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cheating....????????? (pg. 8)
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| StereoPrincess |
| so now he wants to come up eight hours from ottawa to where i am to talk face to face about something. he won't tell me what it is about. would you say it was good or bad?? |
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| SmackdowN |
| What i see happening is he is going to come up and be like "Oh baby I'm soo sorry, if you can just give me another chance I swear I won't do it again etc". Now its up to you whether you fall for it or not. |
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| Eugene |
| Well... there are situations when you lose control. |
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| j_spot |
| if u do meet him soon, please for your own sake, leave all knives, scissors, sharp pencials, forks far far far away from your grabbing distance. you might regret it if they arent. |
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| Slylee |
| i think it's too soon to see him sp. i know it is hard and u want to see for yourself, but i'm just saying like 9 out of 10 times, the relationship is just too scarred when something like that happens. you were with him for so long and he cheated on you. it would be different if the relationship is new. but this is serious . i think you need time to think about what you want. under any other circumstance, i would say listen to your heart, but in this case, you need to listen to your mind. it's your mind that has logic and reason and all that. your heart doesn't. your heart is based on emotions. right now you are full of them. just take some time out and chill. but you probably won't do this. haha i know this situation all too well. also, don't listen to his bull dude. in no way am i saying that he's not sorry or any of that. but right now he is desperate to get you back from what it seems. so telling you that he has to "talk to you" or saying like, "don't call me, i don't deserve to talk to you, bla bla bla" is just typical. he needs to know he ed up royally and you're not about to just take him back so soon or at all for that matter. make him earn your respect and trust and love back over TIME...A LOT of it. you are too good for that crap. |
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| ftnb |
| ive never cheated on any of my girlfriends.... but ive been cheated on before.... slimy ing bitch's... a rock has more feelings than they ever well... even though one of my girlfriends cheated on me once, but she was uhh ..kinda *rollin* and ..... i let that one pass and everything went on fine..even though she had a guilt trip for like half a year... but n'uff said.. |
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| hypronix |
| quote: | Originally posted by Eugene
Well... there are situations when you lose control. |
(I still like this puppyu..lol!)
NO! You are not allowed to lose your control, no matter what is the situation:whip: . How would U feel? |
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| Eugene |
| hypronix, are you male or female? :D I agree with you. |
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| Miss Proximus |
Hey princess....sorry I'm this late but I was @ my sister's for 3 days and she doesn't have tv nor a computer (!!!!!!hehe), so I could not check TA for 3 whole dayz :S
I dunno if ur b/f has already come to see you, but I just wanna say that I agree w/ most people here...him cheating is certainly not doing ur relationship any good, and in most cases it's useless to continue the relationship. however, you guys have been together for over 3 years, which is, I think, a really long time.
I have never cheated on any of my b/f's, but I do believe that in some cases cheating doesn't have to harm the relationship, because the cheater might "refresh" his views upon the relationship and realize (again) that you are the person that he/she really really wants to be with. cheating can sometimes be this "cry for help"(I know it sounds stupid) because the cheater is not able to talk about his/her feelings about the relationship (for example, if the relationship gets boring or smth like that) and he/her is afraid to deal with it/ start thinking about it....does this makes sense? this is so hard to put in english damnit.and I don't know any polish :)....
Anywayz..what I mean is, that at a certain point in my relationship (we are together almost 2,5 yrs now) I was confused because my b/f was working 60 hrs a week, we only saw eachother in bed (and to SLEEP, not to do the nice things:D) he was totally neglecting me..so I started to have feelings for this other guy and he started to suspect it.so it got worse and worse and I didn't want to talk to him, because I was afraid to lose him, but I had a long and enervating chat with my mum (she good @ things like that) and she told me "it's ok to fall in love w/ someone else if you're in a realtionship...as long as you don't do anything w/ those feelings"
so she got me thinking and I decided to see what I felt for this other guy.....which was pure friendship..I was not in love, I was just trying to ignore the fact that my relationship w/ ma b/f was not going very well..so we sat down and talked...decided to make more time for eachother and do things together (like we always used to do) and now..it's all good again....we're a couple again :)
anywaz...this doesn't help you I know :( sorry :(
but I just wanna say....good luck, sit down and talk...but make sure that you are both completely honest, because if there's something still burried deep down in your/his heart...it will happen again....
and remember...you are still young, and you might never meet ur soulmate...but if you will....you still have years and years to look for him (or accidentally bump into him :))
best of luck babez |
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| StereoPrincess |
| just pisses me off that i might have to give up this three years of awesome times for this. and i could have just as easily found someone else. so many missed oppertunities. |
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| Daffer |
| Well I've never cheated on my gf coz i think that's just too stupid, problem here i that from 4 girls i've had relationships with have cheated on me at least once. Of course I totally lost the confidence in them and even if I tried to have a normal relationship again it was never the same thing, so...on what should be done? i dunno but a person who cheats definetly does not know the value of a good relationship or else does not know the love given...but that's just my opinion anyways I can't say that all people are the same I stillbelieve that I'll find a girl who does not make those things....still looking and haven't found. |
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| hypronix |
well, even if you take him back (princess), your relationship will never be the same. You can't offer him the same confidence as before, and it'll die slowly. A sudden end is better for both.
But, then...it's up to you. As much as we would like to help you, we do not know how deeply you were in love, or how everything was between you guys..so after all YOU are the only one to take this decision.
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oh, Eugene...I'm a male..just for the record! :cool: |
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