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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by astroboy
Now that's good advice for everyone. Just put all your cards on the table and tell it like it is. That way there would be no mind games. |
Good advice if you can follow it... seems that the people who say they do it distinctly outnumber the ones who actually do it.
EDIT: Something I just thought of, in addition to steering clear of the drama queens, be wary of the ones who talk about their past relationships like they were a sweet angel and just got minded... there's no such thing as a perfect boy/girlfriend, and the blame game should be an indicator that they haven't admitted their mistakes and hence, haven't learned from them.
Mind you, I'm not trying to generalize, just pointing out a dangerous pattern of behaviour that we guys often seem to mistake for vulnerability. For anyone who's ever been sucked in by a rebounder, you know what I'm talkin' about. /off-topic /hijack :p |
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| anuneventrade |
| quote: | Originally posted by Shad0wmaster
You're my type, anuneventrade... :p |
Am I now? :stongue: You've figured that out from my two posts (now three) in this thread? :toothless What if I told you I look like a horribly ugly evil munchkin?! Am I still your type? :haha:
A lot of people I encounter at my job only want sex, and I know this. This is why I pay no mind to the comments I get at work. Besides, I have difficulty giving a complete stranger my number. I need to at least talk to the person for a while, find out if they're decent. Unfortunately, I was the victim of a mind game that was played for about two months just a week and a half ago, but once I realized that I got out of that situation, and thankfully, someone was there to make me forget about all of that crap :) |
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| Shad0wmaster |
WHOA there
Relax, I was kidding! :eek: I guess this is the new rule for male/female interaction on TA...guy attempts to say something reasonably nice to girl, girl almost flames guy...yah, makes sense.
:haha:
It's all good :toothless |
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| anuneventrade |
| quote: | Originally posted by Shad0wmaster
WHOA there
Relax, I was kidding! :eek: I guess this is the new rule for male/female interaction on TA...guy attempts to say something reasonably nice to girl, girl almost flames guy...yah, makes sense.
:haha:
It's all good :toothless |
Can no one take a joke anymore? I was teasing right back! :stongue: |
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| Shad0wmaster |
| I know, so was I. :toothless |
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| BobbyV |
| girls AND guys want sex. i love the way women always try to make it look like the guy is the bad one all the time, by only wanting a quickie with some girl from a club. but it goes the other way too. there's girls that go to clubs that WANT to get picked up by some guy, and they want to get layed just as (if not more than, i've heard) much as the guy does. it doesn't take a brain surgeon to figure out which girls to find when you're looking for sex or if you're looking for a long term thing. and if a girl is talking to a dick at a club, she knows she's gonna give it up for him that night. it's not that hard to understand. i've found that, talking to a lot of friends, and talk radio as well, that basically (a large number of)women want guys to take them home, hump the crap out of them, then call them a week later. women like the abuse (some women that is). because of course everyone is different, but you get the picture. as for the mind games, i hate them just as much as every guy does, they get old REALLY fast, but i guess that's life. i tend to stay away from that b.s., i just tell it like it is, and most of the time the games disappear. a great tactic. |
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| u4ea:[soulstar] |
maybe those gurls should just wore a sign: "I wanna get boinked!"
eliminate the trouble for those guys in figuring which is which. ;) |
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| DigiNut |
Everybody wants sex, guy or girl, the main difference is that some people just need more time to build up to that. But these days we demand instant gratification, it used to be the 3rd date rule and now it's probably the 1st date rule, by the end of the night you must either be pounding it on the living room couch or giving each other the "let's just be friends" speech. Again with that black-and-white dichotomy that really just makes things more complicated.
I'm definitely in the "slow" camp, and the problem I have is that most of the girls who are confident enough to let me know that they're interested aren't also patient enough to give me time to get comfortable. I'm sure a lot of females have the same problem with guys, and eventually decide to be "easy" because they're tired of all of it.
Strangely enough, it seems to be the much younger, immature ones that do things right when it comes to the physical stuff... too bad they're emotional nightmares.
Honestly, what's the point of all the mind games... it's so hard to say "I like you?" Yes, you may sound like a 14-year-old, for about 3 seconds, but then at least I know that (a) there's a point in pursuing it, and (b) you're not a total slut. |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
I'm definitely in the "slow" camp, and the problem I have is that most of the girls who are confident enough to let me know that they're interested aren't also patient enough to give me time to get comfortable. |
are u sure ur not a female robot? :conf: |
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| Shad0wmaster |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
I'm definitely in the "slow" camp, and the problem I have is that most of the girls who are confident enough to let me know that they're interested aren't also patient enough to give me time to get comfortable.
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Same thing with me. |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
are u sure ur not a female robot? :conf: |
Hey, it's not like I'm squeamish and I don't watch a lot of porn or something, it's just that I wasn't brought up to idolize the "player". I'd be uncomfortable with a girl who wanted to have sex on the first night without even fooling around first - it's happened - or perhaps I should say, it could have happened but didn't. Some people just aren't like that, and I don't think it makes sense to say that those people are somehow not "real" men. I honestly don't have it in me to play games or be phoney.
...which, as I allude to in my sig, is an admirable but generally useless trait. But we are who we are.
And don't worry, I know you were joking. :p |
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| Alccode |
All this talk is good, but if one just wishes to get away from it all, you can have the comforting thought that Yes, it is possible.
If you simply stop caring altogether, all these 1001 relationship problems just vanish. It's quite easy! |
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