. I kept the same group of friends all through the last couple of grades, when everyone tried to be my friend, and i saw through their reasons.
It's true, they were just trying to figure it out too, but I could tell they didn't really want to hang out with me.
I still have the same group of friends, i kept them all the way through 4 years of college, we stayed close. I met a few friends in college, drinking buddies and flirty girls mostly, neither of which had anything substantial to offer me. I did meet one guy though who will be a friend forever, he knows who he is.
The ty thing for me is, of those 4 guys i was friends with in highschool, one moved away to Victoria, a 4 hour drive and 2 hour ferry away. We used to be the best of friends, and now we are pretty much strangers. Then another moved, not too far this time, only 45 minutes away, but still, it was enough to break the connection.
Then, another moved away to victoria just last month (leaving me with only one real friend in my town). And guess what? he's movin to victoria in a a few days. :(
oh well.. just have to make new friends i guess, i still have lots of acquaintances, and one guy from highschool i still call on a regular basis. it's just we are so different, it's hard. I quit smoking pot, and it's always awkward when i go there and he's stoned out of his head..
We drift deeper.... life goes on..... |
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| DJ E-s*it |
| ya sorry man, forgot to mention i didnt write this, its from a email i got. Feeling excatly like this recently thought i'd share it^^ |
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| Tukan |
| If that's a 'quarter-life' crisis does that mean i'll only live to be 60? |
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| DJ E-s*it |
| i dont know.... if "quarter" means 15 at your area, in the US it means 25. then again u might just be acting like a 15 year old kid. :D |
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| whiskers |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tukan
If that's a 'quarter-life' crisis does that mean i'll only live to be 60? |
rofl, somebody failed math :D
man, i'm only 18 and i've been feeling all of those things (except the college part - does high school count?) for the past year...
, it gets colder the older you get. we all need to find comfort in ourselves or something.......
heh, DJ Tiësto - Battleship Grey just came up in winamp, so sad.... |
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| SuperFarStucker |
| quote: | Originally posted by whiskers
rofl, somebody failed math :D
man, i'm only 18 and i've been feeling all of those things (except the college part - does high school count?) for the past year...
, it gets colder the older you get. we all need to find comfort in ourselves or something.......
heh, DJ Tiësto - Battleship Grey just came up in winamp, so sad.... |
ing hell I'm only seventeen years old and I feel totally like that. Okay well not exactly but I see all that stuff positioning itself for me to feel that way by the time I'm 25.. It's positively frightening to me.... =( |
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| PhloTron |
I've felt like this for years....so 1/4 life is a long time i guess....from about 17 to now...26.
Get used to it I guess
*sigh* |
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| TranceSeeker |
| I'm impressed, I felt/feel like this from time to time.... |
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| astroboy |
I found that I could relate to that quite well apart from this bit:
| quote: | Originally posted by DJ E-s*it
You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. |
Sometimes I don't even feel like I want to be a contender or to run "the race" at all... I feel like I've been dropped in the middle of a small alley in the running of the bulls, I'm surrounded by enthusiastic runners, who are good at this and enjoy doing it... meanwhile I'm running half-heartedly, wondering how the I got here, and why the I need to run, and whether these bulls are real or figments concocted by social expectations and my imagination to make life difficult... meanwhile the bulls are gaining on me... |
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| SportTrance |
Incredible how we all can relate to that......
if you learn anything in life, its that you never stop learning......we're all on this roller coaster together.....
turn up the volume and enjoy the ride.......:cool: |
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| P4z! |
Baz Luhrman - Sunscreen Song
perfect song for this topic, listen to it. |
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