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cheating....????????? (pg. 6)
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| cdn_trance_boy |
When my ex and I broke up.( she dumped me after 5 years). I questioned everything about myself, as though somthing was wrong with me. The way I looked or the way I treated her etc... I over analyzed everything which just put me into a deep depression. I felt like a freak for a while. I now know it was just our time. I really loved her and thats why it hurt so much she wasn't just some bimbo from the club. She was more. Since we broke up a year ago I've gone on a few dates but mostly just partied.
Reading what you just wrote made me think back to how rejected I felt. It's hard when someone you've shared so much with crosses a line where you may feel there's no turning back from. In the end you have to look out for yourself and whats best for you.
In the end it's going to be his loss.
It always is............... |
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| j_spot |
| I would say dont wait. Some guy who seems decent hits on you, give it a shot, why not? worse that can happen is that u realise u like guy#1 alot more than u thought. Best case, you realise that your ex isnt all he was cracked up to be... |
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| Slylee |
i agree about a lot of stuff layla said but i got nothin against u guys since i hardly know you all...but if u know you're gonna cheat, then don't allow yourself to be tied down. u guys get all wrapped up in it and don't wanna break it off and before you know it, you're in too deep and you are cheating all the time. just be a man and break it off...no woman can FORCE u to be with her..that's bs. just remember that the girls you are playing have feelings like you. i have nothin against guys though...most of my guy friends are...that's why they're just my FRIENDS. hahaha also, there are A LOT of shiesty girls out there scheming on guys for money and these days or they're mackin to their guy's buddies. i think the percentage of girls like that is increasing gradually throughout the years. especially here in miami! damn whores. lol
btw stereoprincess...i'm telling u, DON'T take him back...i don't give a how sorry he is or feels. if he isn't speaking to you cuz he feels guilty then fine...let him be. it might very well be a plot to get u to take him back. trust me, i've done that trick! lol don't go running back and don't take his calls or any of that . i'd get together with some of your girlfriends if you have any (i don't mean that in a rude way, but when ur in a relationship for 3 and something yrs..you're bf is your only friend, which isn't cool in my book) and just go party away!! keep yourself busy...even if u just go walking with some headphones and some good tunes...NOT any of your songs with him...hehe that won't work. lol
oh yea, u wanna see a picture of my ass? here...
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/me hopes stereoprincess is laughin. |
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| j_spot |
Dammit..I was hopin to see a pic of Slylees ass...what a diassapointment. :eek: :D :eek:
I DO BREAK UP WITH THEM AFTER I CHEAT! If Im gonna do that to them then they deserve better. |
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| QuickStep |
I agree with Slylee. I dated this girl from Oregon and when I was planning to move to Chicago she cheated on me while I was visiting Chicago. I found out when I got back and it was hard for about a month and I thought that I loved her. So I got back with her and we moved to Chicago to solidify our relationship. Well that was the biggest mistake of my life(well, second biggest), she ended up seeing another d00d behind my back while living with me!!!
It's true once a cheater always a cheater. Move on with your life, and if you feel that it's still there after a while, then talk to him again. There's definitely more people for you to meet out here in the world.
Until then, you always have our fragmented advice and our ever listening ears. Good Luck Girl!
Payce |
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| StereoPrincess |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
oh yea, u wanna see a picture of my ass? here...
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/me hopes stereoprincess is laughin. |
yes, you always make me laugh.
all you guys are really cool. but j_spot you should break up BEFORE you cheat. it really sucks. |
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| j_spot |
| I know I should. And well..I wont say I will next time, cuz hopefully there wont be a next time. But I really should |
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| Aviston |
| Eeek, touchy subject we're discussing here. I personally think that to give advice on this is tough since everyone handles these things differently. I've had three serious girlfriends since highschool (not to demean anyone's highschool relationship, but for me, they didn't mean much looking back at them). One I dated for a year and a half, another I dated just shy of a year, and the last I dated for about 5 1/2 out of 6 1/2 years. I cheated on them all, the first two once a piece, and the last one a few times with the same girl. Two out of the three, the first and third, also cheated on me, both with multiple people. I can't really use the first two as examples, since neither of them to this day know I cheated on them (and I didn't really find out until after our relationship that the first cheated on me), but with my last girlfriend both of us came clean during our relationship. I told her about my episode after our first break up (it was said out of spite, ah well), and she always told me days after it happened since she had a hard time keeping things from me. I realized during this relationship that I, for one, can handle some cheating. I guess I just denote the difference between something beautiful that happens between two people who care about each other, and something physical that can happen between two people mutually attracted to one another. I do think that cheating is wrong, and should be avoided at all costs, but I also understand that things happen. Every time I cheated it wasn't because I cared about the person I was dating less, or that I didn't want to be with them. It was just something stupid that I did physically with another person. When I got cheated on, I looked at it in the same light, and realized that it just didn't bother me that much. I agree that it would be different if she was spending alot of time with this person, then it would be some sort of a mental connection too, or if she was cheating on me like every couple of months. But to just have my partner have a one night fling with someone? I can handle that. Is it for everyone? No, definately not. I guess what you need to ask yourself is if you are saddened more by the thought of what he and you did, or by the thought of not having him in your life anymore. If it's the latter, then by all means, try and give it a chance. If at worst, it won't work out, but you might be missing out on a beautiful relationship all because of stupidity on both your parts. And hey, we're all human (well, maybe not a couple of 'people' on here), which means we're all stupid every now and then. |
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| DJ_Shockwav |
| i got cheated on once... it wasn't cool... |
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| babyecstacy |
There's really no good excuse for cheating. If they did it once, it's liable to happen again. Plus, it's hard to earn somebody's trust back. I know some of you say may think that kissing isn't cheating, but technically anything physical is. Cheating is cheating no matter what the circumstance. No matter how emotionally attached you are to this person, your best bet is to move on. Some relationships do work out, but in the end you will be a much happier person if you find someone that treats you well and doesn't deceive you. You do not deserve to be walked upon. I know it may be hard, but you really shouldn't dwell on past relationships. Not every guy/girl is going to be like that. It know it's hard to cope with. I've been there, done that. A relationship without trust is nothing. Find someone who really cares and don't give up until you do.
Steph |
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| babyecstacy |
I know** typing mistake above.
Anyway, here is my story as follows.
Feelings are undeniable. In December, I got myself into a relationship that I really shouldn't have. He's been on probation, house arrest, been in rehab, you name it. I didn't know at the time that I was making a bad choice because I didn't want to believe it. He cheated on his ex-girlfriend six times before. Cheaters are sweet talkers. They try to tell you that they would never do that because they've grown up. Well, do I have news for you. He ended up getting a DUI and had to go back to rehab in March. I agreed to stay with him because I liked him that much and I did think that he was being faithful towards me. I soon learned thereafter that he had sex with this acnescarred sickass girl. It kind of puts your self esteem when they stoop that low but I didn't deserve to be treated like that in the first place. I should've known what I was getting myself into. When I look back I wish I could have but there's nothing I can do about it now except for move on and consider it a learning experience. |
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| StereoPrincess |
| would kicking the out of the chick help me get over my sadness??? and yeah i can take her no problem. there is no chance that she could hurt me in anyway. en bitch. |
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